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post Apr 18 2024, 03:17 PM, updated 5w ago

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Last weekend i was lepak with some friends, you know typical blow water session. Then we talk about dating apps, sharing our experience etc. I do have use dating apps, since i'm single so why not right?

We all know that dating apps works by both party liking each other, you like me then i like you and we matched then we chat then see how far we can go. The apps will blurred those who liked us, in order to see who those people are or more accurately to see if the other person are attractive or no, the apps requires you to subscribe.

One of my friends came out with this theory or whatever you guys called it, if you did not subscribe then chances of you getting likes are quite high if you at least looks average. that is how the apps fish or tricks us to subscribe. And after we subscribed, we got less to no likes. I did subscribe to CMB once, and i noticed my friend here is right. No subscribe, i get like 10 likes with my shit face. But then when i subscribe to see those ladies, our conversation just died not long after even with casual or normal conversation. Even met some scammers on the way, you know those pig butcher scam like we see over the internet and even here in LYN got some people sharing their experience.

Oh yes i did get 1 or 2 dates, but it didn't work out and they just ghosted me. I can see they just suddenly lost interest even though i'm trying to keep the conversation alive, could be because i got a shit face.

So what do you think of this? Is dating apps just focus on making money instead of really helping people to make some friends or get a date? Share your experience as well.


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post Apr 18 2024, 11:41 PM

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if you think dating apps is trying to suck your money where your view can be legit because only top 5% of good looking guys get access by the females on there.

If you think you're ugly, why would you force yourself to compete on the internet with no possible advantages?

Just look at outside, i havent seen any guys approach girls in public places ie mall regularly. You said you're a salesperson, you will have advantage by talking to random strangers on the street

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Apr 18 2024, 11:42 PM
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post Apr 19 2024, 08:25 AM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Apr 18 2024, 11:41 PM)
if you think dating apps is trying to suck your money where your view can be legit because only top 5% of good looking guys get access by the females on there.

If you think you're ugly, why would you force yourself to compete on the internet with no possible advantages?

Just look at outside, i havent seen any guys approach girls in public places ie mall regularly. You said you're a salesperson, you will have advantage by talking to random strangers on the street
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post Apr 19 2024, 09:25 AM

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QUOTE(Napalm_man @ Apr 19 2024, 08:25 AM)
Here comes the pill guy…
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It's pointless to see this kind of thread
any actions produce results? No.
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post Apr 19 2024, 10:44 AM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Apr 19 2024, 09:25 AM)
It's pointless to see this kind of thread
any actions produce results? No.
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To you maybe it is pointless, to me i just simply open to listen for other's experiences. If you said "This is my experiences and i talked to dozens of women" like you always said, then ok so be it.

I won't agree or disagree with you, because of your "I never wrong/lose" types of attitude.
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you mean that after you started chatting with the ladies, they lost interest in you.

then the problem is the way you chatted with them instead of speculating some conspiracy going around in the app
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post Apr 19 2024, 07:29 PM

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QUOTE(Blofeld @ Apr 19 2024, 06:37 PM)
you mean that after you started chatting with the ladies, they lost interest in you.

then the problem is the way you chatted with them instead of speculating some conspiracy going around in the app
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Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t about me though. I just sharing my experience with dating apps, ghosted or no that’s a different story.
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post Apr 19 2024, 11:39 PM

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QUOTE(Napalm_man @ Apr 18 2024, 03:17 PM)
Is dating apps just focus on making money instead of really helping people to make some friends or get a date? Share your experience as well.
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I think we can all agree that no business is out there to lose money. Dating app is just another business so they'll surely find ways to earn. That said, one of their success factors is that people actually meet their success eventually, and then recommend others by word of mouth.

I found my success (touch wood so far so good) from FB dating without paying a cent. Sure, you can say "girl ma ofc easier".... But my bf said the same biggrin.gif and I'm obviously not the only one pair out there, I've heard many success stories.

That being said, I also believe that dating apps are fixating user's mindset and that's a not entirely a good thing for the dating scene. To start, it guides you through profile creation and you literally fill up a form -- there is a preset of questions to answer. It also gives you all kinds of preferences to filter out people. Now you already have a set of criteria in your head and if someone doesn't meet it, you swipe left. Sounds easy, and I think to a certain extent, it helps. E.g. I hate smoking so a smoker is a deal-breaker to me. Anyone who smokes, we don't have to waste time on each other, cool. Add in 10 more "deal-breakers", you suddenly end up with a very small pool of candidates. Look at couples around you and better yet, talk to them. Or at least, let me just say this: he has qualities I never thought I needed until I got to know him, some of which was quite opposite of what I thought I wanted. It takes knowing others to know yourself more.

Well, it tells you to write whatever you want in a free field description so you're not bound to set rules, doesn't that solve the problem? But that exactly is the problem too!
A) You write a full essay about yourself, people lose interest in interacting with you anymore - and you also tell them what to think of you without a two-way exchange to share the details. People read something they don't like and they just proceed to swipe left.

B) You write a list of criteria you're looking for - well that practically goes back to the previous problem: you're limiting your pool. Moreover, someone who reads, "I'm looking for a mature adult", ironically indicates that you're on the immature side that you cannot deal with it.

C) You don't write ANYTHING. Well then you're not giving people a reason to know you; a mystery to solve.

IMO, dating apps, paid or not, is just a tool for you to achieve your goal of finding a partner. It may not work for you but doesn't mean it's faulty; someone else may find use for it.
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post Apr 19 2024, 11:59 PM

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QUOTE(Napalm_man @ Apr 18 2024, 03:17 PM)
Last weekend i was lepak with some friends, you know typical blow water session. Then we talk about dating apps, sharing our experience etc. I do have use dating apps, since i'm single so why not right?

We all know that dating apps works by both party liking each other, you like me then i like you and we matched then we chat then see how far we can go. The apps will blurred those who liked us, in order to see who those people are or more accurately to see if the other person are attractive or no, the apps requires you to subscribe.

One of my friends came out with this theory or whatever you guys called it, if you did not subscribe then chances of you getting likes are quite high if you at least looks average. that is how the apps fish or tricks us to subscribe. And after we subscribed, we got less to no likes. I did subscribe to CMB once, and i noticed my friend here is right. No subscribe, i get like 10 likes with my shit face. But then when i subscribe to see those ladies, our conversation just died not long after even with casual or normal conversation. Even met some scammers on the way, you know those pig butcher scam like we see over the internet and even here in LYN got some people sharing their experience.

Oh yes i did get 1 or 2 dates, but it didn't work out and they just ghosted me. I can see they just suddenly lost interest even though i'm trying to keep the conversation alive, could be because i got a shit face.

So what do you think of this? Is dating apps just focus on making money instead of really helping people to make some friends or get a date? Share your experience as well.
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I'm not sure what is this "likes" u talking about.
Is it like Instagram/tiktok ppl can like ur profile?

If yes, it could be true what u saying..the app may have bot programmed to lure u to subscribe.
Or it could be just the person hope u will like their profile back, to gain popularity just like how Instagram works.

Ofcourse the app/website maker is about money. What makes u think otherwise?

Anyway i'm not sure why u relate ur bad experience of being ghosted or they lost interest in u to what u claiming (website/app make money).

Unless u mean by subscribing u expect u get love potion?
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post Apr 20 2024, 09:27 AM

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QUOTE(Takudan @ Apr 19 2024, 11:39 PM)
I think we can all agree that no business is out there to lose money. Dating app is just another business so they'll surely find ways to earn. That said, one of their success factors is that people actually meet their success eventually, and then recommend others by word of mouth.

I found my success (touch wood so far so good) from FB dating without paying a cent. Sure, you can say "girl ma ofc easier".... But my bf said the same biggrin.gif and I'm obviously not the only one pair out there, I've heard many success stories.

That being said, I also believe that dating apps are fixating user's mindset and that's a not entirely a good thing for the dating scene. To start, it guides you through profile creation and you literally fill up a form -- there is a preset of questions to answer. It also gives you all kinds of preferences to filter out people. Now you already have a set of criteria in your head and if someone doesn't meet it, you swipe left. Sounds easy, and I think to a certain extent, it helps. E.g. I hate smoking so a smoker is a deal-breaker to me. Anyone who smokes, we don't have to waste time on each other, cool. Add in 10 more "deal-breakers", you suddenly end up with a very small pool of candidates. Look at couples around you and better yet, talk to them. Or at least, let me just say this: he has qualities I never thought I needed until I got to know him, some of which was quite opposite of what I thought I wanted. It takes knowing others to know yourself more.

Well, it tells you to write whatever you want in a free field description so you're not bound to set rules, doesn't that solve the problem? But that exactly is the problem too!
A) You write a full essay about yourself, people lose interest in interacting with you anymore - and you also tell them what to think of you without a two-way exchange to share the details. People read something they don't like and they just proceed to swipe left.

B) You write a list of criteria you're looking for - well that practically goes back to the previous problem: you're limiting your pool. Moreover, someone who reads, "I'm looking for a mature adult", ironically indicates that you're on the immature side that you cannot deal with it.

C) You don't write ANYTHING. Well then you're not giving people a reason to know you; a mystery to solve.

IMO, dating apps, paid or not, is just a tool for you to achieve your goal of finding a partner. It may not work for you but doesn't mean it's faulty; someone else may find use for it.
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Look, an opinion instead of bashing or trolling.


Anyway i would agreed with your point above, again this isn’t about me alone as i only sharing my experience with dating apps. Again, ghosted or no that’s a different story because we’re talking about dating apps not dating experiences.

You have my likes there
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post Apr 20 2024, 09:36 AM

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QUOTE(WaCKy-Angel @ Apr 19 2024, 11:59 PM)
I'm not sure what is this "likes" u talking about.
Is it like Instagram/tiktok ppl can like ur profile?

If yes, it could be true what u saying..the app may have bot programmed to lure u to subscribe.
Or it could be just the person hope u will like their profile back, to gain popularity just like how Instagram works.

Ofcourse the app/website maker is about money. What makes u think otherwise?

Anyway i'm not sure why u relate ur bad experience of being ghosted or they lost interest in u to what u claiming (website/app make money).

Unless u mean by subscribing u expect u get love potion?
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And due to previous experience with you and some other users like that super confident talking with girls 100% will get their numbers pills dude(he commented my thread here), I’ll be polite with you this time.

The likes in dating apps is where you swiping right on those profiles they showed to you, for example you see a good looking or decent dude, you kind of like him then you swipe right. That’s the like I’m talking about, in case yoy misunderstood.

Making money, the developers asking you to subcribe in order to get more features BUT then you get more like without subscribing then you get almost non after subscribed. Not sure though if this happens to some man or ladies out there but me and some of my friends did experience this, is this a scam? Wouldn’t say it is since i did get 1-2 dates from it even it didn’t work out.

About me getting ghosted, i just simply sharing my experience. Now sharing experiences not the same as crying or bitching about something, i didn’t hold any grudges about it tbh because i don’t like forcing people or being forced. Hope that clarifies things before you said i’m a cry baby.
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QUOTE(Napalm_man @ Apr 18 2024, 03:17 PM)
Last weekend i was lepak with some friends, you know typical blow water session. Then we talk about dating apps, sharing our experience etc. I do have use dating apps, since i'm single so why not right?

We all know that dating apps works by both party liking each other, you like me then i like you and we matched then we chat then see how far we can go. The apps will blurred those who liked us, in order to see who those people are or more accurately to see if the other person are attractive or no, the apps requires you to subscribe.

One of my friends came out with this theory or whatever you guys called it, if you did not subscribe then chances of you getting likes are quite high if you at least looks average. that is how the apps fish or tricks us to subscribe. And after we subscribed, we got less to no likes. I did subscribe to CMB once, and i noticed my friend here is right. No subscribe, i get like 10 likes with my shit face. But then when i subscribe to see those ladies, our conversation just died not long after even with casual or normal conversation. Even met some scammers on the way, you know those pig butcher scam like we see over the internet and even here in LYN got some people sharing their experience.

Oh yes i did get 1 or 2 dates, but it didn't work out and they just ghosted me. I can see they just suddenly lost interest even though i'm trying to keep the conversation alive, could be because i got a shit face.

So what do you think of this? Is dating apps just focus on making money instead of really helping people to make some friends or get a date? Share your experience as well.
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Doesn't make sense for the dating apps to intentionally reduce the number of like that a particular profile receive upon user's subscription right?

I mean, what is there to gain if the user experience is not good and they decided to not continue their subcription?


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post Apr 20 2024, 10:04 AM

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QUOTE(GetUrAssKicked @ Apr 20 2024, 09:55 AM)
Doesn't make sense for the dating apps to intentionally reduce the number of like that a particular profile receive upon user's subscription right?

I mean, what is there to gain if the user experience is not good and they decided to not continue their subcription?
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That’s what me and my friends experienced, for whatever reason we didn’t get any likes after we subcribed. I believe this only happened to a few, others should be still getting likes after subscribing. Hence it’s been a while since the last time I’m using dating apps, nowadays I don’t know if still the same though.
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post Apr 21 2024, 05:39 PM

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QUOTE(Takudan @ Apr 19 2024, 11:39 PM)
I think we can all agree that no business is out there to lose money. Dating app is just another business so they'll surely find ways to earn. That said, one of their success factors is that people actually meet their success eventually, and then recommend others by word of mouth.

I found my success (touch wood so far so good) from FB dating without paying a cent. Sure, you can say "girl ma ofc easier".... But my bf said the same biggrin.gif and I'm obviously not the only one pair out there, I've heard many success stories.

That being said, I also believe that dating apps are fixating user's mindset and that's a not entirely a good thing for the dating scene. To start, it guides you through profile creation and you literally fill up a form -- there is a preset of questions to answer. It also gives you all kinds of preferences to filter out people. Now you already have a set of criteria in your head and if someone doesn't meet it, you swipe left. Sounds easy, and I think to a certain extent, it helps. E.g. I hate smoking so a smoker is a deal-breaker to me. Anyone who smokes, we don't have to waste time on each other, cool. Add in 10 more "deal-breakers", you suddenly end up with a very small pool of candidates. Look at couples around you and better yet, talk to them. Or at least, let me just say this: he has qualities I never thought I needed until I got to know him, some of which was quite opposite of what I thought I wanted. It takes knowing others to know yourself more.

Well, it tells you to write whatever you want in a free field description so you're not bound to set rules, doesn't that solve the problem? But that exactly is the problem too!
A) You write a full essay about yourself, people lose interest in interacting with you anymore - and you also tell them what to think of you without a two-way exchange to share the details. People read something they don't like and they just proceed to swipe left.

B) You write a list of criteria you're looking for - well that practically goes back to the previous problem: you're limiting your pool. Moreover, someone who reads, "I'm looking for a mature adult", ironically indicates that you're on the immature side that you cannot deal with it.

C) You don't write ANYTHING. Well then you're not giving people a reason to know you; a mystery to solve.

IMO, dating apps, paid or not, is just a tool for you to achieve your goal of finding a partner. It may not work for you but doesn't mean it's faulty; someone else may find use for it.
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Can't agree with you more, after getting you and some people's advices, I start using dating apps to know single men, although I went out with 6 guys but it didn't work, dating apps are just a platform for us to know single men or some insincere men who are looking for other purposes.
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post Apr 21 2024, 05:41 PM

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QUOTE(Napalm_man @ Apr 20 2024, 10:04 AM)
That’s what me and my friends experienced, for whatever reason we didn’t get any likes after we subcribed. I believe this only happened to a few, others should be still getting likes after subscribing. Hence it’s been a while since the last time I’m using dating apps, nowadays I don’t know if still the same though.
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I would like to be honest that high chance that you and your friends are not attractive enough to get attention from the ladies from dating apps.
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post Apr 21 2024, 07:02 PM

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QUOTE(moon88 @ Apr 21 2024, 05:41 PM)
I would like to be honest that high chance that you and your friends are not attractive enough to get attention from the ladies from dating apps.
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ive friend who goes to gym (show muscles) and hobbies
he gets regular matches and can easily ask girl to meet up and go to his place. Just shows you how disadvantageous a male is if he doesnt work on his value

Of course, my friend is very picky with which girl he wants to sleep with, but girls will just keep knocking his door

just proven another point, most girls just wanna be farked.
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QUOTE(moon88 @ Apr 21 2024, 05:41 PM)
I would like to be honest that high chance that you and your friends are not attractive enough to get attention from the ladies from dating apps.
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This i agreed
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post Apr 21 2024, 07:57 PM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Apr 21 2024, 07:02 PM)
ive friend who goes to gym (show muscles) and hobbies
he gets regular matches and can easily ask girl to meet up and go to his place. Just shows you how disadvantageous a male is if he doesnt work on his value

Of course, my friend is very picky with which girl he wants to sleep with, but girls will just keep knocking his door

just proven another point, most girls just wanna be farked.
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I remember few times you said looks does not matter and you yourself spoke with countless random girl and manage to get their number, then now that your muscular buddy get to choose which girls to bang?
How do i remember? Because it was you who kept disagreeing me about shit face don't get girls. Oh and never try never know right you said? Confident is the key right?

Let me finish this for you, your muscle friend there either average or good looking.
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QUOTE(Napalm_man @ Apr 21 2024, 07:57 PM)
I remember few times you said looks does not matter and you yourself spoke with countless random girl and manage to get their number, then now that your muscular buddy get to choose which girls to bang?
How do i remember? Because it was you who kept disagreeing me about shit face don't get girls. Oh and never try never know right you said? Confident is the key right?

Let me finish this for you, your muscle friend there either average or good looking.
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If you ugly n lazy to talk to girls, you're farked for most part
most girls dont approach you unless you're celebrity
having money and looks or muscle is just a passive way to attract girls

Of course, if i had all the packages i wouldnt need to spend time online i already have girls to fark 24/7
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It's not the fault of dating apps.
It's not your fault about your physical unattractiveness.

In fact it's not about anything or anyone''s fault.
It's just part of the journey of finding your Specific Person.
Some ppl got it faster while some take some time. It's so normal.

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What we Think, we "broadcast " to the universe.
What we broadcast, we attract...
The loops repeat.

The "attractiveness " of a person comes from the "inner vibes".

Their ways of thinking.
Their values on life, relationship, money and some other important parts of life.
Their daily habits and routines that help to shape or strengthen their vibes.
So it would reflect on how they communicate to the opposite genders.

.
It might worth your thoughts...

Probably you may consider split up your after work time to learn about self improvement, about financial management, about taking care your health, about managing relationship from some of the well known and proven successful figures..

To see significant results, it means to take some significant changes in your daily habits and routines..
It means you might need to adjust some time to be in silent mode in order for you to be able to execute the changes, more efficiently.

Probably you may also start with consistent work out on daily basis.
If you are on budget, there are lots of demo videos on YouTube on overall or partially work out.
If you wish enjoy the gym environment then apply gym membership.


But above all things, if you wish find luck in dating apps, you may reflect on yourself....

What are your. "Core beliefs " towards the roles of females in relationship and in marriage ?

How would you like to communicate with them in ways that let them feel that not only you're a bit interesting but most importantly, they can feel your genuine respect and genuine intentions to females ?
....Assume you wish find a lady that could probably with you lifetime. If this is the case.

.
Not all ladies wants very good looking guys.
For some ladies, as long as the guys keep their appearance neat, clean, tidy, and with good integrity,
and with heavy sense of responsibility, even plain looking guys can get their good match.

.
Most ppl are not born good at everything...
It just take times on learning . And keep learning along the the life.

When you start the changes bit by bit and your confidence grow, you attract better pools of quality match and eventually might be your specific person.





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post Apr 22 2024, 09:26 AM

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QUOTE(Life_House @ Apr 22 2024, 12:07 AM)
It's not the fault of dating apps.
It's not your fault about your physical unattractiveness.

In fact it's not about anything or anyone''s fault.
It's just part of the journey of finding your Specific Person.
Some ppl got it faster while some take some time. It's so normal.

.
What we Think, we "broadcast " to the universe.
What we broadcast, we attract...
The loops repeat.

The "attractiveness " of a person comes from the "inner vibes".

Their ways of thinking.
Their values on life, relationship, money and some other important parts of life.
Their daily habits and routines that help to shape or strengthen their vibes.
So it would reflect on how they communicate to the opposite genders.

.
It might worth your thoughts...

Probably you may consider split up your after work time to learn about self improvement, about financial management, about taking care your health, about managing relationship  from some of the well known and proven successful figures..

To see significant results, it means to take some significant changes in your daily habits and routines..
It means you might need to adjust some time to be in silent mode in order for you to be able to execute the changes, more efficiently.

Probably you may also start with consistent work out on daily basis.
If you are on budget, there are lots of demo videos on YouTube on overall or partially work out.
If you wish enjoy the gym environment then apply gym membership.


But above all things, if you wish find luck in dating apps, you may reflect on yourself....

What are your. "Core beliefs " towards the roles of  females in relationship and in marriage ?

How would you like to communicate with them in ways that let them feel that not only you're a bit interesting but most importantly, they can feel your genuine respect and genuine intentions to females ?
....Assume you wish find a lady that could probably with you lifetime. If this is the case.

.
Not all ladies wants very good looking guys.
For some ladies, as long as the guys keep their appearance neat, clean, tidy, and with good integrity,   
and with heavy sense of responsibility, even plain looking guys can get their good match.

.
Most ppl are not born good at everything...
It just take times on learning .  And keep learning along the the life.

When you start the changes bit by bit and your confidence grow, you attract better pools of quality match and eventually might be  your specific person.
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I don't usually read long reply but this, the world would be a better place if everyone has a mature mindset like you. You got my like there thumbsup.gif
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post Apr 22 2024, 09:37 AM

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Hey guys wanna ask- how fast are we expected to reply girls messages these days? Is 1 day gap too late? Usually will match on CMB then bring forward convo to IG; but usually convo dies off over time
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QUOTE(johnsonlim777 @ Apr 22 2024, 09:37 AM)
Hey guys wanna ask- how fast are we expected to reply girls messages these days? Is 1 day gap too late? Usually will match on CMB then bring forward convo to IG; but usually convo dies off over time
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You're not alone about conversation dies off lol, if not mistaken CMB gave you like 7 days(I might be wrong) to chat once matched. And about how soon you should reply a girl, up to you man. Previously me would take around 45 - 1 hour to reply, that's my range.
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QUOTE(Napalm_man @ Apr 22 2024, 09:50 AM)
You're not alone about conversation dies off lol, if not mistaken CMB gave you like 7 days(I might be wrong) to chat once matched. And about how soon you should reply a girl, up to you man. Previously me would take around 45 - 1 hour to reply, that's my range.
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Wow is that the norm nowadays? 45min to 1 hour is quite fast in my opinion
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QUOTE(johnsonlim777 @ Apr 22 2024, 09:37 AM)
Hey guys wanna ask- how fast are we expected to reply girls messages these days? Is 1 day gap too late? Usually will match on CMB then bring forward convo to IG; but usually convo dies off over time
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Girl like you she will reply you instantly!
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QUOTE(johnsonlim777 @ Apr 22 2024, 11:06 AM)
Wow is that the norm nowadays? 45min to 1 hour is quite fast in my opinion
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I can’t really comment about this, some girls does take days to reply then like no more.
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No luck with dating app, all scammers. Either scam or ask for sex. Lol.
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QUOTE(nicole_4ever @ May 8 2024, 02:15 AM)
No luck with dating app, all scammers. Either scam or ask for sex. Lol.
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What kind of scam you encountered?

I met typical nigerian types of love scam, then the pig butchering scam where they introducing those catchy forex or bitcoin trading.
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What kind of scam you encountered?

I met typical nigerian types of love scam, then the pig butchering scam where they introducing those catchy forex or bitcoin trading.
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Investment. Telling you 'Brb, I am going to check my market' 😅

Latest one is to get you like their online page which i am not sure what they can get other than a like. 😐
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Investment. Telling you 'Brb, I am going to check my market' 😅

Latest one is to get you like their online page which i am not sure what they can get other than a like. 😐
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Like their page, now that's new. I seen few girls fishing for follower on their instagram by sharing the QR code, texted them but lol they don't even bother to read.

Still using dating apps?
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QUOTE(Napalm_man @ May 8 2024, 10:37 AM)
Like their page, now that's new. I seen few girls fishing for follower on their instagram by sharing the QR code, texted them but lol they don't even bother to read.

Still using dating apps?
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Nope, if you talking about fb dating profile, tinder.

Gave up 😅.
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QUOTE(nicole_4ever @ May 8 2024, 10:59 AM)
Nope, if you talking about fb dating profile, tinder.

Gave up 😅.
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That's understandable, due to so many scam ruining the apps. You didn't try Love Classified? I would say the chances of encountering scammer are low there, but still i would say those looking for sex still lingering around.

Currently texting one from Love Classified, she message me last week and we been chatting until now.
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That's understandable, due to so many scam ruining the apps. You didn't try Love Classified? I would say the chances of encountering scammer are low there, but still i would say those looking for sex still lingering around.

Currently texting one from Love Classified, she message me last week and we been chatting until now.
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I guess I am okay to be single, probably status ain't my priority anymore like what used to be.


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I guess I am okay to be single, probably status ain't my priority anymore like what used to be.
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I am also slowly getting used to being single now. Getting emotionally tired from trying dating apps.

Dating app feels very disconnected. Those that I match with r also very cautious when chatting so things slowly die off. Don't feel like they have the intrest in getting to know each other.
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I am also slowly getting used to being single now. Getting emotionally tired from trying dating apps.

Dating app feels very disconnected. Those that I match with r also very cautious when chatting so things slowly die off. Don't feel like they have the intrest in getting to know each other.
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Understandable, harder to get match with people that met our requirements. Don’t get me wrong, every person whether men or women has their preferences. Some men like women with long hair, some women like tall men etc.

Then when we matched with some, there’s a possibility that person is a pig butchering or romance scammers.
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No luck with dating app, all scammers. Either scam or ask for sex. Lol.
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What kind of scam you encountered?

I met typical nigerian types of love scam, then the pig butchering scam where they introducing those catchy forex or bitcoin trading.
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QUOTE(NAVEE @ May 9 2024, 11:37 AM)
I am also slowly getting used to being single now. Getting emotionally tired from trying dating apps.

Dating app feels very disconnected. Those that I match with r also very cautious when chatting so things slowly die off. Don't feel like they have the intrest in getting to know each other.
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Don't know how you guys chat with girls or talk with them. Most I talk to ok je.

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Don't know how you guys chat with girls or talk with them. Most it talk to ok je.
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Don't know how you guys chat with girls or talk with them. Most I talk to ok je.
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For scammer, it doesn’t matter how well or smooth the conversation is. In matter of time, they will show their true colours by introducing you with those weird forex/bitcoin trading.

I also curious what went wrong, the conversation not related to politics or government or religion etc. Just casual conversation, perhaps my face problems then.
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QUOTE(Napalm_man @ May 9 2024, 01:13 PM)
Understandable, harder to get match with people that met our requirements. Don’t get me wrong, every person whether men or women has their preferences. Some men like women with long hair, some women like tall men etc.

Then when we matched with some, there’s a possibility that person is a pig butchering or romance scammers.
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I am not sure what i want after went through a short relationship like maybe 2 or 3 years ago and from what i can said about myself in that moment, i don't care how he looks at all (tbh, he is way below average) and he is even barely can pay for our date (AA, and it doesn't bother me at all).

The funniest part, he does care about how I look and how much I earned (my observation won't go wrong). He left me during my toughest time.


So, when every time i am trying to know someone, i will automatically tell them, I am over 100kg (which is true previously) or how ugly I am. I do not want to waste anybody time. End up, not even one online person was keep in my phone list.

Time fast forward, I am tired doing this and slowly giving up about having someone to come into my life.




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QUOTE(NAVEE @ May 9 2024, 11:37 AM)
I am also slowly getting used to being single now. Getting emotionally tired from trying dating apps.

Dating app feels very disconnected. Those that I match with r also very cautious when chatting so things slowly die off. Don't feel like they have the intrest in getting to know each other.
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Yea, as user, I am lazy to response anymore😂 i mean in dating app
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I am not sure what i want after went through a short relationship like maybe 2 or 3 years ago and from what i can said about myself in that moment, i don't care how he looks at all (tbh, he is way below average) and he is even barely can pay for our date (AA, and it doesn't bother me at all).

The funniest part, he does care about how I look and how much I earned (my observation won't go wrong). He left me during my toughest time.
So, when every time i am trying to know someone, i will automatically tell them, I am  over 100kg (which is true previously) or how ugly I am. I do not want to waste anybody time. End up, not even one online person was keep in my phone list.

Time fast forward, I am tired doing this and slowly giving up about having someone to come into my life.
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Similar to me, i also inform other girls first hand that i just below average and not tall in height(you can check my post in love classified). But i set a standard for me, i rather to be ugly but healthy and fit than ugly and overweight. I took care of my hygiene as well, cut my nails, my hair, shave my face, take care of my teeth, wearing fresh clothes when going out, use deodorant and no funny smell etc. It’s exhausting though always trying to chase someone not knowing if they will accept us, at the end we might just let it flow and focus on ourselves instead. Like today we can withdraw our KWSP account 3 funds, i plan to clear off my credit card debt as my goal now is to stabilise my finance then get a house by 2025-2025.

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QUOTE(NAVEE @ May 9 2024, 11:37 AM)
I am also slowly getting used to being single now. Getting emotionally tired from trying dating apps.

Dating app feels very disconnected. Those that I match with r also very cautious when chatting so things slowly die off. Don't feel like they have the intrest in getting to know each other.
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you get emotionally tired not because of external circumstances but yourself. Find your issue and dont blame outside for your inadequacy.
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QUOTE(Napalm_man @ Apr 18 2024, 03:17 PM)
Last weekend i was lepak with some friends, you know typical blow water session. Then we talk about dating apps, sharing our experience etc. I do have use dating apps, since i'm single so why not right?

We all know that dating apps works by both party liking each other, you like me then i like you and we matched then we chat then see how far we can go. The apps will blurred those who liked us, in order to see who those people are or more accurately to see if the other person are attractive or no, the apps requires you to subscribe.

One of my friends came out with this theory or whatever you guys called it, if you did not subscribe then chances of you getting likes are quite high if you at least looks average. that is how the apps fish or tricks us to subscribe. And after we subscribed, we got less to no likes. I did subscribe to CMB once, and i noticed my friend here is right. No subscribe, i get like 10 likes with my shit face. But then when i subscribe to see those ladies, our conversation just died not long after even with casual or normal conversation. Even met some scammers on the way, you know those pig butcher scam like we see over the internet and even here in LYN got some people sharing their experience.

Oh yes i did get 1 or 2 dates, but it didn't work out and they just ghosted me. I can see they just suddenly lost interest even though i'm trying to keep the conversation alive, could be because i got a shit face.

So what do you think of this? Is dating apps just focus on making money instead of really helping people to make some friends or get a date? Share your experience as well.
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During the early stage of CMB, if the profile likes you, and the profile appeared in your 12pm list of profiles, the profile will have a notification say that this person likes you one, but now they totally removed it..

And then they introduced, who like me feature, where CMB subscriber can see who has liked em. Then i remember this feature got bug/loophole, where you still can gauge who has like you when swiping the profile. This is because despite profile is blurred in the who like me, still can agak agak guess which profile has liked me if you do the comparison lah. In addition, you still get to swipe profile who like you or not, even didnt subscribe the services.


And lately APP is quite cheeky, purposely show 10-20 peoples like you, but somehow when you swipe ah, you wont get to swipe them one... The amount of people who like you, will remain there, meaning, you wont have a chance to swipe their profile..

But anyway, whats important is a good profile and know how to chat with opposite sex, those subscription is just additional tools to do analysis on your matches...

why i say analysis, because those profile stats such as last online, whether send first messages, how often they reply a message, can tell you alot about the person behavior in the app. haha.
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During the early stage of CMB, if the profile likes you, and the profile appeared in your 12pm list of profiles, the profile will have a notification say that this person likes you one, but now they totally removed it..

And then they introduced, who like me feature, where CMB subscriber can see who has liked em. Then i remember this feature got bug/loophole, where you still can gauge who has like you when swiping the profile. This is because despite profile is blurred in the who like me, still can agak agak guess which profile has liked me if you do the comparison lah. In addition, you still get to swipe profile who like you or not, even didnt subscribe the services.
And lately APP is quite cheeky, purposely show 10-20 peoples like you, but somehow when you swipe ah, you wont get to swipe them one... The amount of people who like you, will remain there, meaning, you wont have a chance to swipe their profile.. 

But anyway, whats important is a good profile and know how to chat with opposite sex, those subscription is just additional tools to do analysis on your matches...

why i say analysis, because those profile stats such as last online, whether send first messages, how often they reply a message, can tell you alot about the person behavior in the app. haha.
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Good point there, perhaps due to apps bugs for not able to swipez

Besides not getting matches, I think the worst would be matched with pig butchering scammers. Early stage it was all happy chatting, share some photos and videos even voice chats. Then not even a week, they start introducing forex/bitcoin trading or some money games. How much they earned, then inviting you to join them. These scammers took advantages on those single people, boys and girls also felt for it.

Few months back i received this picture from a match, lol when i question her she just pusing2 and then stop talking.

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QUOTE(Napalm_man @ May 15 2024, 01:03 PM)
Good point there, perhaps due to apps bugs for not able to swipez

Besides not getting matches, I think the worst would be matched with pig butchering scammers. Early stage it was all happy chatting, share some photos and videos even voice chats. Then not even a week, they start introducing forex/bitcoin trading or some money games. How much they earned, then inviting you to join them. These scammers took advantages on those single people, boys and girls also felt for it.

Few months back i received this picture from a match, lol when i question her she just pusing2 and then stop talking.

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I never receive such scammer matches before. Hahahaha. Dont know wanna say I envious or sad cos they look me no up.
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I never receive such scammer matches before. Hahahaha. Dont know wanna say I envious or sad cos they look me no up.
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Here’s couple of hints, previously their story is that they’re Malaysian working in China or Singapore etc. Nowadays they use Malaysia phone numbers, even have instagram account with stolen pictures. The chat are pretty decent, sharing stories etc. within a week, they will tell you about those money games or investment or trading they been up to and earned decent amount of money. That’s a red flag, when you questioning them about it they’ll just spin around or accuse you being sensitive. Saying “You changed so fast, i don’t know what’s wrong with sharing experiences about making money.” etc.

Long story short, don’t get too attached first on those matches. Once they start talking about money or investment or trading, you can block them because they only want to scam you.

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Here’s couple of hints, previously their story is that they’re Malaysian workers in China or Singapore etc. Nowadays they use Malaysia phone numbers, even have instagram account with stole pictures. The chat are pretty decent, sharing stories etc. within a week, they will tell you about those money games or investment or trading they been up to and earned decent amount of money. That’s a red flag, when you questioning them about it they’ll just spin around or accuse you being sensitive. Saying “You changed so fast, i don’t know what’s wrong with sharing experiences about making money.” etc.

Long story short, don’t get too attached first on those matches. Once they start talking about money or investment or trading, you can block them because they only want to scam you.
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Yeaps but nowadays we have something new, Amway agents. They first will seem very interested to talk to you. Asking all your interests and all, then suddenly say want to just meet new friends and come out for a drink / food. End up, they want you to join their Amway.
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Yeaps but nowadays we have something new, Amway agents. They first will seem very interested to talk to you. Asking all your interests and all, then suddenly say want to just meet new friends and come out for a drink / food. End up, they want you to join their Amway.
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That’s definitely something what my insurance friends will do
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Yeaps but nowadays we have something new, Amway agents. They first will seem very interested to talk to you. Asking all your interests and all, then suddenly say want to just meet new friends and come out for a drink / food. End up, they want you to join their Amway.
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you can instantly feel whether someone is interested making friends. When you ask them questions they will tend to avoid answering it instead they will make sure you talk more than them.

thats typical insurance agents i encountered
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QUOTE(Napalm_man @ Apr 18 2024, 04:17 PM)
Last weekend i was lepak with some friends, you know typical blow water session. Then we talk about dating apps, sharing our experience etc. I do have use dating apps, since i'm single so why not right?

We all know that dating apps works by both party liking each other, you like me then i like you and we matched then we chat then see how far we can go. The apps will blurred those who liked us, in order to see who those people are or more accurately to see if the other person are attractive or no, the apps requires you to subscribe.

One of my friends came out with this theory or whatever you guys called it, if you did not subscribe then chances of you getting likes are quite high if you at least looks average. that is how the apps fish or tricks us to subscribe. And after we subscribed, we got less to no likes. I did subscribe to CMB once, and i noticed my friend here is right. No subscribe, i get like 10 likes with my shit face. But then when i subscribe to see those ladies, our conversation just died not long after even with casual or normal conversation. Even met some scammers on the way, you know those pig butcher scam like we see over the internet and even here in LYN got some people sharing their experience.

Oh yes i did get 1 or 2 dates, but it didn't work out and they just ghosted me. I can see they just suddenly lost interest even though i'm trying to keep the conversation alive, could be because i got a shit face.

So what do you think of this? Is dating apps just focus on making money instead of really helping people to make some friends or get a date? Share your experience as well.
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Actually this CMB app is the best. If you want to use another app, that would be FB dating. The other apps can forget about them (the yield is low as you only swipe without a chance to even chat on the app.)

CMB focuses on showing attractive profiles on the Discover page - so that you may be tempted to buy beans (CMB currency) to send her e-flowers. It will tend to display girls with similar occupation as yours but with you out of the criteria most of the time.

The premium subscription helps because it gives you some free e-flowers every month to make you stand out, and also help you to identify suspicious profiles by displaying their chat statistics. If its too good to be true, then there is a high chance of scam/fake profiles. Often there will be a picture of attractive pretty girl who chats 100% with everyone and sends the first message 100% all the time, and they response within less than 1 hour, sometimes even 15min.

Genuine attractive girl profiles often have 0% chat initiation and they chat with less than half with their matches. Even then, it is only a screening method. The best way to avoid being scammed is to meet up at an agreed place/time and ask her Whatsapp after meeting up. Sometimes the girl will leave her Whatsapp number in the CMB chat but have to be careful should you choose to text her on Whatsapp (sometimes its just scammers fishing for your number.)

One way to identify scammers is the way they chat with you. They will tend to agree with you on things (whatever general shit it is), and then tell you things such as:
1) the app is laggy (but they responded way faster than most than other girls)
2) i hardly use this app

Other patterns are
3) profiles descriptions that are bare minimum (they don't reveal their uni/occupation/text description of themselves) but yet eagerly give you their number (especially when u didn't chat much)
4) or mentioning professions that make them more trustable

Often CMB would send you email telling you that they had frozen some profile matches (due to reports of scamming activity)
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Never used a dating app… wrong generation. Back in my time, back in those days, we actually had to have the testicular fortitude to walk to up the fairer gender and ask them whether they would be keen for a movie, or a lunch or some other lame ass excuse….
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Never used a dating app… wrong generation. Back in my time, back in those days, we actually had to have the testicular fortitude to walk to up the fairer gender and ask them whether they would be keen for a movie, or a lunch or some other lame ass excuse….
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Ironically, as people become more connected on the internet, we become more disconnected in reality. We see more ugly than beauty of life in the virtual world, and it's because they're all real, that we fear so much more against the unknown.
"Strangers talking to you out of the blue? RUN." Statistically speaking, not every stranger is out there to bite you. Interestingly, I just went for a buffet lunch at one world hotel recently where you walk to booths for your food... An elderly stranger randomly exclaimed to me that the food I'm about to take is very good. Perhaps it's the older generation that is more open to strike a random conversation to a stranger. Was it loneliness at old age? Maybe, but I guess the older generation is less guarded (also sadly why they're also the most vulnerable group to fall into scams).

Dating app is a relatively safer platform for like minded people (like minded being, most people in there are looking for a partner) to find each other. Sure, there are scammers, but people are likely to be confident that "I won't be that dumbass falling for Nigerian prince trick!" At the very least, and awkward guy on the app is much less likely to be called a creep for talking to a girl he matches with.
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QUOTE(Takudan @ Jun 8 2024, 12:15 AM)
Ironically, as people become more connected on the internet, we become more disconnected in reality. We see more ugly than beauty of life in the virtual world, and it's because they're all real, that we fear so much more against the unknown.
"Strangers talking to you out of the blue? RUN." Statistically speaking, not every stranger is out there to bite you. Interestingly, I just went for a buffet lunch at one world hotel recently where you walk to booths for your food... An elderly stranger randomly exclaimed to me that the food I'm about to take is very good. Perhaps it's the older generation that is more open to strike a random conversation to a stranger. Was it loneliness at old age? Maybe, but I guess the older generation is less guarded (also sadly why they're also the most vulnerable group to fall into scams).

Dating app is a relatively safer platform for like minded people (like minded being, most people in there are looking for a partner) to find each other. Sure, there are scammers, but people are likely to be confident that "I won't be that dumbass falling for Nigerian prince trick!" At the very least, and awkward guy on the app is much less likely to be called a creep for talking to a girl he matches with.
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QUOTE(hksgmy @ Jun 8 2024, 12:28 AM)
My favourite hotel whenever we visit home. You have good taste haha, and that elderly stranger might just as well have been me - been known to have done that heaps, much to waifu’s embarrassment.
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Oh there's no way that's you, it was an elderly lady laugh.gif Not something to be embarrassed I'd say, even if you fumble in words. That's just being human... Honestly, I felt odd at that time, but in hindsight now that I'm not eaten alive by a scammer, I'm glad a stranger found me safe looking to have a small talk with.

I used to hate small talks, but now I try to appreciate people's effort in trying to connect to others, even if meaninglessly.
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QUOTE(Takudan @ Jun 8 2024, 01:00 AM)
Oh there's no way that's you, it was an elderly lady laugh.gif Not something to be embarrassed I'd say, even if you fumble in words. That's just being human... Honestly, I felt odd at that time, but in hindsight now that I'm not eaten alive by a scammer, I'm glad a stranger found me safe looking to have a small talk with.

I used to hate small talks, but now I try to appreciate people's effort in trying to connect to others, even if meaninglessly.
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It’s our Asian upbringing. My penchant for small talk didn’t really take off until I went to Australia for Uni and suddenly, I was pleasantly surprised that people actually said “Good Day” to strangers on the street…
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QUOTE(silverhawk @ Jun 8 2024, 02:21 AM)
Strange, I used to have random conversations with strangers all the time in PJ when I used to take public transport. Of course no where as friendly as the aussies, but small talk was pretty common.
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I find age has also played a role in loosening my tongue. One is less likely to rub the wrong way when one is as old as I am now, compared to best intentions gone awry in a younger version of self.
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post Jun 8 2024, 08:06 AM

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QUOTE(hksgmy @ Jun 8 2024, 01:04 AM)
It’s our Asian upbringing. My penchant for small talk didn’t really take off until I went to Australia for Uni and suddenly, I was pleasantly surprised that people actually said “Good Day” to strangers on the street…
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there's different level of judgment when it comes to different races etc. Hence, an asian can easily stand out in Malaysia when he's not shy/introverted cause his soul can be free. People who are nervous or depressed are not connected to the source.
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post Jun 8 2024, 08:31 AM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Jun 8 2024, 08:06 AM)
there's different level of judgment when it comes to different races etc. Hence, an asian can easily stand out in Malaysia when he's not shy/introverted cause his soul can be free. People who are nervous or depressed are not connected to the source.
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Let’s not jump to conclusions too hastily my young friend. Just because one prefers to listen rather than enunciate in no way or manner makes him nervous or depressed. In fact, it can easily be said that loose talk is an attempt to mask one’s lack of self confidence. Context and circumstances are essential.
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QUOTE(hksgmy @ Jun 8 2024, 08:31 AM)
Let’s not jump to conclusions too hastily my young friend. Just because one prefers to listen rather than enunciate in no way or manner makes him nervous or depressed. In fact, it can easily be said that loose talk is an attempt to mask one’s lack of self confidence. Context and circumstances are essential.
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there's a subtle check when someone is listen with clarity versus listening with no options because he or she doesnt know how to game but had to be people pleasing fake listening
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post Jun 8 2024, 08:41 AM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Jun 8 2024, 08:40 AM)
there's a subtle check when someone is listen with clarity versus listening with no options because he or she doesnt know how to game but had to be people pleasing fake listening
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Ah, but how would you know? Or do you judge every quiet listener to be a fool?
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QUOTE(hksgmy @ Jun 8 2024, 08:41 AM)
Ah, but how would you know? Or do you judge every quiet listener to be a fool?
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you engage with your heart or intuition to witness a person potential
being stubborn with the mind doesnt help
the mind can be effective at stating a certain direction or steps
but overanalyzing, is breaking the flow of life
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post Jun 8 2024, 08:47 AM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Jun 8 2024, 08:44 AM)
you engage with your heart or intuition to witness a person potential
being stubborn with the mind doesnt help
the mind can be effective at stating a certain direction or steps
but overanalyzing, is breaking the flow of life
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Ok, you got me there. I fear the chasm is too wide for me to traverse, between you waxing philosophy and my limited ability to read between your lines.
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QUOTE(hksgmy @ Jun 8 2024, 08:47 AM)
Ok, you got me there. I fear the chasm is too wide for me to traverse, between you waxing philosophy and my limited ability to read between your lines.
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your sixth sense will guide you when you're in present moment engaging with a person. And our mind will starting label a person whether he or she is XYZ element, and in accordance to that, we will do certain actions or find evidences to justify our original judgment is correct

Its unspoken beauty when you witness a person or matter and not judge completely (it can be difficult thing to do when a person mind is racing to nowhere)

 

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