First of all, this is not a troll thread.

I know this is probably not a good place but I have to try expand my reach.

To cut it short, I'm looking for a potential female partner/gf.

I do not prefer to disclose my exact personal details here but I will share some info about me.

Apologies if I cannot be too specific about myself in here because some people love to doxx people info online (I would like to avoid that).


About myself:
- Age: Somewhere between 28-32
- Height: 5'7-5'8 tall
- Race: Indian
- Religion: Atheist/Agnostic (not so important to me)
- Build: Average
- Exercise: 3 times a week
- Job: Work in IT for a corporate company
- Hobbies: Anime/Manga, Games, Traveling, Food hunting
- Others: No car and no house
- Last relationship: 2022 (lasted 2-3 years)
- Location: KL


About you:
- Age: Somewhere between 20-28
- Height: 5'6 or below
- Race: Indian/Chinese/Etc (as long not Malay)
- Religion: Any (as long not Muslim)
- Build: Average (please dont be heavier)
- Exercise: Any
- Job: Any
- Hobbies: Any
- Location: KL
- Others: Dont mind myself having no car or house



Personal disclaimer:

You may know me from my old thread about rm500 budget for dating.
Honestly all I want is someone to hangout and eventually fall in love with (I know it sounds cliche).

I'm not capable enough compared to other dudes in my age group and I have social issues that needs time to improve.
I dont have money or a car or a house but I want to work on that slowly.

If I continue to wait till I get better financially eventually then I will be old and inexperienced before I even get the chance.
So I dont want to have the regret of not even trying. Hence I am here making this post.



They say a woman makes a man better.
Help me age like a fine wine? (cringe!)

Go temple???See a lot of event there unless you dont sembayang type

This post has been edited by kesvani: May 16 2024, 10:23 PM

Very low chance here. Mostly male forumer in lowyat forum.

What sort of social issues?

That's why, mostly male.

Better be careful also if got any DM if you know what I mean lol

TS, get into dating app bro

bekam volunteer

There's a right place for this: https://forum.lowyat.net/topic/932613/
If you want to expand your network further, try dating apps

But since you post in srs k, I assume you're open to advice?
I'd suggest you to open up more in terms of age. Young girls have less, so they're more likely to look for men with more to compensate, and I guess it's also my personal bias that younger generation these days are more materialistic 🤷‍♀️ older single women tend to have more themselves, less choosy and more mature, I think no harm getting to know one as long as it's not too far off...

Also, I think it's good you're self aware of your problems, but laying it all out in an advertisement of yourself is self sabotaging. Let others be the judge to see if they like who you are, while you work on yourself. When you meet up 1:1 avoid talking yourself down like, "hey I'm poor and have nothing to offer" cuz if you do that, it's almost as if you're telling the ladies that they're stupid to choose to be with you. Perhaps you may wonder, "just being honest, isn't that good?"... Yes, but there's a good and bad time to be honest.
❌ Telling others you're socially awkward before you even meet, is helping them paint a bad first impression of you.
✔️ Telling others you want kids, help to filter out those who don't, so you don't waste each others' time.

Join clubs like group hikes, group runs or become a volunteer. Dated a few via that path.

Go dating app

Yes I know that. I'm doing this so that I can have no regrets.

Many years I have trouble getting really close to anyone and I tend to get too logical at times when people are joking around.
I'm improving on that over the years.

Lets not jinx it bro.
Anyway I tried dating app but the women I met there are generally above my class.
You know it wont turn out good when they meet a man that has no car and house. Yikes!

Currently trying other methods as of now. This is one of it.

Not trying to judge, but if you think that could be the reason, is there no plan to get a car and house soon? You work in IT, pay should be quite good. Just curious.

Cupid corner is that way.

You must be really desperate to post tered like this in serious /k.

I wish you the best. Everyone deserved to be happy with their partner. I hope you will find your true love one day.

No Im not aware of this special section. Thank you.

You are right about your bias and I am simply trying my luck here. Never try never know.

I had to share my criteria so it only made sense for myself to advertise a little about myself too.

Good advices btw.

CC moved here?

I tot here https://forum.lowyat.net/topic/932613

Any reason why you dont own a car?

No driving license?

There is a plan ongoing. I just didnt mention here on purpose.

imo don't dwell on or try on this too much. Are you really changing to be less logical/straightforward, or just learning to put on a show? Asking because in the long term, your act will definitely drop if it is not a deep rooted change. The girl might complain that you used to be funny 20 years ago etc.

Also try dating apps, even Tinder. I know 2 couples who ended up being married having met on Tinder. Rare but it happens.

Expand your social circle in anyway. Work, hobbies, dating apps/events.
Know a gamer married couple in a game I play but don't know their story. Likely met in-game as both are damn good players.

No I genuinely want to be a more sociable person for myself and my contacts long term wise.
Its not a serious issue but its a bottleneck concern when I have to take things to the next step especially with a partner if you get what I mean.

This post has been edited by mrKentucky777: May 17 2024, 12:00 AM

Good luck

Definitely get you. I had difficulty talking to girls and in general up until my early 20s even though went through co-ed schooling life, except final year. Eventually sorta backfired as was too sociable with female colleagues

But it really depends on your partner. I've met introverted and quiet couples. I don't get it but hey it works for them. Maybe they connect on other stuff.