wait 8 month

yes, i think recovery start when you accept the pain
is just part of the process
cant run away from it to recover
must go thru it

i`m not that strong

It's not just you. This is the process. It takes months years and years for some.

You don't need to say it out that you have forgiven that person. When that person comes into mind one day and you have no hatred towards her/him anymore that's when u oredi forgave. Almost feel like she:s/he's not as important and what you are currently doing already, the memory just past by, you'll naturally do urgent important stuff rather than thinking about it.

Just sabar , you will get there

thank you for your word of wisdom
in any case, just need to be stronger dragging this heave feet of memory onwards

Sorry about what happened to you TS, only time will cure this.

Right now all you can do is to remove everything that reminds you of him/her, get a hobby, start working out, some short trip, fill your mind with anything healthy and positive.

Good luck TS

Don't underestimate yourself, u already taking a step here to solve ur problems..
heck i even ask myself what the purpose of life at 1 point...but a friend did help me to recover..

stay strong if need a ear just share it and let go...

From time to time, your mind will refresh the past. Nothing wrong with it. Either good or bad memories, treat it just like part of life experience and accept and cherish it. At present, it can never do anything worse or better.

TS, try to look into the process. From you the point when you was single, become engaged in the relationship, then broke up from the relationship.

Re-visit back your memories before you went in relationship. You are doing just fine before you was into the relationship. Revisit that conditions.

Restart from that point of life. No doubt you cannot erase the memory because the good & bad memories are what each individual need to experience in this life.

Remember, at the point before you enter the relationship, your set of priorities in life is different.

I experienced that before. To say it was not sad, it will be a lie. Thinking it back, that period was full of negativities. You will felt all the negative emotions rushing in & you will be flooded with negative thinking - it is normal.

Reset your priority. Once you have reset your priority, it is easier to move forward.

Of course some of the friends will teased you and said something like "dai sei, last time when got gf, did not bother about friends anymore, now no more gf, then come find us, you think we are what ?" but you got no choice to be criticized a bit by such friends. Just enjoy that moment that you can hang up with your male friends (provided they are still single). If not, you have to hang out with the younger generations already.

An individual with a lot of hobbies can overcome this phase easier than an individual without any hobby.

let the pain flow through u cuz this process is inevitable, get away from her by any means including not seeing her, not knowing her stuff n shit, just urself, be selfish cuz u know she wont give a f even if ur depressed, might as well just block her from all ur socials so that the chance of u seeing her activities are lesser and think less of her

most importantly, f off and away from her cuz she wont come back thats a fact

yeah, block her FB, IG, whatsapp, wechat, FB messenger... delete history

cry your heart out if you need to... if you need help crying try youtube all the sad songs u can think of... then cry

cry in car, cry in shower... cry alone... unless u have wingman la, or brothers...

do exercise, hobbies... play some games, go out for a drive

time...
nothing better than the time...
savor the moment, it will remind you that you are alive

There's no real formula to it. Just know that your mind cannot conceive of a negative concept. "I want to forget her" will just make you think of her. So when people tell you to busy yourself, they are not wrong.

However, it can also mean you were just running from the feelings. When the thought resurfaces, all those feelings return and you're back to square one. You need to spend some time to actually process your feelings, and come to terms with how things are now.

lai i free u tinder gold or plus for 6 month

Well, the answers are all around this thread. Wish you well. Take the time to heal.

no formula, face it head on.

over the years it becomes part of u.

many friends still recall their ex even after marriage.

maybe not so painful, but they still recall them being kicked in the teeth due to the break up.

Do others thing, make yourself busy. Divert your attention to others thing like work hard, date a new girl, drinks with some friends, talk to friends and family, and don't stay alone. Faster way is dating a new girls, can try get a new girl from sugarbook or others apps too.

If you're reviving old threads for the post count, please do it in K'.

This post has been edited by Loseeker: Feb 3 2024, 11:31 AM

from my personal experienced .. i keep myself busy with my hobby , family and job

Personal experience.. keep self busy not easy. There will be times you will be free and the memories keep come back. The heart damm ache literally. Somemore if the person is so far away. I wonder how those lose their love on cope. No wonder some willing to suicide with faintn hope of meeting their love one in afterlife if it exist. Now as i type this my heart ache again as i think of her again. Luckily next month gonna meet her

well it's true not that easy , as for me myself just being a good friend , not more then that , with that i wont loose her totally