Hmm virtual love....I had a few "online" relationships before but never got to meet up. There was this guy from Philippines studying the U.S...I remembered staying up so late so I could chat with him since we live in completely different timezones. It lasted for a few months only, the feeling was good but I knew it had to end somehow.

And it did. Then early this year I met someone from here (Lowyat.Net). We clicked and had the chemistry going on really well from the first time we chatted on MSN. We decided to meet up and six months later, here we are going on as strong as ever.

To be honest when you're in a relationship where majority of the time you spend together is spent on the phone or through instant messengers, it is most likely you fell for the person's personality rather than his/her looks. I'm not saying that's bad but when you guys actually meet up, if he/she isn't like how you expected to be you would surely feel differently. Don't bother denying it with how appearance doesn't matter to you. Because it's only natural that we want to be with someone who has appeal to our eyes.

So my advice to you is, don't let yourself fall in too deep yet. What she might seem now may not be like how she is in person. Because as far as I know myself, I am different online and in real life. I am pretty shy and quiet in real life. And you would think I was any average Chinese girl. But if you know me online first you would see how my mind tends to overwork itself.

And I am also an SPM candidate this year and he's waiting for me to finish too though he doesn't live too far off. If you truly do love her and believe this will work, don't fret and just let her finish her exam first. Be patient. That's the keyword in love. Don't try to rush things and just go with the flow in the course of time.

This post has been edited by NiKKi3010: Sep 21 2007, 10:59 AM

I am still talking to him right now. But only thing is we don't go out and have dates at the moment. I still talk to him everyday, I set time aside for him and my studies.

I don't think she would mind if you visit her during Raya holidays, but I think her parents would mind judging by the way you describe them as being so strict. Maybe you could ask her to discuss with her parents first or let you talk to them. =/

I used to have a bit of problem with my parents too a few years ago. But then I proved to them that I would never allow it to affect my studies so now they trust me more.

Actually all my ex-bf were those I met online. So my parents are pretty used to me dating guys I know online. But I tell my mom almost everything, like when I got to a new person I would tell my mom about him. She would listen but of course still tell me to be careful and bla bla bla. My parents are a little strict...my mom thinks every guy out there is gonna rape me . But I understand why so thats why I tell my mom about my guy friends and if there's a chance let her meet him. My mom has met my current boyfriend before and she likes him so it's all good for me I guess .

Yes I've thought about that a lot. After SPM I'll be getting my car and I'll have more freedom so we can catch up on all those dates we missed. He doesn't like too far from me (Sunway) and I'm in Cheras. So it's not really that huge a problem for us to meet except for now I'm going to sit for SPM. That's the only thing that's standing in between us at the moment.

That's what really worries my current boyfriend a little...when I go off to college. He's just a little scared I'll meet someone else but then again that can still happen even if you've left school.

And might I beg to differ about your point of being too young to be in a relationship. I do agree it would be tough if the parents are too strict and I'm sorry to say most parents are like that but not all parents are like that given that they have the understanding of what's it like going through the teenage years. I am pretty sure that most of our parents felt the same way during their teens so I find it pretty ridiculous why some parents are so strict on their kids. Don't they know protecting them too much results in them being much more vulnerable?

Also, age isn't a barrier provided that both sides know how to act maturely in a relationship. I am 17 too and I can handle my relationship very well at the moment. I don't push it and I'm just patiently waiting till I finish my high school. I have a friend who's a year older than me, she ran away from home when she was 15 to be with her boyfriend. She sold CD/DVD with him and that landed the boyfriend in jail. Last I heard she's working as a shampoo girl. Her parents aren't very strict but she wanted more and chose to run away. Pretty stupid, huh? Plus she kept saying her boyfriend is gonna "marry" her when she turns 18. Heh. She's already changed so many since that one.

So what I really wanna say is, age isn't a factor when it comes to relationships. You can be 30 but still act like a 15-year-old in relationships.

This post has been edited by NiKKi3010: Sep 22 2007, 05:12 PM