Please ask yourself, can you live with your parents when they are old and need your help even you have a family?
Will you only to marry your wife on condition she can live together with your parents?
Can you work nearby to your parents so that you can take care of them?

How are you arrange to help your old parents?
How can we do something to help our old parents?

Our parents feed and take care their kids from at least 17 years (high school) or to 22 years (college year),
can their kids feed and take care their parents 17 years?



https://www.malaymail.com/news/malaysia/202...20-years/180404


Lonely deaths: Raub couple found lifeless in shophouse, post-mortem confirms heart attacks; wife suffered Parkinson’s for 20 years


Sunday, 15 Jun 2025 10:11 AM MYT

KUANTAN, June 15 — An elderly couple was found dead in their home in a shophouse in Kampung Sungai Ruan, Raub, yesterday.

Raub district police chief Superintendent Mohd Shahril Abd Rahman said the body of Wong Tong Seng, 75, was found lying in front of the kitchen sink and infested
with maggots while the body of his wife, Loh Kam Ngo, 73, was found lying at the edge of the bed in one of the rooms.

“The initial inspection found no elements of crime and the house was in good condition,” he said in a statement yesterday.

He said further investigations and post-mortem results conducted at the Raub Hospital found that the cause of death for both victims was
due to Acute Coronary Syndrome (heart attack).

He also said that the woman had been suffering from Parkinson’s disease for the past 20 years, while her husband was reported to have received treatment for his heart
at Klinik Kesihatan Ulu Gali, and the case was classified as sudden death. — Bernama

This post has been edited by Jened: Jun 19 2025, 11:20 AM

Deswai work hard so that u can hire caretaker or send them to high keras care centre

so TS. you live along with your grandparents with your parents under one roof when you are small as well? it is easier to swallow this way of living, if you have been living it since young and have a positive experience..

So many questions

Exam kah?

The kids never called back to check ??

problem is the parents dont want to follow where your live.
kampung dont have much job opportunities, so how this youngster could have a good life there?

if got money send to nursing home

2025 liao. Set up CCTV with motion sensor at home la.

Sorry to say, i will never forfeit my parents for my wife, even if my wife is lisa, jlaw or whoever. They dont agree with this, then they can go f someone else.

Tesla Optimus may able to solve your concern.

yes have to go bek if parents need you

Some old ppl stubborn, dunwan go nursing

Jangan tanya soalan susah /s

okay here something

1. Yes i can live with my parent if no marry and i am okay, i still uphold filial piety even it is toxic

2. It depend, i have once a good friend say she is willing, too bad fate / destiny say otherwise

3. Also depend, it is very super normal to know some child work far far away for money and visit parent in 6 month - 12 month (already happen in 1970) , provide that they are not super toxic filial piety parent

4. i know now modern time, can sense and began to see some kid sent their parent to old folks home, some say it is cruel, some say it is necessary due to inflation and unable to give attention due to wife / child / husband , already happen in my father side family but a very super bad reason, some say send old folks home so they wont be lonely and feel more connection people who around their age
,well, it is not very surprise to see some LUXURY OLD FOLKS HOME TOO.

5. There are little thing u cannot do btw, if your parent happen to be toxic filial piety and toxic behavior, there is little but to resent them, it is number 1 or 2nd reason why ppl dump them in hospital and go oversea travel under the guise of CNY / Hari Raya, seen plenty when i go hospital during raya with my father for check up, can see the endless ppl of elderly and sometime can heard them cry where is their children

Ayam parents both into late 70s
Took them to stay in my house since covid time
Hometown house still keep as emergency plan b if ayam suddenly dieded and no charsiew willing to take care
Wife nagging conlanfirm
So ayam bought another house nearby as weekend getaway
Settled
Kekwa

Living with them to help them requires almost paying/giving 24 HOURS ATTENTION like what paying a nursing home provides, can you do it?

As someone who has done it with a sick semi-bedridden parent, let me tell you, saying it's difficult is an understatement. It will forever change you, mentally especially. Non of my sibling pitched in, I was a one-man army. I am forever traumatized. There's a constant worry at the back of my head that dreads the day another one of my family members gets sick. I'm getting older now, so I'm unable to soldier on like when I was younger. The hate for the people who should be helping but not, festers in your heart. You wish you can cut off ties totally with them. Whenever this topic comes up, like now reading this thread, it triggers a phobia and anger at the same time. Though I admit, the experience has matured my character, like I now have the patience of a monk, I would not wish what I experienced on anybody else.

Give birth to char siew better.

just send it to nursing home. its better coz staff are trained to handle them. your parents also can converse with his/er peers than sitting at home unsupervised, kena scammed, etc.

that stigma about send to nursing home really need to go away.

really lucky to have such an understanding wife who's okay with living with my mom. they get along so well that people often think she's her daughter. feels like i must've done something right in a past life..