Both of us have our own life now.

It's been 4 years since we broke up.

The memories of this relationship started 9 years back. I can't completely erase those thing up until now.

I try my best not to think of it and gently move on with the past. Once a while, it came over across my mind out of nowhere.

What if we're together now? How's our life going to be? These are the questions that kept circling around myself.

Is that wrong? Does everyone had the same feeling as mine of their first love? Or it just me overthinking about the past?

How to get rid of this?

Thats funny, i remember my first crush at 19 i was gifting her a glass under the rain with an umbrella waiting outside her house, i imagined by being in idealistic drama.

Now i meeting chicks left and right, already forgot how she looked and she's just so plain looking.

Memories are good.. Just don't let it affect your current life badly.. Sometimes I still cry over the memories of my first love.. And that was 15 years ago.. I just prayed for the best for us in whatever our future holds.. I'll put a smile thinking he/she are living happily now.. Love means wanting him/her to be happy right?

could have should have would have... life is a journey, whatever good or bad that happens is the experience... don't think too much, just embrace life

Once you find a replacement you will be over it. First love very hard to get rid off just find some other things you like to do to keep you busy and take your mind of things. Slowly and gradually you will move on. Hang in there and be happy always.

Don't think so much, like the post above me said, once there is another that comes into your life, you will slowly forget about the first love. You might still think about that person once a while but eventually it will fade. Just remain optimistic and happy.

This post has been edited by Capt. Marble: Feb 15 2022, 08:31 AM

Hi TS,

Good day.

Reminiscing the good ol' days is part of being a human.
I am sure we are still walking down memory lane of spending memorable time with our best friends in primary school or college days.

Memories tend to replay at odd times, especially when we are vulnerable. Then, our creativity will innovate such memory to an ideal dream.
But remember, those are still memories, a point in the past; a past that cannot be changed.

However, those memories are what made you the person you are presently
Let's not dwindle too deep into past memories, for it is our onus to create new moments with friends and families.

Cherish the now for the present is the most beautiful.

Once you successful and rich enough trust me you no longer bother which knn your ex ex ex ex ex gf anymore , just treat your current gf / wife nicely if you success

So stop dreaming try harder for your life

This post has been edited by zuozi: Feb 16 2022, 11:32 AM

probably the only thing you looked back was because there is something that wasn't resolve back then.. constantly what if i do this, what if i do that.. if you resolved yourself to move on, stop looking backwards.

Not my first love, but yes, i do think back of significant exes (2 of them) quite regularly. Sometimes wish i could turn back time and change the situation. Sigh!
Somemore i broke up even longer than u did.
I think some ppl just leave a stronger effect on us...
Actually, can't even get a comparable love story after so many years, and feeling so loved up as i did back then! haizzzz

What was the trigger to break?

hmmm very long story, but to make it short and sweet: It was a triangle & i was young and fickle minded

Good lesson though

Back in my college day many years ago, i like these 2 girls. 1 friendzoned me for years(I was young and naive then), we dated a lot and she knew i like/love her. Then she met another dude and we just kind of cut off our communication, then few years back she text me again saying how close we were blah blah blah.

Not going to talk about her, and then there's this 1 girl, well she have a bf then. The chemistry is there, we both enjoy our company so much, we shared our assignment this and that but we never dated each other. Yes i did like her and i think she like me too, we get a bit touchy some times, not that like couple kind of touchy, yet we both did not resist it. Then, we both also feels like we're not meant to be together, it just won't work out. 1 time, she asked me what if we both get together? I remember answering her then our house would be like a psych ward as we both crazy, we both laugh it off. She got married after graduated, around 2-3 years. That is when we both stop communicating each other, again i think we both knew it's for the best as she's now a wife.

A lot of times, i thought about her and believe it or not, i dreamt about her too. Eventually i get annoyed, because i don't want to think about her anymore. I wouldn't say i miss her, more like it's a trauma for me which is i seriously don't know why is this happening to me. Do i still like her? We both adults now, i used to like her then but now not anymore.

This post has been edited by Napalm_man: Feb 17 2022, 07:48 AM

Let's say u went to Europe for a holiday 20 years ago, can you erase the memory or not?

Of course cannot erase....

Why bother to erase...?

Just live with it.

It's just how you want to deal with the memory. It's you who decide to think of it all the time.

Do you think of your past holidays all the time? No, right?

To solve the problem, just find another girl lor...eventually you will not think about her (ex gf) anymore.

there is a saying that goes :

"初恋是最刻骨铭心的"
also translates into "The first love is etched the deepest in one's memory"

I totally agree. I will carry the memory of my first girlfriend handing me a note that says 'i like you' in front of our teacher's office in primary school into my grave.

She's now married to a guy 10+ years older than her and had a baby

This post has been edited by blitzkrieg69: Feb 17 2022, 10:56 AM