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TSmrKentucky777
post May 16 2024, 10:11 PM, updated 2y ago

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First of all, this is not a troll thread.

I know this is probably not a good place but I have to try expand my reach.

To cut it short, I'm looking for a potential female partner/gf.

I do not prefer to disclose my exact personal details here but I will share some info about me.

Apologies if I cannot be too specific about myself in here because some people love to doxx people info online (I would like to avoid that).


About myself:
- Age: Somewhere between 28-32
- Height: 5'7-5'8 tall
- Race: Indian
- Religion: Atheist/Agnostic (not so important to me)
- Build: Average
- Exercise: 3 times a week
- Job: Work in IT for a corporate company
- Hobbies: Anime/Manga, Games, Traveling, Food hunting
- Others: No car and no house
- Last relationship: 2022 (lasted 2-3 years)
- Location: KL


About you:
- Age: Somewhere between 20-28
- Height: 5'6 or below
- Race: Indian/Chinese/Etc (as long not Malay)
- Religion: Any (as long not Muslim)
- Build: Average (please dont be heavier)
- Exercise: Any
- Job: Any
- Hobbies: Any
- Location: KL
- Others: Dont mind myself having no car or house



Personal disclaimer:

You may know me from my old thread about rm500 budget for dating.
Honestly all I want is someone to hangout and eventually fall in love with (I know it sounds cliche).

I'm not capable enough compared to other dudes in my age group and I have social issues that needs time to improve.
I dont have money or a car or a house but I want to work on that slowly.

If I continue to wait till I get better financially eventually then I will be old and inexperienced before I even get the chance.
So I dont want to have the regret of not even trying. Hence I am here making this post.



They say a woman makes a man better.
Help me age like a fine wine? (cringe!)


TSmrKentucky777
post May 16 2024, 10:43 PM

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QUOTE(max_cavalera @ May 16 2024, 10:29 PM)
Very low chance here. Mostly male forumer in lowyat forum.
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Yes I know that. I'm doing this so that I can have no regrets.

QUOTE(Icehart @ May 16 2024, 10:29 PM)
What sort of social issues?
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Many years I have trouble getting really close to anyone and I tend to get too logical at times when people are joking around.
I'm improving on that over the years.

QUOTE(Natsukashii @ May 16 2024, 10:35 PM)
That's why, mostly male.

Better be careful also if got any DM if you know what I mean lol

TS, get into dating app bro
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Lets not jinx it bro.
Anyway I tried dating app but the women I met there are generally above my class.
You know it wont turn out good when they meet a man that has no car and house. Yikes!

Currently trying other methods as of now. This is one of it.
TSmrKentucky777
post May 16 2024, 10:51 PM

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QUOTE(Takudan @ May 16 2024, 10:40 PM)
There's a right place for this: https://forum.lowyat.net/topic/932613/
If you want to expand your network further, try dating apps

But since you post in srs k, I assume you're open to advice?
I'd suggest you to open up more in terms of age. Young girls have less, so they're more likely to look for men with more to compensate, and I guess it's also my personal bias that younger generation these days are more materialistic 🤷‍♀️ older single women tend to have more themselves, less choosy and more mature, I think no harm getting to know one as long as it's not too far off...

Also, I think it's good you're self aware of your problems, but laying it all out in an advertisement of yourself is self sabotaging. Let others be the judge to see if they like who you are, while you work on yourself. When you meet up 1:1 avoid talking yourself down like, "hey I'm poor and have nothing to offer" cuz if you do that, it's almost as if you're telling the ladies that they're stupid to choose to be with you. Perhaps you may wonder, "just being honest, isn't that good?"... Yes, but there's a good and bad time to be honest.
❌ Telling others you're socially awkward before you even meet, is helping them paint a bad first impression of you.
✔️ Telling others you want kids, help to filter out those who don't, so you don't waste each others' time.
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No Im not aware of this special section. Thank you.

You are right about your bias and I am simply trying my luck here. Never try never know.

I had to share my criteria so it only made sense for myself to advertise a little about myself too.

Good advices btw.
TSmrKentucky777
post May 16 2024, 10:57 PM

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QUOTE(Icehart @ May 16 2024, 10:47 PM)
Not trying to judge, but if you think that could be the reason, is there no plan to get a car and house soon? You work in IT, pay should be quite good. Just curious.
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There is a plan ongoing. I just didnt mention here on purpose.
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post May 16 2024, 11:59 PM

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QUOTE(knumskul @ May 16 2024, 11:48 PM)
imo don't dwell on or try on this too much. Are you really changing to be less logical/straightforward, or just learning to put on a show? Asking because in the long term, your act will definitely drop if it is not a deep rooted change. The girl might complain that you used to be funny 20 years ago etc.

Also try dating apps, even Tinder. I know 2 couples who ended up being married having met on Tinder. Rare but it happens.

Expand your social circle in anyway. Work, hobbies, dating apps/events.
Know a gamer married couple in a game I play but don't know their story. Likely met in-game as both are damn good players.
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No I genuinely want to be a more sociable person for myself and my contacts long term wise.
Its not a serious issue but its a bottleneck concern when I have to take things to the next step especially with a partner if you get what I mean.

This post has been edited by mrKentucky777: May 17 2024, 12:00 AM
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post May 17 2024, 08:40 PM

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QUOTE(Cubalagi @ May 17 2024, 12:10 PM)
2-3 years is not bad. Why breakup?
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Pandemic came and it became LDR. Plus she found government job in Sarawak/Sabah which she cannot move to KL.
I had to end it for the greater good.

QUOTE(premier239 @ May 17 2024, 01:18 PM)
ts mia liao, all sausages keep questioning him kek
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I have work on Fridays

QUOTE(Balanced @ May 17 2024, 03:36 PM)
Very less effort from u to promote yourself. Half past six..
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That is the intention. Just putting myself out there for a bit to match the small expectation smile.gif
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post May 18 2024, 10:58 AM

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QUOTE(kesvani @ May 18 2024, 01:00 AM)
2-3 years and just an LDR can cause the relationship to fail? It seems the connection is already not strong in first place.
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You dont have context on what is going on. 2-3 years was hard and suffering for both of us, I had to end it because I saw was a dead end (religion) and it wasnt easy.
There was no point to continue further then and it will only lead to suffering if we continued. It was necessary to end things early and then find someone more suited.

If you are trolling please get lost. Thanks.


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Also Kesvani, you are famous for your unethical/bad relationship situation. You are the last person to give comments about other people past relationships.

This post has been edited by mrKentucky777: May 18 2024, 11:20 AM
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post May 18 2024, 09:05 PM

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QUOTE(kesvani @ May 18 2024, 07:56 PM)
Lool i'm trolling????. Atleast i make an effort to maintain my relationship not giving up like you unless she is Islam then no other way but even then there still a solution if want to. I also fully LDR with GF1 for a year as she is a maid and after she left as maid there and work at other place as maid again even then weekday still LDR as she only come back on weekend. Only Last 1 1/2 we stay together whole time and my relationship with GF2 also LDR.

You said i unethical but even after kantoi GF1 still with me changing himself. GF2 also know i have GF1 and still with me. Both of them and me still maintain our relationship and not giving up like you.
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Yes it was akin to her being a Muslim.

I dont appreciate you one bit for randomly bad mouthing my past relationship without even having context about it.

You deserve to be called a troll or a dumb person for doing so.

Even more dumb if you can't understand a basic knowledge that cheating and spreading STDs are considered unethical actions no matter the outcome good or bad.

You are even sharing useless example to me, sorry it does not help.


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