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I Feel Suicidal How to gain back her trust?

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TSKunikatu
post Sep 23 2007, 10:57 AM, updated 19y ago

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There's this girl where i've been chasing for 2 years,and she has feeling for me all the time,but due to certain problem,we didn't together.But now,we're finally together.We were having wonderful time everyday,she'll always care and love me,and so do I.But during 1 time,she was having exam,she started to neglect me,it was my first time facing this kinda situation,and i didn know what to do.So i asked her "Is it that ur in love with someone else , do you still want to be with me ". I asked like that because i was afraid to lost her.But i didn knew its because she was pressured by her exam.Eversince then everything changed,she'll never treat me like how she used to,and problems keep happening,i thought time will fix things up,but after 2 months,its still the same. It hurts me all the time seeing our relation like that,so i finally have a serious talk with her. She said she loves me,but the 2 questions "Is it that ur in love with someone else , do you still want to be with me " i asked months ago,make her feel like i doesn trust her,and now she cant fully trust me. She said the questions keep stuck on her mind. I don't know how can i fix this..I seriously madly in love with her....Please anyone out there,HELP ME !!!!! (Giving up on this relationship is not an option,so please dont ask me to give up)

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post Sep 23 2007, 12:32 PM

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I never lost faith in her,i was just insecured,it was my 1st time being so serious and loving a girl this much. I seriously think shes the one girl ,the only one for me.... I REALLY DO TRUST HER AND LOVE HER !! GOD PLEASE HELP ME.ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR


Added on September 23, 2007, 12:33 pm
QUOTE(z3r0717 @ Sep 23 2007, 11:30 AM)
trust in the most important thing in a relationship...
i guess, u nid to show her that u trust her.... bring her to dinner for apologizing that u said tat and why did u say tat... Tell her u're sorry, saying that u r very unhappy during these few months coz u dunwan it to be like this.. u wish to be wiv her like it use to be. u kno wat to say la...
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Shes not the outgoing type...i've dated her out many times,most of the time got rejected.

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post Sep 23 2007, 12:39 PM

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QUOTE(Maximp @ Sep 23 2007, 12:34 PM)
almost every girl want their guy to "tam" er..how should i write it in english..ah.."pampered"  or shower them with love, just try treat her like the time you chasing her two years ago smile.gif should be ok..given more time
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Im treating her all the time with all my love,never once i've changed. Love her now,always will.
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post Sep 23 2007, 12:59 PM

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QUOTE(z3r0717 @ Sep 23 2007, 12:51 PM)
tell u wat....
if u got frens playing LYN forum also.. ask them to tell her, u open a thread for her. Afta she sees this thumbup.gif hahaha
oO juz knew tat u're from KTN.. small town.. haha
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To be honest,im goin thru hell everyday seeing things like this...even if it cost my life to make things like how it used to be,i'll pay the price. I JUSt CANT LOST HER
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post Sep 23 2007, 01:09 PM

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QUOTE(Maximp @ Sep 23 2007, 01:01 PM)
@Kunikatu

dont give up hope, try discuss with her openly said lets say...take z3r0717  idea ask her come and read, just simply want her to know what are you thinking
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I know well how stuborn she is. I've tried discussing it with her,she just can't forget about those questions i asked her back then,it just stuck on her mind,because of that,she cant fully believe me. Its either she chooses her ego or me,but i dont dare to ask her,if she chooses her ego,I've lost my self confidence,if she chooses her ego over me,then its the end for me...
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post Sep 23 2007, 01:29 PM

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QUOTE(z3r0717 @ Sep 23 2007, 01:10 PM)
just tell her everything and let her know..
yea yea.... my idea...  thumbup.gif  laugh.gif
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Seriously....i think i've told her everything....but its still the same...currently shes on the beach playing with her friends,although its nothing special,but i somehow feel my heart is being eaten,as im suffering here while shes having fun out there. Am i thinking much?
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post Sep 23 2007, 03:19 PM

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QUOTE(Perfect-Stranger @ Sep 23 2007, 02:31 PM)
Well, seriously, sometimes our words might offence their feeling.

I suppose if i were she, i will felt that, " Why my boyfriend will simply think of that ? Don't he know that im having exam recently, i have lots of subjects need to cover up, why he don't understand me at all ? Why ? He dont even care about me !! T.T "

Assuming if my statement is correct, then i have a suggestion to you, give it a try.

First of all, for your information, girls like guy to be honest to them and let them know exactly what are you thinking. Because sometimes, they are kinda tired on guessing what their partner thinking. So, the interaction between both of you must be good.

Find one day in which she 's not so busy and kinda free, ask her out to somewhere peace and provide good atmosphere with nice food and music. Recommended : Starbuck, coffee bean and etc.

Order a piece of cake and coffee. Sit down, speak softly but seriously. " Seriously " is to let her know you care about the relationship between both of you. Speak out the reason why you said to her like that in the previous conversation. Tell her, you are sorry for that incident, but you really still care about her alot alot alot. ( Your expression must be good and honest enough, dont smile and laugh, she will think that you are not taking it seriously.)

After that, tell her, you wish to listen to her words too. Im sure, she will definitely vomit out all the words that she kept so long in her heart. Well, at that moment, i believe you will listen to lots of issues in which it might be normal and nothing special to you, but meant alot to her.

At last but not least, of course must end with something romantic. At first, Prepare a bonquet of roses and ask the counter to keep them for you. Present your roses to her and say you love her very much.
Roses + chocolate drink + cheese cake = 100% make her sweet deeeeeeeeeeeeeeeply in her heart.

Well, how to maintain the relationship btw both of you, its all up to you.  wub.gif
All the best ! From your message, i know you love her. exactly the same i love my gf.

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Buddy,thanks for ur advice,really appreciate it. Will try my best....


Added on September 23, 2007, 3:21 pm
QUOTE(kapitan @ Sep 23 2007, 03:11 PM)
Mayb you are giving her too much pressure that she feel like taking a break from you. Anyway, help yourself, not us. We can only help you by spanar'ing her. LOL... you are her BF, not us...
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I do admit it,sometimes i really do give her pressure..My fault..If shes willing to tell me her problems,im willing to listen and willing to change.. It hurts me when 2 persons that love each other so much become like this..I just want to fix things up.

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post Sep 23 2007, 05:43 PM

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QUOTE(aladdin @ Sep 23 2007, 05:35 PM)
*ahem ahem* brows.gif
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Apa itu ahem ahem laaaaa
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post Sep 23 2007, 06:16 PM

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She logged in MSN,and ignoring me just like that.

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post Sep 23 2007, 07:44 PM

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no.....just hope that atlest send me a Hi..You dont know how my life is....Most of the time,i'll be thinking about her.The whole noon i'll just log in my msn and sit infront of the monitor waiting for her to online,thats all. I wish she'll understand that i SERIOUSLY do trust her.
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post Sep 23 2007, 08:09 PM

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I'm going australia coming wednesday,alone,will be there atlest for 2 weeks. Honestly,i really want to see her before i leave,but things are like this,really dont know what to do.
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post Sep 23 2007, 09:36 PM

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Hope so......if not,i dont know what to do d...
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post Sep 24 2007, 04:15 PM

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I just called her, i asked if shes free coz i wanted to see her,she told me she doesn know...people,seriously,at this exact moment,i no longer can withstand this anymore...I've tried everything in my power,to fix things up. I SERIOUSLY NEED HER LOVE NOW....she wont look at me and i cant betray her and ask the love from another girl..betrayin her is the last thing on earth i want to do.. I cant bear this pain of watching 2 persons that love each other so much,became like this... I really,feel like cutting my wrist and end all my pain now.

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post Sep 24 2007, 11:13 PM

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not that simple... you wont understand........
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post Sep 25 2007, 02:30 PM

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QUOTE(ladymys2001 @ Sep 25 2007, 03:20 AM)
Seriously, in my point of view, if my bf suddenly buy me 'Roses + chocolate drink + cheese cake' everything so planned and romantic, it makes me more suspicious......  hmm.gif  don't forget... women is very sensitive and suspicious...

To me, just be normal can d... if best, can brust into tears and then keep on saying that you can't lost her.... be very emotion. then hug her tightly... until she says she can't breath.

How's this idea? ok anot?
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Its hard to date her out,i can only see her for maybe 2 times in a month,sometimes maybe lesser..normally we will chat ,almost everyday. I dont think so it will work,if i keep telling her i cant lost her,i think that she will think that im annoying somemore hug her tightly,i think she will really be annoyed evenmore..Shes unique,aint like those common girls.

QUOTE(blackamikaze @ Sep 25 2007, 05:02 AM)
i know u already make a mistake, yeah sure it must been hurting her. But come on, its not like u betray her or whateva. To ignore u like this is too much. Ur gf got too much ego. Just let her be alone. Dont contact her anymore. Just go to aus. If she really love u, she will start to wonder where have u been n why u already stop to contact her.
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I told her about my aus trip. Seriously,shes actually a very very sweet girl....but...i dont know how to say...if i wonder off away like that,i think that,she will just ignore me.

QUOTE(blackamikaze @ Sep 25 2007, 08:00 AM)
so if she can live by herself n dont even think even think about TS, it mean she not love Ts anymore, simple as that... tS should move one then...
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Well said,but not easily done....i've chased her for years...and before her,i've never met any girl in my life that is so special...i really love her,and i seriously do think that i won't last for long if without her..i want us to be happy,like we used to be....its very sad to end a relationship that i've poured almost everything of me into.....i know deep down inside her,she wants to be together happily with me as well.


 

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