I've been talking to this girl for almost 3 months now. I think the progress is okay. We text and call every day. I can tell she's interested, as she spends a lot of time trying to get to know me and sometimes even says that I don't care about her enough, or I'm not taking enough initiative . On my end, I text her whenever I'm free, tell her I miss her, and generally try to show that I care.


Here's the problem: around the 1-month mark, I started asking her out.
The first time, she said she would arrange a time for me. She gave me a time but later canceled due to her own reason.
The second time, I asked her out during a weekday. She said she was busy but didn’t propose a new time.
The third time, I asked her again. She said she was busy with family, but once again didn’t suggest an alternative.


During our day-to-day conversations, I can tell that she’s genuinely busy. But this is starting to make me think maybe she’s not really eager to go out with me?
What should I do?

she's just not that into you. plenty of other fishes in the sea.

move on bruh.

Maybe she has no courage to meet you

Eat lemon 3 times liao. Move on la...No need pine for someone who not care about you enough to make a bit of time for you

Suggest supper near by her house
if supper near her house also busy then mean she is just flirting to kill time with you

I'm just wondering if she's a shy introvert. Instead of asking her to meet up, why not video call her to make her feel comfortable talking to u face to face? Then gradually move on to meet up in person. If she can squeeze out some time to call u everyday, I don't see why she can't go on a vid call with u.

She's not interested with you, move on 😢

Try tapao some simply drinks and snacks to her house, no need to go into house as this is too aggresive.
If condo/highise, meet at lobby/facility floor; if is landed, just outside house will do.
Sit sit eat eat talk talk, short one also can, as a start.
If this also she reject, move on, change target

the things about girl is they can flirt as if they like you, they can say you dont care her but the fact is that it might not be the "like" you think. they dont plan anything serious or commit to anything, just to kill time or just for fun because they always there are many options out there and you are just one of the options. if the girl is really into you, there is no such thing as too busy. i can sound i am busy all day in the text but in fact i am sleeping at home. girls tend to give mixed signal but 3 times of busy, that's obvious. if u want, just treat her as some online friends, but not more than that unless she is showing direct and obvious signal, not mixed signal. protect yourself else get ready to be hurted.

3 times lemon move on.

Why would you chat for so long 1 month?

Nowadays dating is casual already. Just matched on, less than 1 week let's hang out. Once hang out, easier for you guys to find out each other. Quick game better, less time investing. We got lots of things in life please.

101% she dont like you.

U mean u never even met her IRL before?

How did u get to know her?

the more u attempt to show that you miss her and you care for her, that's where women will start to find you predictable and boring

You can be like me. Ask her out 5x. If 5x still don't want to come out, just forget it and move on.

I would say. If the girl is really busy and wish to meet up with you, she will always proposed other time / slot. I shall say let's move on

Once or twice when she shot you down, maybe she really was busy

But 3 times in a row? It’s okay bro

She's not real. She doesn't want you.

This post has been edited by Skylinestar: Apr 25 2025, 12:54 PM

if she is serious, she'll propose a new time after the "second time".

just move on. or hope that she gave up on whoever she's really after, and come back to you the backup plan

You've been talking for almost 3 months, but haven't met even once?

I mean even if she's busy, surely she'd have 1-2 hours of her time to catch lunch or dinner right?

I don't think she's interested.

TS met this girl in person or not?
If you have met her, maybe still got chance.
If you haven't met her, and just got to know her on internet, forget about her lah. She's not that into you.
But if its the latter, maybe you ask her out again, for another 2 more times.
make sure the timing, is like weekend and really accomodative to her.
If she still says no, then you do the last resort.
tell her that you are very interested in her and want to ask her out to better know her. You let her know that yes you understand she's busy, lets give this friendship a shot, what we have to lose? but would she give you a chance to personally enhance the "friendship"?
She'll do either this 2: say yes or apologize for leading you on and tell you its over.
If its the latter, then at least you are not wasting time with her, and move on.