Same same la. Sometimes tatau parent value is different from us or what, but their stubborness and priorities really the fakaps.

they come UK visit me is flight ticket expensive, UK cold, pollen many, long flight etc.

I go back is all different, what problem?

Outsider more important. haih.

i wouldn't date her, all my BBW ex crush love their parents

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好命的人一生被童年治愈；
不好命的一生都在治愈童年。

I think she worked very hard to escape her childhood.
Not big issue if you understand NLP, and got a big heart to deal with her weird insecurities.

With the right guy or mentor she might able to break the chain.

Do try to know her “red line”, especially due to her dad, and don ever touch it.

If an authorative figure can be treated with such disrespect, just a matter of time to be seen similarly once she start seeing you as below her.

Yes, this is only a carnal material, but nothing long term.

One of the most difficult things to deal with is family relationships.

What your parents did was morally correct—they never made your extended family feel unwelcome. On the other hand, what your extended family did was morally wrong. You should not blame your parents for upholding what is right, because they wanted you, the younger generation, to understand the meaning of proper manners.

The way your extended family behaves will have consequences for their next generation. No decent family would want to become in-laws with a family that shows such poor upbringing. If I’m not mistaken, one of the most common causes of unhappy marriages or marital failure is an unpleasant relationship with the in-laws.

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Apart from that, there could be another unpleasant truth based on how you described your extended family's behavior. You mentioned that when they came to eat, your parents charged them 50% off and provided free drinks. This kindness could be misunderstood as a duty—something your family is expected to provide. Your extended family might have thought your parents didn’t truly host them, but merely offered them a discounted rate. Meanwhile, your parents might have believed that offering a 50% discount was already a generous way of hosting. On the other hand, your extended family may have felt that they were not being hosted at all, but were paying for the food themselves.

I see a possible mismatch in expectations between the two families in terms of Li (礼, proper conduct or ritual propriety). If the relationship between the families has drifted apart due to such misunderstandings, it’s truly a shame. Perhaps in the future, do it this way: when they come to eat, charge them the full price just like any other customer. If you truly want to host them, do it elsewhere, not at the family BKT shop, to draw a clear boundary. If, after setting this boundary, they still behave the same way, then there's no need to continue showing kindness—because it has already been taken for granted.

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I think they are just the typical boomer, tradition and family first

Throughout the years, I might have changed too much. Perhaps I need to fine tune my logic path again

They are not gonna visit us when we rest, on Thursday which they know. And to be honest I lost hope with them. Last time my father went to sewa a kebun to harvest some durian...

They knew he was working on an orchard. Then soon they called wanna come, got durians? My old man told them he'll leave 2 days worth of durians. So he kept those 2 days and not sold nor supplied them. They came with Tupperwares and shit. I even had to split them open for them, oh my the memories. Entire family line came to take durians home and gift them to friends and family kekpot

Fucking leeches and shameless. I always told my dad how "rugi" his entire life principle is. To me, never do things for free. And dun bother wasting time on things that never reciprocate.

Are your parents the older siblings? Kalau ya, tak boleh salahkan parents. They keep having the protective instinct of caring for their younger siblings even though they have grown up.

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Yes. Red flag. You will be next. Thats her innate self showing.

Secondly - there is retribution. Somehow life will get back at you for the things you do good or bad.

You can get tempias.