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 Single for too long or not interested

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parisiansky
post May 28 2025, 02:24 PM

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TS, are u still seeing her?
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post May 28 2025, 05:13 PM

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QUOTE(Mr.Ballz @ May 28 2025, 02:43 PM)
Yep coming this friday. But also doing self reflection these few days. Whether i should continue or cut off
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Glad to hear that from you. Hope that you'll make the right decision after that date.

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post Jun 1 2025, 05:01 PM

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QUOTE(Mr.Ballz @ Jun 1 2025, 04:35 PM)
Already did, in a clear and direct but kind way. Hurts her also pains me.

But this the only way, I have to be honest with myself.
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Sometimes doing the right thing can hurt a lot initially but it'll pay off eventually. Hope you'll find yr dream girl soon.
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post Jun 1 2025, 07:17 PM

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QUOTE(Mr.Ballz @ Jun 1 2025, 06:28 PM)
Very common in dating market, some matched i like her but she rejected me. Sometimes for this my case I'm sorry
You too always focus yourself as priority , fitness, intellectual, finance ,friends, family.
Hope you you too get your dream guy soon biggrin.gif
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Thanks 😊 Actually I can relate to u abt being single for too long. The guy that I mentioned in my post was expecting me to meet him probably 5 days/week. It didn't sit well with me coz when u've been single for so long, it's really weird to meet a person that often 😅 Probably u'll feel the same way too lol.
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post Jun 1 2025, 08:56 PM

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QUOTE(Mr.Ballz @ Jun 1 2025, 08:36 PM)
can relate , but somehow if you are seeing that guy, you will be glad to see him most the time. And you won't feel tired, for my case , I was meeting her once per week. but then honest with myself actually deep in my heart i don't wanna seeing her. I push myself up to 7th dates, only decided to tell her.
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It's not abt being tired of seeing that person. It's just that we all have our own life to live, we need time to chill or indulge in our hobbies too. I think it's absurd to spend 24/7 with our partner. I mean how do we grow individually if spend our entire waking hours with them?

I'm curious abt yr case though. Did u get bored of her coz u guys always run out of things to talk abt or u always do the same dating activities together?
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post Jun 2 2025, 09:04 AM

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QUOTE(Mr.Ballz @ Jun 2 2025, 12:59 AM)
Actually my case  :I was not really honest with myself. After 1st -2nd date, I never reflect myself asking myself what things like about her. Then she is very forward of meeting me again next week. So i was like let's give it try 1 more, and then 1 more, and then 1 more. After 3rd date, i find it myself , why am i not so attracted her ? is it this is what dating feels like?, even everything was right. Deep down i was not physically attractive to her, so technically after 3rd date, every dates i show up is just to show face (like working). That explains.
in term of boredom is still fine, we both enjoy watching netflix and eat dinner together. Conversation is still fine with us.
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Thanks for sharing this with us. I know you've read my thread n what u went through was exactly what I fear the most... That the guy I went out on a first date with didn't realise that he wasn't attracted to me but instead of facing this issue, he made himself to date me repeatedly just to determine if he was really into me. I felt a lot better after reading yr explanation, knowing that I did the right thing.

As for u, you didn't really waste too much of her time compared to other guys. Some guys would purposely keep the girl around for 6 months to years for selfish reasons.

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