I was about to give u the cold hard truth but since got children, i give the work-on-it answer instead.

Instead of letting her know yr full income, just give her sufficient for her extra spending, while all other utilities are paid by you.

So her own extra allowance she cant control is on her, and its a controlled amount of "wastage".

As a father of 3 (even before i was 30) and a child of seperated parents, i am more concern for kids upbringing.

You two brought them into this world, you two suck it up, grow up, put your BS aside & ensure their basic needs as a child are not compromised.

Speak to her find compromise, she reduces abit, u give alil.
Next she ask alil, you give alil.

This post has been edited by Chrix: Jan 25 2025, 07:39 PM