u cant really answer this Q until the time comes....
before the time comes,u can say whatever.....and when the times comes, u will face ALOT of uneasy thing and this is DAILLY thinggy,

This post has been edited by poco loco: Jun 17 2025, 04:34 AM

Living with my 80 plus parents now. Both healthy. Walking up 3 levels almost daily. I'm selling my other house to buy a lift apartment.
Previously my father had blood clot in his head and caused him to forget lots of things, including family, name, home. But has since recovered after removing the blood clot. He needs tongkat to walk, but other than the weaken legs, he seems to fully recovered.
If I didn't live with my parents, this recoverable incident could have gotten way worst, into something terribly wrong.

same as me..

other siblings all cuci tangan ady.. leaving me as the youngest to take care . 5 yrs w sick mom, now w sick dad . got merid but never had kid until now since too preoccupied with taking care of them . can't even start proper own family. said to waifu, u can go if u want, this life should be this hard for u, for now she still sticking around..

dunno leh.. high life expectancy is either a curse or a blessing ..

80 + can walk, that's impressive .

mine 76 , depend on wheelchair, always fall if left unguarded, end up pampers 24/7 and need toilet assist ...

With current society prefers single child will put more pressure to the kid...

imagine the kid married and wife also single kid....indirectly this couple needs to take care 4 elders...if grandparents still around then it is 8..... if very rich then can hire caretakers or old folk home but emotionally still need to support 8 persons

i am char siew, i will not sacrifice my career and move overseas if there is opportunity, i will not go back to the small town which cant even pay half of what i am earning. The best i could do for my parents is monetary support and hire caretaker when the time comes

either u work hard enough to send them stay in 6-7k/month high keras nursing home

or u tell them to use their remaining savings for themselves to stay in high keras nursing home

Nowaday many char sui kid. They thought by having kids, they will take care of them when old, mana tau....

I am not a char siew

Wouldn't mind moving in staying with them or getting them over. Had experience in caring for bedridden grandparent and had seen how fast bodies can deteriorate for the elderly.

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Deterioration start being rampant at 60 and accelerates over age, despite how healthy they seem. Had a grandpa that can still climb fences and do gardening using spades at 82; but after being prescribed by some miracle pills by one cuckoo uncle - he got sick, bedridden, and passed on within a month.

News mention couple only, they could be childless?

anyway a lot ktard as usual never read and assume they had char siew kids

What Are the Reasons Parents Don’t Stay with Their Children?

1)Parents are unwilling to relocate because they are used to village life.

2)Children worry their parents will interfere with their household if they live together.

These are among the most common reasons why the older generation doesn’t live with the younger one. But if these are the only obstacles, why not compromise? Why not work to remove them so both generations can coexist under one roof?

1) Parents unwilling to relocate due to attachment to village life?
Staying with your children in the city won’t kill you. But forcing your children to return to the village could severely limit their ability to earn a living and build a future. If that happens, you suffer, and so do your descendants. When weighing the risks and rewards, the choice is obvious. Don’t blame your children if you choose to be stubborn and selfish. Downgrading their lives for your personal comfort may come at the cost of future generations.

2) Children worried that parents will interfere in their household?
If your children are willing to take you in, respect their boundaries. Give them and their spouses space. The fear often stems from the many stories of parent-in-law conflicts. But if the older generation is willing to meet the younger generation halfway, the younger generation will likely do the same. Drop the attitude of “I’m the parent, so I’m always right.” If being right is more important than being close, then be prepared to cry yourself a river in your old age.

This post has been edited by nihility: Jun 17 2025, 09:49 AM

U r very lucky, wifes normally dont want to stay with inlaws, but r ok with their own parents. Especially the younger generations.

If one is rich but no longer has dependants, but health deteriorating n getting ageing problems, is there any way to have financial tools to manage elder care services?

this is very dependent on how is their lifestyle in the past. my parents now are reaching 70s and thankfully since they are quite mobile since retiring, they are still doing well in terms of mobility and other needs.

but another case based on my fiance's parents, where i can see the stark difference where since her father is ex marathoner so while he has severe muscle atrophy due to old age, he can still climb stairs and walk long distance with little trouble. her mum however who havent been exercising, even a slight incline on the ground and already struggling.

Recently relocated my old 70+ year old parents from JB to Rawang to stay close to me. Of course wife and mother can't get along so stay together is not an option so bought a house nearby if emergency can get to them in few mins. Weekend bring them to my place for a few hours play with my kids makan etc, take them to hospital visits. Yeah doing the best i can to manage both the family who made me and the family which i made.

Its not easy you have to go through all that, I can only imagine. Thats like hell dragging experience for you.
I'm the one who totally cut off ties with them, also all of my relatives. Poof gone, consider me a missing person. LOL. It didn't just happened without a reason, a huge let down n disrespect happening that have caused it.
Condemn me, idc. Yes, Im a char siew. I'm living life on my own terms with wife reasoning of no '道德绑架 = Moral kidnapping'.


Hey, char siew buddy

Oh, ya'll thinking just easy to get them to stay at nursing home. Nursing homes these days ain't cheap.. Monthly at least 2-5k, some may goes up to 8-9k per month.


This post has been edited by rocketaz: Jun 17 2025, 03:29 PM

old ppl smell

its true. if you go for good ones.

https://codeblue.galencentre.org/2022/05/uo...as-for-seniors/

example. senior daycare membership starts from 3500 per month

Husband suddenly heart attack at kitchen,wife parkinson bedridden nobody give food and died too