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Cubalagi
post Jun 1 2025, 10:57 AM

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Care to explain why you feel platonic vibes?

Was he too reserved? Or talk too much? Or talk boring things?

Or the way he treats you at the date?

Or maybe its his physical appearance?






Cubalagi
post Jun 1 2025, 12:43 PM

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QUOTE(parisiansky @ Jun 1 2025, 11:08 AM)
When we were talking on the phone, he was very lively, cheeky n flirty but when we met in person he became slightly serious n didn't flirt at all. Really felt like I was talking to a friend.

I forgot to mention that we had a 10 min video call after talking on the phone that day so if he was OK with our video call interaction, why was he acting that way during our date? I'm really confused n the reason I posted this is coz I need to know what precautions I need to take to ensure that this won't happen again when I talk to other guys in future.

This was totally out of my expectation coz I've already done all the necessary vibe check prior to the date.
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2 possibilities:

1. He finally met you in person and didnt like what he sees

2. He screwed up on the first date. Pretty common also. Could be nervousness, inexperience.





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post Jun 2 2025, 12:25 AM

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QUOTE(parisiansky @ Jun 1 2025, 12:50 PM)
He finally met you in person and didnt like what he sees - > He saw me during our brief vid call. If he didn't like what he saw, he could have cancelled the date so this might not the reason. Very likely it's the 2nd possibility coz he's told me that he only has 2 exes so far.
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If u think its the second, isnt it too hasty to give up on just one date?

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post Jun 5 2025, 07:32 AM

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QUOTE(parisiansky @ Jun 3 2025, 03:24 PM)
For me, I have no problem with deciding when I should stop scrolling. It's the guy that I'm seeing that worries me. Yeah he could promise me that he'll stop using dating apps once we're official but you'll never know if he still continues swiping on not just one but several other apps. This is probably 1 of the cons of dating the person that u knew frm dating apps.
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Me and my gf have each others phones passwords. We can check if we want.


 

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