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hoonanoo
post Apr 30 2025, 06:12 PM

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TS met this girl in person or not?
If you have met her, maybe still got chance.
If you haven't met her, and just got to know her on internet, forget about her lah. She's not that into you.
But if its the latter, maybe you ask her out again, for another 2 more times.
make sure the timing, is like weekend and really accomodative to her.
If she still says no, then you do the last resort.
tell her that you are very interested in her and want to ask her out to better know her. You let her know that yes you understand she's busy, lets give this friendship a shot, what we have to lose? but would she give you a chance to personally enhance the "friendship"?
She'll do either this 2: say yes or apologize for leading you on and tell you its over.
If its the latter, then at least you are not wasting time with her, and move on.
hoonanoo
post Jun 4 2025, 03:52 PM

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QUOTE(luckyMan99 @ Apr 16 2025, 09:07 AM)
I've been talking to this girl for almost 3 months now. I think the progress is okay. We text and call every day. I can tell she's interested, as she spends a lot of time trying to get to know me and sometimes even says that I don't care about her enough, or I'm not taking enough initiative . On my end, I text her whenever I'm free, tell her I miss her, and generally try to show that I care.
Here's the problem: around the 1-month mark, I started asking her out.
The first time, she said she would arrange a time for me. She gave me a time but later canceled due to her own reason.
The second time, I asked her out during a weekday. She said she was busy but didn’t propose a new time.
The third time, I asked her again. She said she was busy with family, but once again didn’t suggest an alternative.
During our day-to-day conversations, I can tell that she’s genuinely busy. But this is starting to make me think maybe she’s not really eager to go out with me?
What should I do?
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if she rejects you 3 times after you tried asking her out. Just move on.

if u really really want to know, just give her the ultimatum. Tell her, that you are interested in her, after the 4th rejection, if she doesn't want to step up, you are moving on. Things could go south: she tell you she's seeing another person or she's just not into you OR she could suddenly open to going out with you.

You can try coffee meets bagel app to cool you down from her rejection

This post has been edited by hoonanoo: Jun 4 2025, 03:53 PM

 

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