you're probably repeating the same old habits that prevent you from getting a better success on this. Generally speaking, if the girl doesn't feel you're grounded and being colorful social butterfly there's less meaning for her to be sexually attracted to you at the first place

Secondly, it depends on how she relates you with her past experiences with the guys or the stories she has been told. There's only that much thing you can do to attract a girl and ultimately its up to her whether she's open up to be available for you

If you're still doubtful with your attractiveness as a person, maybe there's an underneath deeper reason more than that

I agree, it can be a form of idealized projection.

You can always choose to talk to a 32 year old single mom when you buy some groceries at speedmart

we don't need to mess with where we earn money