As someone who has done it with a sick semi-bedridden parent, let me tell you, saying it's difficult is an understatement. It will forever change you, mentally especially. Non of my sibling pitched in, I was a one-man army. I am forever traumatized. There's a constant worry at the back of my head that dreads the day another one of my family members gets sick. I'm getting older now, so I'm unable to soldier on like when I was younger. The hate for the people who should be helping but not, festers in your heart. You wish you can cut off ties totally with them. Whenever this topic comes up, like now reading this thread, it triggers a phobia and anger at the same time. Though I admit, the experience has matured my character, like I now have the patience of a monk, I would not wish what I experienced on anybody else.

i am char siew, i will not sacrifice my career and move overseas if there is opportunity, i will not go back to the small town which cant even pay half of what i am earning. The best i could do for my parents is monetary support and hire caretaker when the time comes