First of all, this is not a troll thread.

I know this is probably not a good place but I have to try expand my reach.

To cut it short, I'm looking for a potential female partner/gf.

I do not prefer to disclose my exact personal details here but I will share some info about me.

Apologies if I cannot be too specific about myself in here because some people love to doxx people info online (I would like to avoid that).


About myself:
- Age: Somewhere between 28-32
- Height: 5'7-5'8 tall
- Race: Indian
- Religion: Atheist/Agnostic (not so important to me)
- Build: Average
- Exercise: 3 times a week
- Job: Work in IT for a corporate company
- Hobbies: Anime/Manga, Games, Traveling, Food hunting
- Others: No car and no house
- Last relationship: 2022 (lasted 2-3 years)
- Location: KL


About you:
- Age: Somewhere between 20-28
- Height: 5'6 or below
- Race: Indian/Chinese/Etc (as long not Malay)
- Religion: Any (as long not Muslim)
- Build: Average (please dont be heavier)
- Exercise: Any
- Job: Any
- Hobbies: Any
- Location: KL
- Others: Dont mind myself having no car or house



Personal disclaimer:

You may know me from my old thread about rm500 budget for dating.
Honestly all I want is someone to hangout and eventually fall in love with (I know it sounds cliche).

I'm not capable enough compared to other dudes in my age group and I have social issues that needs time to improve.
I dont have money or a car or a house but I want to work on that slowly.

If I continue to wait till I get better financially eventually then I will be old and inexperienced before I even get the chance.
So I dont want to have the regret of not even trying. Hence I am here making this post.



They say a woman makes a man better.
Help me age like a fine wine? (cringe!)

Go temple???See a lot of event there unless you dont sembayang type

This post has been edited by kesvani: May 16 2024, 10:23 PM

Very low chance here. Mostly male forumer in lowyat forum.

What sort of social issues?

That's why, mostly male.

Better be careful also if got any DM if you know what I mean lol

TS, get into dating app bro

bekam volunteer

There's a right place for this: https://forum.lowyat.net/topic/932613/
If you want to expand your network further, try dating apps

But since you post in srs k, I assume you're open to advice?
I'd suggest you to open up more in terms of age. Young girls have less, so they're more likely to look for men with more to compensate, and I guess it's also my personal bias that younger generation these days are more materialistic 🤷‍♀️ older single women tend to have more themselves, less choosy and more mature, I think no harm getting to know one as long as it's not too far off...

Also, I think it's good you're self aware of your problems, but laying it all out in an advertisement of yourself is self sabotaging. Let others be the judge to see if they like who you are, while you work on yourself. When you meet up 1:1 avoid talking yourself down like, "hey I'm poor and have nothing to offer" cuz if you do that, it's almost as if you're telling the ladies that they're stupid to choose to be with you. Perhaps you may wonder, "just being honest, isn't that good?"... Yes, but there's a good and bad time to be honest.
❌ Telling others you're socially awkward before you even meet, is helping them paint a bad first impression of you.
✔️ Telling others you want kids, help to filter out those who don't, so you don't waste each others' time.

Join clubs like group hikes, group runs or become a volunteer. Dated a few via that path.

Go dating app

Yes I know that. I'm doing this so that I can have no regrets.

Many years I have trouble getting really close to anyone and I tend to get too logical at times when people are joking around.
I'm improving on that over the years.

Lets not jinx it bro.
Anyway I tried dating app but the women I met there are generally above my class.
You know it wont turn out good when they meet a man that has no car and house. Yikes!

Currently trying other methods as of now. This is one of it.

Not trying to judge, but if you think that could be the reason, is there no plan to get a car and house soon? You work in IT, pay should be quite good. Just curious.

Cupid corner is that way.

You must be really desperate to post tered like this in serious /k.

I wish you the best. Everyone deserved to be happy with their partner. I hope you will find your true love one day.

No Im not aware of this special section. Thank you.

You are right about your bias and I am simply trying my luck here. Never try never know.

I had to share my criteria so it only made sense for myself to advertise a little about myself too.

Good advices btw.

CC moved here?

I tot here https://forum.lowyat.net/topic/932613

Any reason why you dont own a car?

No driving license?

There is a plan ongoing. I just didnt mention here on purpose.

imo don't dwell on or try on this too much. Are you really changing to be less logical/straightforward, or just learning to put on a show? Asking because in the long term, your act will definitely drop if it is not a deep rooted change. The girl might complain that you used to be funny 20 years ago etc.

Also try dating apps, even Tinder. I know 2 couples who ended up being married having met on Tinder. Rare but it happens.

Expand your social circle in anyway. Work, hobbies, dating apps/events.
Know a gamer married couple in a game I play but don't know their story. Likely met in-game as both are damn good players.

No I genuinely want to be a more sociable person for myself and my contacts long term wise.
Its not a serious issue but its a bottleneck concern when I have to take things to the next step especially with a partner if you get what I mean.

This post has been edited by mrKentucky777: May 17 2024, 12:00 AM

Good luck

Definitely get you. I had difficulty talking to girls and in general up until my early 20s even though went through co-ed schooling life, except final year. Eventually sorta backfired as was too sociable with female colleagues

But it really depends on your partner. I've met introverted and quiet couples. I don't get it but hey it works for them. Maybe they connect on other stuff.

Got $$$$
If got fly over to vietnam

already tried dating app?

here mostly guys tho

during pandemic was your best chance, seen many girls YOLO that time looking for partner, easy swipes on tinder

I'll be blunt

- Indian
- No car
- No house

Already small market here in lyn become almost nothing because of above

Sorry but that's the truth

This post has been edited by joe_star: May 17 2024, 04:40 AM

if u serius
at least put a pic of your self la dey... like me i did put my own pic at cupid corner

This

Since Indians are also discriminated against the most when it comes to renting, it just makes it worse.
And please expand the age range a bit. Some older wealthy woman probably don't mind not having a car or house.
These older ladies only want time with a partner without concern for the materialistic things you can provide.

This post has been edited by WinkyJr: May 17 2024, 07:44 AM

Yameh. Which link. Want to see legendary Poco face.

Surprised you used to have relationship with no car no house. Since you success before, there shouldn't be a problem to success again. The first is always the hardest.

But let's be honest, from your description, I can't find any attractiveness. Female lagi pilih. You need to have something to offer, then only can attract. Unfortunately that's the harsh reality. There is no unconditional love when start.

If tak ada duit, then ada face body also no problem. But you no post. So basically there is nothing to attract

This post has been edited by IpohGuyz: May 17 2024, 08:28 AM

No car no house = no gf

Focus on yourself first.

no house still acceptable.. but no car, how u want to go dating??

anyhow.. try to reach out your old friends from high school or collage.. hang out with them and asking their circle have single girl available or not.. explain your situation to them.. it easier to start relationship if got introducer.. the key point is not to be shy..

I assume you might be seeking amoi? All ages of this group are quite demanding so yeah it's tough with your current status as you stated you have no house and car...maybe can broader your search to open minded girl of races?
Or broad it more you can search Indon or pinoy girl using dating app and change location in those countries.. But again you need to be loaded/rich in order to do this..

Why not improve your life first?Get some decent work or do some business to improve your income... Then these thing will come all the way when you are established..

love this guys confidence...this in itself could potentially go somewhere

Hard to give meaningful comments if we don’t have the full picture

Try hobbies group. I got lucky on bumble but that was almost 3 years ago. No, you don't need to be old to be stable. Being stable doesn't mean you're rich as fuck. It just means you can handle yourself and help someone. Probably go get a car that you can afford (please look for Dave Ramsey). It's not just for dating, a lot of things you need to do in life to further yourself will require your own transport. So go get one.

Stop staying indoor and online. Online people live on clouds.

This post has been edited by whyamiblack: May 17 2024, 08:56 AM

2-3 years is not bad. Why breakup?

i think it was 2-3 months lockdown that time
I invested my time calling these girls
once it reopened, i met up with 17 different females in a month

you can always find your niche
ie, you can make your style better by investing on your hair gel and cloths

learn how to communicate better
one of the ways is to meet more people and get inside their head
once you able to manuever better, your social and business life will be better cause most people are not keen to tell others what they want, as cliche girls looking for guys who "just get it".

ts mia liao, all sausages keep questioning him kek

Very less effort from u to promote yourself. Half past six..

good luck

Pandemic came and it became LDR. Plus she found government job in Sarawak/Sabah which she cannot move to KL.
I had to end it for the greater good.

I have work on Fridays

That is the intention. Just putting myself out there for a bit to match the small expectation

2-3 years and just an LDR can cause the relationship to fail? It seems the connection is already not strong in first place.

Having a past relationship makenit easier to get into a new one. Just continue to improve yourself as a person while keep an eye out for girls that u fancy.

You dont have context on what is going on. 2-3 years was hard and suffering for both of us, I had to end it because I saw was a dead end (religion) and it wasnt easy.
There was no point to continue further then and it will only lead to suffering if we continued. It was necessary to end things early and then find someone more suited.

If you are trolling please get lost. Thanks.


Edit:
Also Kesvani, you are famous for your unethical/bad relationship situation. You are the last person to give comments about other people past relationships.

This post has been edited by mrKentucky777: May 18 2024, 11:20 AM

No house is still fine but no car is a massive turn off sir..Unless you want to score a B40 girl..its a tough journey sir..wishing you all the best

Lool i'm trolling????. Atleast i make an effort to maintain my relationship not giving up like you unless she is Islam then no other way but even then there still a solution if want to. I also fully LDR with GF1 for a year as she is a maid and after she left as maid there and work at other place as maid again even then weekday still LDR as she only come back on weekend. Only Last 1 1/2 we stay together whole time and my relationship with GF2 also LDR.

You said i unethical but even after kantoi GF1 still with me changing himself. GF2 also know i have GF1 and still with me. Both of them and me still maintain our relationship and not giving up like you.

This post has been edited by kesvani: May 18 2024, 07:57 PM

Yes it was akin to her being a Muslim.

I dont appreciate you one bit for randomly bad mouthing my past relationship without even having context about it.

You deserve to be called a troll or a dumb person for doing so.

Even more dumb if you can't understand a basic knowledge that cheating and spreading STDs are considered unethical actions no matter the outcome good or bad.

You are even sharing useless example to me, sorry it does not help.