Hi everyone,

I’m helping an online friend (age 23) who’s currently in a difficult situation.

She’s from a northern state in Malaysia and is working in Singapore.


Recently, she found out she’s pregnant, but unfortunately, she and her boyfriend have already broken up.

Only a few of her online friends (including me) know about her situation. Her family doesn’t know yet, and she’s really struggling with how to inform her parents.

Because the cost of giving birth in Singapore is very high, she’s planning to return to her hometown to deliver the baby.

But before that, she knows she needs to tell her parents — and she’s scared, unsure how to start the conversation, and afraid of how they might react.

Have any of you gone through something similar or know someone who has?


How can she gently and honestly break the news to her parents?
Any advice or examples of what to say would really help.

Thanks in advance.

14 floor

Online friend = TS

I am a man

You're the father Luke
Be responsible lah

Why you breakup with your baby mama?

ayam tatau, ayam virgin.

just tell

ts could marry her.

Father is u, man up la tibai.

If u have to assert then u must be ghey

how sure she is the baby is his ex? got test dna alredy anot? if confirm then go talk to ex la. it's his baby

if he willing to settle for the baby then ok la

if he doesn't then your fren only 2 choices - keep or abort

if keep then must discuss with her parents

This post has been edited by DarkAeon: May 16 2025, 12:09 PM

question is who pancut dalam? her ex boyfriend?

then go tell it to ex boyfriend, ask him become her boyfriend back and ask that "boyfriend" take responsibility - or else 14 floor

why didnt drop it when still early ?

no matter how or which way sure kena jor from family.
Parent will take care and she continue work in sg?

unless you are planning to abort the child, kasi tahu jelah.
most of the time wont get disown, the baby are still darah daging of the family what.

the family can always says this is anak angkat if they dont want other to know. anak angkat is common in the old days as there are parents cant afford to take care of the child, so the riches will take care of them.

This post has been edited by zerorating: May 16 2025, 12:15 PM

ukeke

ts can adopt the baby

kalau cantik, TS boleh consider buy 1 free 1. Berbaloi

Which type ?

this.. max's simp

Work Permit in SG cannot get pregnant. Will be deported

Ask her to tell the parents straight. How old already still can't tell such stuff? Wtf ?

UNKER TS dapat benda free ni

PJng rezeki jangan ditolak

C

Only Malaysian can
Many factory operator do this since 30 years ago...


After deliver,rest maybe 1 month or whatever days,continue work until retired also happen

Other cannot

Under 6 weeks, just abort. End story.

Above 6 weeks, inform Ex then parent. Its complicated.

I just know her few days ago.


Baby inside tummy around 3 months...

So who is the father?

Take responsibility la TS.

This sounds like something only Kesvani would have done to that woman.

Was Kesvani the boyfriend?

Ex bf enjoy test drive

Enjoy shoot inside

Now bear the consequence

This why if you have morals don't simply piap out of wedlock when no longterm commitment.

I think nowadays is very common...


FWB,Situantionship....


This case should be no wear condom or condom leaking

I can predict sure like that la. Just drop to parents.

Instead of worry if can take care can afford or not. Dah say mai keep baby deliver in hometown to cut cost. And just worry about how to tell parents. lol.

Dear Mom and Dad,

I hope you're both doing well. I'm writing this letter with a lot of courage because I need to share something very important with you. I ask that you please read this with an open heart and try to understand where I’m coming from.

I want to tell you honestly — I’m pregnant.
The baby is from my previous relationship, but we have already broken up. I understand this may come as a shock and that it might be very hard for you to accept. Please know that I didn’t make this decision lightly. I have thought a lot about it and I’m ready to take responsibility.

I’m 22 now. I know I’m still young, but I’ve grown and learned a lot. I’ve made mistakes, but I also want to face the consequences with maturity. What I hope for most is that you can respect my decision and not be angry with me.

I’m not expecting full support or immediate acceptance, but I do hope you can try to understand that I’m trying to be responsible and not run away. I may return home to deliver the baby, and I truly hope that when the time comes, I can count on your understanding and guidance.

I’ll always be your daughter, and I still cherish our family very much. Please believe me when I say this isn’t an act of rebellion — it’s a step forward that I’m trying to take with courage.

Thank you for reading this letter. I hope we can talk soon, calmly and openly.

With love,
Your daughter




Like this can?

Some mistake you carry for the rest of your life.
All you can do is turn it into a blessing

Not all. Some kena revoke

Especially with her dodgy background - not married. No father - easy target. Will create social problem in the country

Potatolala this is your chance

easy la....
just wait till deliver the baby and back to home town....
show up at front door surprise parent with grandchild...

Just drop the baby to the parents and continue enjoy life in Singapore.

Just donate the baby lah, many childless couple in Malaysia

Chatgpt or Grok?

The baby cannot get birth certificate of sg lah even she want to deliver in sg hospital

He/she got 5 stars, you think age 23 ke

I can be the father , DM me

I think I have seen this a few times

For real lol

I read the title, I thought Ukeke tered.

Anyway, just tell direct la. Not like you can hide unless you're not going to have the baby. Reaction will come but they will accept it eventually.

abort it,settle
i mean tell her parent and then abort it jer
bcause facking is part of life

This post has been edited by poco loco: May 16 2025, 12:56 PM

Too shock later

3 months already baby

how many month also ABORT IT....lain kali when know faster do it,,tunggu lagi lama,lagi sakit la

Your hometown or you work at sg also?

Abortion is allowed up to 24 weeks of gestation.


Beyond this period, it is only permitted if the pregnancy endangers the mother's life or if the fetus has severe abnormalities.




Are you ok?

How old are you?

Work at sg also?

at the end need to decide

1. want the baby or
2. dont want the baby

tell ex bf, ask him to settle
if cannot settle, escalate to both side parents
if cannot settle, escalate to an independent party
since yr friend is 23 yo, i suggest tell her parent

jangan malu telling the truth and asking for help

basically
1. confirm ex boyfriend is the producer of the baby maybe need conduct DNA test
2. what the producers (girl and ex bf and their family) willing to sacrific or offer? money, time, love, care?
3. make decision

Baby is not a joke. U have to live with it for at least 18 years. Care for it for at least 18 years.

I always tell my friend, if not ready, just abort. Its better to end the baby life early then to bring it into the world, but u cant take care of it properly.

Tell or dun tell sooner or later will also know one...better tell early. ..if too young. Parents could also give advise

She is still single?

different bots diff personalities … so I suspected it’s C….
After few round of tai chi .. ChatGPT admitted it could b him! He’s nicer, grok style kinda brutal n rough like tis it says 😂

Hey Mom, Dad —

So, I’m just gonna say it: I’m pregnant.

Yeah, I know. Big news. Deep breath.

It’s from someone I used to be with. We’re not together anymore, and honestly, that’s probably for the best. But I’m keeping the baby. I’ve thought about it, a lot. And no, it’s not some “oops I wasn’t thinking” thing. I was thinking — life just doesn’t always follow the plan.

I’m 22. Not a kid anymore. I know this is gonna hit you hard. You’re probably disappointed, maybe even mad. That’s fair. I get it. But please, don’t shut me out.

I’m not asking for a parade or for everything to suddenly be okay. I’m just asking you to try to understand. I’m owning this. I’m not running, not hiding.

I might come back home to have the baby — if that’s something you’ll allow. I hope we can talk like grownups and figure it out. You’re still my parents. I still love you. I’m not trying to rebel — I’m just trying to move forward without losing you in the process.

Let me know if you’re ready to talk.

—Your daughter

ask /ktard buy 1 free 1 ok bo?

Slightly off-topic but when it comes to Malaysia's citizenship for the baby, there's a slight issue if a single female parent give birth from an unregistered foreign husband, right?

lol ur lucky day! Buy 1 free 1!

I know of a few friends who got pregnant before marriage, but all of them were still with their boyfriends that time, so they could still get married after the parents found out.

But your friend's situation might give her parents a heart attack. Either way, should still sit down with the parents and tell them beforehand that she has something that might shock them, and to only proceed when the parents have prepared mentally for the worst.

Yea.......and if she has a sister as well, I can score another

As far as I know, will just follow the citizenship of the mother. I have a friend who got piaped by Yindian citizen then hit and run. As far as I know, her child is a Malaysian.

.. n if her mom still young n available score yet another!

if so abort it.
still early consider ok.

Honestly, there are far too many like this.

https://theedgemalaysia.com/node/747318

Must've mixed it up, it's if born overseas then it becomes a little bit complicated. Local birth should be fine I guess.
Maybe need to jump through some extra hoops due to the out of wedlock part.

Keep, berani buat berani tanggung
Also abortion is not something to taken lightly, it will affect the women mentally and emotionally in the long run

How does she know he's the one that get her pregnant?

Sorry to sound skeptical, but it's for the better for both parties.

You don't want to have a "pak sanggup" that will later on realize it's not his child, it will lead to trouble down the line.


This post has been edited by R0ADTAX: May 16 2025, 01:34 PM

First, tell the ex boyfriend first and see the reaction. Then, tell the parents and see the reaction.

Wow..the list is endless, can move until 1st cousins and nieces

3 solutions.

1. Inform the ex about it and tell him to take responsibility.
2. If ex agreed, inform her parents.
3. After that, inform the ex's parents.

Happy merrily ending.

However, the ex refused to acknowledged, she has to inform her parents and let them decide. If the parents willing to help raise their future grand kid, also a good ending.

If the parents refused to even acknowledge the future grand kid, adoption is only way.

Never ever opt for abortion. More regrets later.

definitely have to identify the baby father and approach the problem together… whether he accepts is another matter because the birth certificate requires both parents name… only then can identify the baby’s future citizenship… if muslim, it becomes more complicated, so better settle all these fast

Parents heart attack n collapse.

Most of the marriage after pregnant cases I know end up in divorce. Furthermore, TS's friend has already broke up, means even bigger underlying issue, even if married 99.99% will divorce again. Better not get married, instead raise the kid herself if she really wants to bring the kid to this world.

Very disappointed with the comments especially first page. It's a baby, it's a human life and yet you guys talk like an object. Disgusting

Your friend (the lady) first she must calm down and think throughly before telling the ex and parents.

Yeah… n grandma, baru 60 still young n beautiful

That is pushing it abit, but who knows right

Rite!

just give birth to the child and life goes on.

with an extra cute baby in the family

find some nerd guy to eat the dead cat.

Same as my cousin years ago.

She slept with her ex and got preggy. The ex ran away. His family refused to acknowledged the kid. She finally gave birth to a naughty and cheeky girl. Her dad loved her to bits. But her mom refused to acknowledged her. Probably due to traditional upbringing.

Anyway, when she finally got married to someone else, the ex came and caused problems at the wedding venue. Her dad and new husband beat up the loser until his own mother unable to recognized him. Her friends too scolded him like no tomorrow.

That was 10 years ago. Today the little girl is already 16 and still cheeky and cute.

no matter how also need to face parents.

make it a quick pain

straight go back hometown and talk to parents, together sort out a plan.

don't delay

Likewise same trouble in M'sia

No way to be gentle about it. Just have to tell her parents straight up.

Sure they will be surprised and angry but as a parent they will do their best to take care of their child and manage the situation.

Bagitau je then family will go to the male side flip table. Dowan marry nvm but need compensate le, else report as rape le so simple also need teach meh. Else go court sue for child support every month few k, if dowan follow court order then garnish from his bank account lo

As for illegitimate child, section 3(2) of the 1950 Act provides as follows: If any person neglects or refuses to maintain an illegitimate child of his which is unable to maintain itself, a court, upon due proof thereof, may order such person to make such monthly allowance as to the court seems reasonable.

Malaysian law

Both biological parents are legally obligated to provide financial support until a child reaches 21 years old. You can apply for a maintenance order from the court to ensure that the biological father fulfils this responsibili

Singapore law


Usually those old folks and less educated people won't go demand alimony and diam diam settle ownself coz tak tahu baca and dowan everyone know and malu, end up the guy run Scott free

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This post has been edited by submergedx: May 16 2025, 02:41 PM

eh 3 days y u bother

Honesty is the best policy.

pandai buat pandai tanggung la
tell the parents straight la

all talk but still no pic....
pic or it dint happen

she already discuss with the bastard?
if the bastard not going to be responsible for it.

Then ABORT!.

otherwise go back to North and diam diam raise the kid alone - lagi sakit jiwa.

just tell the truth to her parent la.

below 6 weeks still can do the bad thing. after 6 weeks, cannot d.

Singapore abortion is legal right?

TS, be responsible. go to your future in law and explain to them..