https://says.com/my/fun/netizen-says-dont-g...a-rm300-ang-pow

Link above.

The original poster said if cannot give RM300, dun attend or dun agree to attend.

My question is, can reject wedding invites wan meh?

everything is possible if you can forgo your face.

of coz can reject....
why can't?

If not close relative or friend, reject saja.

I usually put 1k if very close family..been doing it for 20 years.

Most kelik invite me i just decline, unless reli close keliks.

If go aso i bagi RM200 angpow cz i stingy

200 a lot le walao

rm10 only

not your responsibility to pay for wedding meal

can, just make up an excuse, don't go no need give.

Rm200 is alot

Stingy is Rm1 or not even brother to give angpow..

Well not the worst, my rich friend wedding on male side 100 tables because of business associates and the female side requested for 50 table because the male side pay for all.

The wife side dun have enough relative, they even invited those association with the same surname. Most of them only RM30 angpao and came to fill up the tables

Lagi malu...

I'd go coz free food, gift depends on how well I know/like the person regardless family or not. Can be RM8,RM88 or RM888.

U bila lagi?

I'll give RM 300 worth of Oral Contraceptive Pill to them....

rm500 to help

300 to attend your wedding might as well I spend that money on fine dining with the one I treasured most …

Idiot

Wah so tamak

I usually give RM20.

Normally receive invitation even if dont go also must pay a token sum RM50-100

Some couple would ask first, as a courtesy. They also don’t want to send invitation if the guest cant make it.

Some just send, and ask people to RSVP. If confirmed going but cant make it, the seat is already reserved so must pay too

Yes it is a troublesome thing

if not close family members or close friends, I'll just reject. no point going just to show face and sit with strangers for an awkward dinner.

if me straight black list/block all contacts.

150 per pax still ok.

300 i rather say i kena kobis cant attend.

I realise this thing too. It's like some sort of emotional blackmail.

My wedding I spent nearly 90k.

Didn't even expect any money back. So what? Everyone had a great time

Cheapskate to make gain to cover wedding costs. Not enough money just register with JPN and tea ceremony. No need wedding banquet and honeymoon. Don't piap wife until pregnant since not enough money.

Why not? I've never attended >90% of weddings despite being invited.

Ktard standard angpow 888

in my opinion, most of the time is the parents want not they want. kena forced by parents to do also big issue.
Got 1 time, I heard my uncle said to the son "Son, dun care you wu lui or bo lui, u need to have a reputable banquet so that ppl will give me face"

Dulu market rate 100 now already 200 ka?

Because like someone said, even reject to go must pay some costs

Zaman dulu-dulu in my 20s i used to gib only RM100, but when i tell my parents they scold me say xia suay, so stingy.

So now minimum i give RM200 for acquintance/keliks, RM500 for normal friends/distant relative, RM888 for close friends/relatives, RM1k above for families.

88.80 can?

Angpow is a form of gift, is voluntary, is not a obligation. Hence, could be any amount.

It is the host decision on location and price, couldn't expect guests to pay. if the host doesn't want to loss money, should host at cheaper price else the host should pay.

Thats where the red boom coined frm eh.

ikut kemampuan.
i come alone or with left hand, u expect RM1000,
I rather go eat nothing, freeload.

u invite me, u didnt ask directly for payment

Adjusted for inflation

I guess so.

Give Giant voucher RM30 enough.

Highest I have ever given for a wedding is USD 100 (actual US note) for a best friend's wedding. Yh venue and food not fantastic.

Others, maybe RM 100-200 max or depending on venue. If like Hilton KL or better, at least RM 300.

Just give excuse and reject.

Apa susah?

This kind of abeng weeding destroys the culture.

No. Tell the bride or the groom don't give you the "red bomb" as that day you have other appointment. Tell them earlier before they drop the bomb on you.

Taruk surat khabar and makan free kan bole.

can reject. question is your skin thick enough or not.

Wah. Can do this wan meh? Won't they coin this as Rude? Cause pernah sekali my mother did something like that, like just jokingly say "Don't need bomb me, I not free". It was her colleague punya wedding but end up the colleague made a big fuss calling out my mother as a miser cause she said that.

1k whole family go?

Cousin got married recently at Plaza E. Since our family got a table to ourselves, we packed 3k in total.
1k from my parents & bro/1k my sis & her fly/1k from my fly. Total 10 pax inc 3 kids.

The table costs RM3699 before tax. Gilerrr

i dont even know whats the point doing this kind of dinner.

Of course can reject

RM2,200/table is not even a lot... its the basic package in most hotels/restaurants.

The couple got the wrong mindset already, you invite people to share the joy of the event, not to make money off your guests. You also choose a nice place to impress people, why should they pay for your ego? Any amount you get from the ang bao is a bonus, you should not expect a single cent.

Only the wannabes behave like this. The true helangs will straight up say "No gifts / ang bao" then you go to the dinner it is super lavish (lobsters, caviar, abalone, etc) with table side serving. "I'm so rich, I can belanja you all this level", that is how to properly flex.

The couple should be inviting guests and should not force guests to attend. To attend or not to attend is the guests right.

Just put how much you willing in angpow packet la...

Or they prepare cash register at entrance?

Give monopoly money, if want extreme give hell money.

kuceng sakit ,not gonna make it

kthxbye

u can pay below 300, say 100. So u dont expect he will pay u 300 for your wedding.

Japanese style best lah.

In the invitation, terang terang tulis:
- how much the couple spent for the ceremony
- how much they expect each from the guest
- if you wish to attend, please RSVP (means u're agreeable lah)
- invitee are free to not attend

I waiting ur angpow 😂

what type of pariah people demand certain amount from guests la. can't afford to organize wedding dinner then make it smaller lo. y so lanjiao create problems from trivial issues.

but to highlight such issue before inviting also good la. save people's time and money, probably gave a clearer picture of friendship/kinship value.
Priotize money receipts over events of sharing happiness. might as well call it collect money event instead of wedding dinner.

that being said,
also dun lanjiao bring 5 people but angpow gip RM100 la.


Covid is the savior for many newly weds. no need go though all these consuming events.

Yea, last months cousin wedding they already spread the price per table so that guest know how much they need to pack ang pao.

This post has been edited by iamSUSUman: Jun 30 2022, 05:30 PM

I rejected so many wedding dinners these days.
No shame for rejection.

Yes.... people should know that it is an event to celebrate the HOST... not equal celebration...

you can't expect the people to pay for the exact price portion just to be the secondary side character having to go through your shitty speech... wedding photos...and also to provide courtesy to you because it is your wedding ....

When you are the host and you expect others to celebrate you... you are expected to foot out the ENTIRE cost of the dinner....

the angpows are just extras or good gesture... and you should just treat it as ZERO amount from the beginning..

For all those who are hosting wedding dinners... please remember this...


If we need to fork out RM300 to eat an overpriced dinner (Wedding dinner prices are marked up drastically) ....dress up... show up according to your set time... do stupid antics that you want us to do... feel all awkward sharing a table with strangers.... having the likelihood that the other fatass on the table gobbling up more portion of the food (if it is on a sharing basis).... cheer for you..... hear your stupid speeches.... see your stupid wedding photos and listen to stupid typical "love" songs...


we might as well just go to a fancy restaurant... eat in private... eat whatever we want... and leave whenever we want...


Do not expect the guests to cover your wedding dinner costs.... the dinner itself doesn't worth the money in the first place... and we are celebrating YOU... not ourselves...


You should be grateful that people showed up even without any ang pows....

This post has been edited by holypredator: Jun 30 2022, 06:03 PM

last time people write congratulation wishes on blank paper then put in envelope.

Guest is not obliged to pay for dinner. If one needs to pay, I want to choose my own venue and menu.

dont go then.

Remind me again why should the guests fund your fucking wedding? If don’t have money don’t rent expenses places la.

This post has been edited by thxxht: Jun 30 2022, 08:10 PM

1 table rm2000

10 person rm3000

Nett profit rm1000


Wah ...... Like this i kahwin every year!!!!

50 table can get rm50000 nett profit per wedding!!!


HUAT AHHHHhhHHHhhH!!!!!!

2 org. Bring kids do what? Not kampung mali..

not close, why even go?

especially those relatives long

distant relatives lagi sien

tell them go die

Nowadays inflation, chinese dinner and services price up 25% from 2021.

Today sadly after crazy price hikes by restaurants in 2022, RM 200 angpao will still not cover the dinner and excluding other wedding expenses. Today’s Rm250 angpao is worth rm200 in 2021’s value now.

Most expensive wedding is currently those garden wedding which cost per pax start at around rm350 to 400+

Current rate estimates for chinese wedding taken from the weddingnotebook.

Ang Pow Rates for Hotels/Resorts

Hotels in Kuala Lumpur

Hotels Price Range per Pax (incl. GST)
Aloft KL Sentral RM 250-300
Berjaya Times Square Hotel RM 180-250
Concorde Hotel RM 200-250
Corus Hotel RM 150-200
Dorsett Kuala Lumpur RM 200-250
Double Tree by Hilton RM 300-400
EQ Kuala Lumpur RM 400-500
Four Seasons Kuala Lumpur RM 400-500
Grand Hyatt KL RM 400-500
Grand Millennium KL RM 300-400
Grand Seasons RM 150-200
Hilton KL Sentral RM 300-400
Hotel Istana RM 200-250
Intercontinental Hotel RM 300-400
JW Marriot KL RM 300-400
Le Meridien KL Sentral RM 300-400
Majestic Hotel Kuala Lumpur RM 250-400
Mandarin Oriental KLCC RM 400-500
Parkroyal KL RM 350-450
The Pearl Kuala Lumpur RM 200-300
Pullman KLCC RM 300-400
Pullman KL Bangsar RM 250-350
Shangri-La KL RM 400-500
Sheraton Imperial KL RM 300-400
Swiss Garden Hotel RM 200-250
The Pavilion Hotel RM 300-400
W Kuala Lumpur RM 400-500
Westin KL RM 300-400
Hotels in Selangor

Concorde Shah Alam RM 100-150
Cystal Crown PJ RM 150-200
Cystal Crown Port Klang RM 100-120
De Palma Shah Alam RM 80-100
Empire Hotel RM 200-250
Geno Hotel RM 200-250
Glenmarie Hotel & Golf Resort RM 160-190
Hilton PJ RM 200-300
Le Meridien Petaling Jaya RM 250-350
Le Meridien Putrajaya RM 250-350
Mariott Putrajaya RM 250-350
One World Hotel RM 300-400
The Saujana Hotel RM 200-250
Hotels in Johor

Berjaya Waterfront RM 120-150
Berjaya Tioman Resort RM 350-400
Pulai Springs Resort, Johor RM 120-150
Thistle Hotel Johor Bahru RM 140-160
Hotels in Penang

Bayview Hotel Georgetown RM 150-200
Bayview Beach Resort Penang RM 150-200
Berjaya Penang Hotel RM 100-150
Eastern & Oriental Hotel Penang RM 250-300
Eastin Hotel Penang RM 200-250
G Hotel RM 250-300
Lone Pine Hotel RM 250-300
Parkroyal Penang RM 200-250
Shangri La Rasa Sayang RM 300-350
Hotels in Melaka

Avillion Legacy RM 120-150
HOliday Inn RM 150-220
Casa Del Rio Melaka RM 200-250
Hatten Hotel RM 150-200
Rosa Malacca RM 150-200
The Pines Melaka RM 150-200
Hotels in Perak

Banjaran Hotsprings Retreat RM 500-600
Kinta Riverfront Hotel & Suites RM 120-200
The Haven Resort Hotel Ipoh RM 300-400
Hotels in Pahang

Colmar Tropicale RM 200-250
The Chateau Spa & Organic Wellness Resort RM 300-350
The Smokehouse, Cameron Highlands RM 260-360
Hotels in Kedah

Berjaya Langkawi Resort RM 380-400
The Ritz Carlton Langkawi RM 600-670
The Westin Langkawi RM 260-460
Hotels in Terengganu

The Taaras Redang Island RM 350-400
Hotels in Sarawak

Cove 55, Kuching RM 200-280
Hilton Hotel, Kuching RM 150-200
Imperial Hotel, Kuching RM 110-150
Marriot Hotel, Miri RM 80-100
Pullman Hotel, Kuching RM 120-180
Raia Hotel, Kuching RM 110-150
Hotels in Sabah

Hilton Kota Kinabalu RM 200-280
Hyatt Regency Kinabalu RM 200-280
Promenade Hotel RM 200-280
Shangri La Rasa Ria RM 200-400
Shangri La Tanjung Aru RM 250-380
Ang Pow Rates for Chinese Restaurants

Chinese Restaurants in Klang Valley

Chuai Heng Banquet Hall RM 160-300
Copper Mansion PJ RM 190-380
Dynasty Dragon, Damansara Jaya RM 130-210
Dynasty Dragon, Dataran C180, Balakong RM 110-170
Dynasty Dragon, IOI Mall Puchong RM 130-190
Dynasty Dragon, Klang Parade RM 130-190
Elite Seafood Restaurant, Petaling Jaya RM 170-380
Extra Super Tanker, Damansara Kim RM 160-360
Extra Super Tanker, Glo Damansara RM 160-360
Extra Super Tanker, Tropicana Gardens Mall RM 160-360
Fei Chui Restaurant, Kajang RM 100-160
Golden Dragonboat Restaurant, Kampung Pandan KL RM 110-310
Grand Harbour, Damen RM 110-180
Grand Harbour, Fahrenheit 88 RM 120-190
Grand Harbour, Pavilion Bukit Jalil RM 140-200
Grand Imperial, Bangsar Shopping Centre RM 160-340
Grand Imperial, Grand Ballroom, Sunway RM 210-450
Grand imperial, Hartamas Shopping Centre RM 160-340
Grand Imperial, Pavilion KL RM 160-340
Grand Imperial, Pinnacle Sunway RM 160-340
Grand Imperial, Sunway Velocity RM 160-340
Grand Imperial @The Club, Bukit Utama RM 190-420
Grand Palace @ Central I-City RM 110-160
Grand Palace @ Dewan YTL RM 110-160
HaoXiangChi, ICC-Pudu RM 160-340
HaoXiangChi, Klang Grand Centro RM 90-190
HaoXiangChi, Sekinchan RM 80-100
HaoXiangChi, Setia Alam, Top Glove Tower RM 100-210
Hee Lai Ton Centrestage Section 13, PJ RM 130-220
Hee Lai Ton, Puchong RM 110-250
Hee Lai Ton, Shaw Parade RM 110-250
Jaya Palace Restaurant @ Wisma LYL RM 110-160
Marco Polo Restaurant RM 200-250
Noble House, Imbi, Kuala Lumpur RM 160-300
Noble Mansion, Plaza 33, Petaling Jaya RM 160-300
Oriental Banquet, Section 19, Petaling Jaya RM 160-300
Oriental Pavillion Jaya 33, Petaling Jaya RM 160-300
Oriental Star, EkoCheras Mall RM 160-300
OUG Jade Restaurant RM 160-280
Overseas BBSP, Sri Petaling RM 130-250
Overseas Restaurant Imbi RM 130-250
Palace @ Setia City RM 110-160
Ruyi & Lyn RM 160-280
Seafood World, Plaza 33, Petaling Jaya RM 180-300
Sin Choi Wah Restaurant, Menjalara, Kepong RM 140-240
Tao Intercontiental Hotel RM 250
The Ming Room RM 160-300
TiChen, Saujana KL RM 450-530
Xin Cuisine Concord Hotel RM 160-200
Yen @ WKL RM 400

Relative 1000
Friend 300

Don't turn up on that day or just give any excuse that you cannot attend on that day

Now per table in KL around 2k-3k?

So angpow around RM250 per pax?

Chinese weddings are the worst and these kinds of sohais just cement the fact, always fucking start late, waste time and boring af unless you're close to the bride/groom. Waste money also, they pay so much for the table is not my fucking problem, I makan also don't feel the food is worth rm 100 even lor. Malay weddings are superior in this regard, don't need give so big angpow, makan, chill a bit, wish the bride/groom well, take photos, watch the nikah then can leave dy. No retard boomers yelling on the karaoke also.

i believe yesterday is a auspicious date for chinese wedding.

the small road i used daily got like 3 houses put on temporary extension.

Lol poorfag wanna have lavish wedding and some more demanding guests to bring angpow to cover the wedding’ cost. If really sincere and rich no need to ask the guests for angpow at the first place loh. All fully covered.

This post has been edited by masaka90: Dec 5 2022, 08:45 AM

Got one runner who ran together with me in a running group once. I didn't speak to him. Later he requested to be friend in Facebook. After that he send fb msg invitation to his wedding dinner.

Is he friendly or wanted my angpow? If I don't attend should I give?

what? u invite ppl so you can make profit? hope the couple that did that died of painful death.

and necro this thread for mat7?

can reject one la

just ignore la

lol

trying his luck mass messaging on fesbuk

Yes u can. If plan to be cheap, don't attend. Couple can save the money

lol, rich ppl wedding dont accept angpow de, come free....ini mau untung angpao kahwin, shao pei la

You aren't supposed to profit from angpow or to cover your wedding cost...

Ang pow is just a symbolic gesture...

You should be thankful if they gave even RM50...


You have to remember the guests are there to celebrate YOU.... they have to endure YOUR shitty music... your stupid speech... cheer for you... and being awkward around the dumb farks you don't care about because you place non-important people in your life on the back of the banquet like some fixture and fittings for the event...


Most of the time... from the perspective of the guests...even RM50 is too much cause the food don't even worth that much as those foods are overpriced for the occasion...

Plus.... the fat arse in the table most likely have gobbled up most of the portion... or just to be the bigger man... you would often let the others go ahead with the food first while you eat the scrap...

Most likely going to place you at the far back of the banquet where you can't see shit and can't be seen.... with the rest of the "extras" in one table...

If that person don't think you are important enough .... why should you feel obliged to attend??


in fact... there should be some rules about table sitting...


Front role should pay the most...

mid role pay 50% of the "market rate"...

back role pay 25% of the "market rate"....

Reject jer.

can. why not?

i have receive wedding invitation from ex-classmate. someone whom I never heard of after so many years. out of nowhere invite me to his wedding

should I go? of coz not. obviously just want my ang pao money

exactly, i dont understand why so many noobs overthink until like rejecting a wedding invitation is such a big deal

if close friend or relative i will surely go, not so close and not willing to go one i will just use the same reason outstation n not free, so far i hvnt met someone who straight up ask for angpao la but got hint a bit i also dgaf

sendiri punya wedding still got face to ask for sponsor, bodo pipit wont do thing within their mean

Yes you can always reject the invitation if you do not agree with the terms set by the host.

ang pow minimum rm1.10
so can give rm1.10
good or prosperous number

Seeing this list, really pity the coming generations.

With this behaviour, nobody want to have u as a guest either. Next time just reject or let them know early lah. They also happy not to have to pay for your fat ass

Your wedding coming up?? want to make some profit is it??

scummy people... want others to celebrate for you but expect to make a profit out of them....

friends with people like you... might as well just get a dog...

No money don't do Wedding dinner la.
Like me, I didn't do wedding dinner. Just registration gao tim.

Declare yourself Covid positive. Dont need to attend/pay. Nobody looks down on you. Easy