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ridin
post May 2 2025, 04:30 PM

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Don't waste time. She has time to chat with you but not meet up. How much more obvious does it need to be?
emotionalanxiety P
post May 10 2025, 01:50 PM

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Ya don’t waste time
Alex9892
post May 11 2025, 05:22 PM

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Move on jer. Dont waste ur time and keep thinking about it, will stress u up.
hoonanoo
post Jun 4 2025, 03:52 PM

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QUOTE(luckyMan99 @ Apr 16 2025, 09:07 AM)
I've been talking to this girl for almost 3 months now. I think the progress is okay. We text and call every day. I can tell she's interested, as she spends a lot of time trying to get to know me and sometimes even says that I don't care about her enough, or I'm not taking enough initiative . On my end, I text her whenever I'm free, tell her I miss her, and generally try to show that I care.
Here's the problem: around the 1-month mark, I started asking her out.
The first time, she said she would arrange a time for me. She gave me a time but later canceled due to her own reason.
The second time, I asked her out during a weekday. She said she was busy but didn’t propose a new time.
The third time, I asked her again. She said she was busy with family, but once again didn’t suggest an alternative.
During our day-to-day conversations, I can tell that she’s genuinely busy. But this is starting to make me think maybe she’s not really eager to go out with me?
What should I do?
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if she rejects you 3 times after you tried asking her out. Just move on.

if u really really want to know, just give her the ultimatum. Tell her, that you are interested in her, after the 4th rejection, if she doesn't want to step up, you are moving on. Things could go south: she tell you she's seeing another person or she's just not into you OR she could suddenly open to going out with you.

You can try coffee meets bagel app to cool you down from her rejection

This post has been edited by hoonanoo: Jun 4 2025, 03:53 PM
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post Jun 4 2025, 04:03 PM

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I remember last time I asked a girl out 7 times before she managed to meet up with me, ended up she had a bf (didn't tell me beforehand)

I think it depends where you're coming from
If you desperate want to get a result with her, you will end up exhaust yourself

But if you keep doing so, while also working on yourself or meeting other girls, theres no issue keep asking her out.

 

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