if i were you i would ask her to break-up with her current BF first and then only think about the next move.

i would never be with someone that is in relationship. because i believe in Karma.

Lol I get that a lot... There's no gender / everyone's a guy on the internet anyway

TS, this will be my opinion. The girl is not married yet, hence she is still available.

The girl yet to break away from her current boyfriend probably because she may be looking for certainty before she does it. To certain ppl, that way of doing thing is not acceptable. But what if you look at it in such way, the girl = current employee looking for another job because she find no prospect with her current employer, before the current employee tender her resignation, she want to secure the letter of offer from the firm she is interviewing now. How will you view this? Is this action despicable also or wise ? Coz a lot of people are doing such regardless the male or female employee before they tender their resignation? If you ask me, there is no right or wrong. See how you view it personally.

If you think & feel that you like the girl, you will be a better partner for the girl, both of you will have better future together. By all means, attempt to challenge the current relationship. The girl is waiting for certainty before she make her decision. If you are taking advantage out of her misery, then don't proceed further.

In life, if you can be a better option, become one. If you cannot become a better option, stay put by being neutral and don't become a worse option.

This post has been edited by nihility: Apr 5 2024, 06:28 PM

I'm in a similiar situation, but she seems the one who chasing her BF, I love her with all my heart and I sad for me to see the one I love are treated poorly by her BF and then I decided to walk away as I cannot love someone GF and she told me that don't pity ot have feeling for her, but it's hard for me as we always doing things together as we almost like couple even my friends and colleague thinks me and her are together as we seems really close, until now I can't get her outta my head everything I see remind me of her.

I have done everything for her, from money, energy and time, I even send back her back to her hometown in the middle of then night just because bus ticket are finished and she can't go back as she has important event in her hometown (city in east coast 4 hour drive) without asking any penny from her

If we talking about effort, I have done more than her BF

Well's that life, I hope she's happy and everyday felt so broken and I hope time will heal me and I will find a girl that appreciate my effort

only proceed if she comes closer, but distant urself if u feel like she is moving away from u, things are easier if the girl falls for u first instead of u falling for her

No need to give up. Just remember she will look for better when with you. She is just doing it now in current relationship.

if she dont have a boyfriend, u might need to win over alot of competitors. If she have a boyfriend, u just need to win over 1 person. which one is easier u choose