There's this girl where i've been chasing for 2 years,and she has feeling for me all the time,but due to certain problem,we didn't together.But now,we're finally together.We were having wonderful time everyday,she'll always care and love me,and so do I.But during 1 time,she was having exam,she started to neglect me,it was my first time facing this kinda situation,and i didn know what to do.So i asked her "Is it that ur in love with someone else , do you still want to be with me ". I asked like that because i was afraid to lost her.But i didn knew its because she was pressured by her exam.Eversince then everything changed,she'll never treat me like how she used to,and problems keep happening,i thought time will fix things up,but after 2 months,its still the same. It hurts me all the time seeing our relation like that,so i finally have a serious talk with her. She said she loves me,but the 2 questions "Is it that ur in love with someone else , do you still want to be with me " i asked months ago,make her feel like i doesn trust her,and now she cant fully trust me. She said the questions keep stuck on her mind. I don't know how can i fix this..I seriously madly in love with her....Please anyone out there,HELP ME !!!!! (Giving up on this relationship is not an option,so please dont ask me to give up)

This post has been edited by Kunikatu: Sep 23 2007, 01:32 PM

if problems keep happening, just get other girl la..

fix things up!

Wow.. 2 years... You're really a jerk. If a girl can have a feeling for you for 2 years she wouldn't do that.
Apologize isn't the way either. If you want to gain back her trust, first you have to trust her. Trust, once lost, hard to gain back, but slowly you might gain back, or you might not.... depends on how you going to deal with it.

duh, just buy her flowers and things will be ok.

then, buy her chocolates. say whenever those words echo in the head, eat a chocolate.... stress gone and feel good factor added

girls are like that LOL

cost: RM100
benefit: a free 'cat' from her

trust in the most important thing in a relationship...
i guess, u nid to show her that u trust her.... bring her to dinner for apologizing that u said tat and why did u say tat... Tell her u're sorry, saying that u r very unhappy during these few months coz u dunwan it to be like this.. u wish to be wiv her like it use to be. u kno wat to say la...

give ur support to her... not just mouth talk... watever she want to achieve, always support her wat she needs.

she is facing exam... u can study with her... although it;s not your field or specialty, so u can understand what she is studying and be with her too...

u shouldn't think "make her feel like i doesn trust her,and now she cant fully trust me" u must hav faith and patience to do it.

she expect more from u

wah brother, you hurt her too deep edi.

give her flower like wat recone said and tell her to read this post.... she will understand... hopefully

I never lost faith in her,i was just insecured,it was my 1st time being so serious and loving a girl this much. I seriously think shes the one girl ,the only one for me.... I REALLY DO TRUST HER AND LOVE HER !! GOD PLEASE HELP ME.ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

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Added on September 23, 2007, 12:33 pmShes not the outgoing type...i've dated her out many times,most of the time got rejected.

This post has been edited by Kunikatu: Sep 23 2007, 12:33 PM

almost every girl want their guy to "tam" er..how should i write it in english..ah.."pampered" or shower them with love, just try treat her like the time you chasing her two years ago should be ok..given more time

Im treating her all the time with all my love,never once i've changed. Love her now,always will.

tell u wat....
if u got frens playing LYN forum also.. ask them to tell her, u open a thread for her. Afta she sees this hahaha
oO juz knew tat u're from KTN.. small town.. haha

To be honest,im goin thru hell everyday seeing things like this...even if it cost my life to make things like how it used to be,i'll pay the price. I JUSt CANT LOST HER

@Kunikatu

dont give up hope, try discuss with her openly said lets say...take z3r0717 idea ask her come and read, just simply want her to know what are you thinking

I know well how stuborn she is. I've tried discussing it with her,she just can't forget about those questions i asked her back then,it just stuck on her mind,because of that,she cant fully believe me. Its either she chooses her ego or me,but i dont dare to ask her,if she chooses her ego,I've lost my self confidence,if she chooses her ego over me,then its the end for me...

just tell her everything and let her know..

yea yea.... my idea...

Seriously....i think i've told her everything....but its still the same...currently shes on the beach playing with her friends,although its nothing special,but i somehow feel my heart is being eaten,as im suffering here while shes having fun out there. Am i thinking much?

hmm.. dun think so much.. just let her hav fun.. finish exam rite? let her release stress then get back to her.

Well, seriously, sometimes our words might offence their feeling.

I suppose if i were she, i will felt that, " Why my boyfriend will simply think of that ? Don't he know that im having exam recently, i have lots of subjects need to cover up, why he don't understand me at all ? Why ? He dont even care about me !! T.T "

Assuming if my statement is correct, then i have a suggestion to you, give it a try.

First of all, for your information, girls like guy to be honest to them and let them know exactly what are you thinking. Because sometimes, they are kinda tired on guessing what their partner thinking. So, the interaction between both of you must be good.

Find one day in which she 's not so busy and kinda free, ask her out to somewhere peace and provide good atmosphere with nice food and music. Recommended : Starbuck, coffee bean and etc.

Order a piece of cake and coffee. Sit down, speak softly but seriously. " Seriously " is to let her know you care about the relationship between both of you. Speak out the reason why you said to her like that in the previous conversation. Tell her, you are sorry for that incident, but you really still care about her alot alot alot. ( Your expression must be good and honest enough, dont smile and laugh, she will think that you are not taking it seriously.)

After that, tell her, you wish to listen to her words too. Im sure, she will definitely vomit out all the words that she kept so long in her heart. Well, at that moment, i believe you will listen to lots of issues in which it might be normal and nothing special to you, but meant alot to her.

At last but not least, of course must end with something romantic. At first, Prepare a bonquet of roses and ask the counter to keep them for you. Present your roses to her and say you love her very much.
Roses + chocolate drink + cheese cake = 100% make her sweet deeeeeeeeeeeeeeeply in her heart.

Well, how to maintain the relationship btw both of you, its all up to you.
All the best ! From your message, i know you love her. exactly the same i love my gf.

Regards,
Perfect-Stranger