Normally I would answer RM6k but since this is serious kopitiam, I can only say that TS earns way more than me.

Luckily no. But i wasted time of my life putting up with such bullsh*t and tolerated it. Which, only made things worse day by day. It's like... how to explain... such women will push the boundaries. You give her what she wants, but there's always something next and new.

Since you have not lost your mind, you have better solution ?

Marriage takes work and commitment, and understanding. Else why get married? Life is not a bed of roses. There will always be ups and downs.

You talk macam you know the whole story.

Honestly if you are not willing to put 5k then your investments wasn't even sweating for you in the first place. Let me have your wife instead and I will gladly pay her the 5k/month

Wow, I am concerned that so many males, if not all are dismissing the existence of oppression towards the fairer sex. I hope serious kopitiam will have more female voice so male privilege don't go out of hand in real life. I blame mothers who don't side their daughter in laws and enable their sons actions. Mothers should recognise that females are vulnerable to male chauvinism. They are part of the same gender after all.

You and me appear to be on the same page. Red flags here are all on the wife. The husband is doing it all, providing, chores and even thinking about the future. The pocket money is just a symptom of a bigger problem. I hope they can talk it out.

Is not wrong to voice out frustration in a forum. That is as far it goes only.

I'm sorry but I have to say this. I disagree with all the "just give. Happy wife happy life" bullshit.

If money is what makes her happy than sorry to say that relationship is broken.  I don't give my wife money. She earns her own. I earn my own. We have a joint acc - all household comes from there. We 50/50 everything. Equality.

Worse is "her money is her money and your money is our money"  fuck that. I can't accept it if I were u.

Then down the road TS will walk in the mall with the new queen carrying all the plastic bags from Aeon, her own LV bag on his shoulder too, looking like a fool, lifeless look on the face, because the soul is sucked out. All that while she is doing window shopping with his money.

Don't believe? Okay.
Just sit down at Starbucks @ Mid valley outside next to The Gardens... and observe this by yourself.

Too many puppies dragged by their queens.

Surrendered? Like TS held a gun to her head?

The marriage was a two way street and agreed by both of them. 

too many pages lazy to read...my advise? i dont think u should give since u r paying for everything and she is still working...since she wont accept anything below 5k, i say screw her and dont pay a single cent...pls protect yourself and do not get blackmailed...when relationship turns sour the best mate is always money, trust me bro

Thanks for all the replies all.

I know everyone is divided on how I should deal with this. Anyways had a chat with her after I came back from work yesterday and she just brush the topic away and said its not discussable as the dye has been cast.

Oh well...

I think this is a little extreme no? Do remember I have a 5 month old son who needs his mom.

Anyways I feel better getting feedback from everyone here

I won't give in that's for sure. Maybe give 1k or something that's fine

Check back here. This is just TS ignoring the red flags in his wife's behavior since they were just 2 years into their relationship. They were together for 5 years before getting married in 2019.

Sometime what they said would not be exactly what they are looking for from you.

In terms of this conversation i would say in her mind she would think you are stingy and the mentioned of allowances is in comparisons to others people husband and their action to spite you. Perhaps what she really want is for you to spend on her, showed her that she is more important to you in comparison to money.

While for your side, you are rational and you manage money well and the family finance is stable. You may approach the request as a commitment that if you agree it will be an obligation, while she may approach it from a need of attention point of view with nothing concrete in mind on how to spend the money given also.

Perhaps next time if you faced similar event again, try brushing the topic aside and do a little spending on her instead.

Either a night out at a fancy restaurant or some gifts. See if this solve your issue, and you can maintain your marriage harmony without breaking the bank. Women really don't know what they want sometime.

haha i did an edit. Anyway this is serious K, and it involve someone family and child, as well as their possible environment of growing up.

So before we give a be all end all advice of how a perfect wife should act, do see if a middle ground can be achieve.

hailat ... TS is a parent of 2 roles
i bet his wife also just a starfish on bed ... lol

Well i think now people are holding up too high of a standard and expectation for both the male & female species.

Man want a wife that stays in the kitchen and treat them like king, while women want a man that take care of family while still splurging on them like an ATM.

Both sexes seemed to have the extreme end that habour high expectation what they want from the other half while they themselves are not perfect. Usually those kind seemed to never able to sustain relationships long.

In this case, yes wife might have angered issues, but TS do seemed to be very calculative, depending you are standing on the point of view as a man or a women, but each has their merits.