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https://www.channelnewsasia.com/today/groun...age-gap-4672686

1 - yes, full medical checkup every year
2 - yes, and I'm still practice dance at my age. My favorite dance choreography is still Paula Abdul, Alex To and Nsync
3 - I don't mind to have with her if she wants, I already have 3 with ex
4 - She's still study and will complete Master next year, then she will following and tagging with me in my journey.

Ah, Thank you. Yes, I read that too with woman delivery a child at that age.

Must be very mentally, physically and financially ready for this.

Thank you so much on your priceless input.
Love it.

if all good, just go for it! All the best! ( Age tarak hal punya la.. as long as ngam )

but wait.. wats ur hesitation tho… why seek 3rd party opinion?

This post has been edited by TiramisuCoffee: Dec 7 2024, 08:13 PM

Just to find what else could be potential issue I might facing from anyone been through that

That lady Ginger info is quite good and valuable to me, especially from Asian lady standpoints

Honestly I am not sure how many men, but i know my partner will stick with me when I am bankrupt. Because she stood by me when I was jobless twice in the past (my own choice).

I suggest for your old sake, get someone like that. Or if you are still lusty after body at age 60-70, then get Playboy model

This post has been edited by NoComment222: Dec 7 2024, 08:51 PM

Diffeerent ppl different experience. Your case different culture sumore… btw if poor, VN gals like husband also take care / finance whole family where she came fr .

I dun suppose u can do live in 1st? Make sure “every aspect compatible”… libido, temperament etc.. ( my fren VN wifu show real face color out after marriage...) hati2…

Thanks for the tip and good for you to found one.
I have ways of filter for the one I'm looking for.

Culture difference is for sure. So far I'm she's not expecting me to take care of her family now and future, they have own farm and business running at the moment.

We're living together now with her sis.

For real color mature , I had experienced it with my ex so pretty much aware for now and future.

oledi living together huh, at d other tered someone play coy says only meet-up @bookstores! I was like uhhh…at ur age…

Anyways, I must say u protect urself pretty well… U dun need anyones advice. U knoe wat u r into…. Say, which bank offer best “trust”, a fren wants to know.. ?

This post has been edited by TiramisuCoffee: Dec 8 2024, 04:53 PM

Ahaha sorry for wrong wording which confuse you. We do hangout publicly.

But we do actually met each other from bookstore, and thing started from there

Thanks for your comment, I just want to know more .

As for trust, you meant trust in Malaysia and handle by bank?
I did with offshore trust, the local law here seem not really protect the trust if there is challenge/argument towards trust.
I chose offshore not only to protect asset but also from law stand point.

Meaning someone not only have to challenge local law here but other country, that's gonna cost more and time consuming for case to settle.

Hope your friend side getting better, the law there is pretty much sided towards local.

This post has been edited by HasukiiXrd: Dec 8 2024, 08:16 PM

For me
If married in here, better set a trust .. not will...( Lots of will case out there for references)
If married in outside and prenup is available, do prenup

Bottom line, set a trust ... If possible prenup + trust ..
And need to study the local law, if local law can't protect at some point, get offshore if can.

It's all depend on individual scenario as well. Everyone has difference in anything.
Not like someone do trust or prenup and automatically label as evil person or not love the other one, everyone does something for a reason.
Everyone has their own history.

This post has been edited by HasukiiXrd: Dec 8 2024, 08:17 PM

your sons / daughters will dislike her.
age 48 with 24, versus 9 year age gap, is very different

your mentality and her maybe good for now because of the honeymoon period.
when all settles down. there will a difference.
she is still young at 24, have not explore much of the world and might have a change of heart.
when u are 72, she is 48. remember this point too.

unless u are filthy rich and can afford good healthcare.
getting together on a 24 year old gap is just asking to win impossible odds.
yes u can win, but like naysayers say, the failure rate is 99.99%.

when u are old, your mindset will be different too, hers too.

my fren 26, her BF 48. 22 year gap.
she told me alot of her problems, some them include:
1) talking point references, example citing will be difficult, as both have different political, entertainment reference points
2) culture value difference, internet / smartphone ease versus old mentality of doing the old way is better
3) physical activity, older age get tired faster (even though both ultra fit)
4) money value, younger treasure money more, older guy just leave the money tap open

these are some more general issues, they have other specific ones, but i think those don't apply here.

this is chii's 2 cent

Yeah, … is it too late to set up trust now tat he’s merid? (2 prevent 50/50 split in d event divorce?)
Wah trust oso can b interpreted using different laws? …btw I googled abit, says trust in Msia charge a hefty 24% tax! How about offshore?

Pursuant to Schedule 1, a trust is subject to tax at the prevailing fixed rate of 24% of its chargeable income, just like a company. Unlike a company though, the preferential two-step rates of 17% and 24% for small and medium companies, is not available to a trust, however small the value of the trust property may be.

I totally agree… Merid should be for luv, not windfall wealth .. esp wealth they didn’t contribute effort in making… try tell her about prenup n trust etc ..? Watch her reactions… ( fun fact: 1 HK case.. beauty queen trophy wife got stuck with fixed monthly allowance as long as still merid…if divorce = eat dust…lol)

Anyways, confused… I tot u say Msia dun recognise prenup… meaning u must register ur marriage in VN so tat can do prenup? With tat ur existing trust = still be enforceable ?

Sorry, side topic.
You mean your ex-wife is a Catholic?
If yes, then you may run into issue, as Catholic doesn't allows divorce (eventhough you're not a Catholic).
You'll need to ensure the Catholic Church agreed to the separation officially (as you're still considered considered as your ex-wife's spouse) on Church paperwork before you can re-marry.

Seriously, does age matter nowadays ? I think "financial security" is more important and what women are interested nowadays

if you rich whatever age you like

My GF is 17 years younger and we hv been a couple for abt two and half years.

Not much problems, shes quite matured for her age and Im quite youthful in my outlook of life. Im the more adventurous, she is the more cautious.

There are many things that we complement each other. But there are some challenges:

Family acceptance: some caution at first (both sides). But got better/acceptance once become everyone more familiar.

Health: the senior partner has to be in good shape. I go to gym 4 times a week and am watchful of my food. Have to maintain this.

Career at different stages. She is still at struggling phase. Im past peak. This is potential area for misunderstanding.