complaining is useless
either you beat the game or become an incel
that's your choice being as a man.

yea that what i thought so.. and nowadays ppl are so good at video editing and setting... can even crop the video and use fake female voice while talking..

thanks for the insight and advice.

This post has been edited by edisoner90: Apr 14 2021, 09:30 AM

just take it slowly and steadily.

try to understand what she looking in a relationship, maybe from there you could understand her more whether really if u both looking at the same direction.

I took super long time… I mean at least more chit chat instead of fast moving relationship
So I could find the right one steadily

confess yesterday, chat with her for almost 3 month, met once only due to mco and those sh*t, looks like i'm the only one who like but not her.

guess i will start all over again, sometime it gave me a thought to stop trying, and stay single in near future. lol, kinda miserable but life goes on.

its time to get back on track and focus on other matter

i met 3 different females yesterday, was 4 females few years ago in one day. If you do this semi pro, you knew what im feeling...

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Sep 13 2021, 01:39 PM

Parking here...hehe

but sometimes full of scams profiles, swipe till lazy. haha!

wow.

brunch til dinner lah like that..

wallet ok mou.. haha

some if they arrive earlier, they pay for themselves
some if they are not nice people and disrespectful, 15-30 mins chat, say goodbye
some if we vibe really well, we could spend more than 2 hours in the dining place

it just depends.

no doubt, its a good way to know more of friends!

hope u found dat one..

I got Tinder woman invited me to her condo for coffee. Achievement unlocked.

From The Star paper today...thoughts?

Dear Thelma,

I am 31 years old, have an amazing job and decent looks and mannerisms, but have been struggling to find a partner through online dating. Throughout the past year, I have been able to land dates with women more than 20 times. But all of the dates have a common pattern – they usually start off well but fizzle out by the second date or third date. Upon post-mortem discussion with the women who rejected me, they often say the same thing: “You are an amazing person but I just don’t feel the spark with you.”

I am too tired to go out there and try again, as I am tired of getting hurt repeatedly. I realised my approach of genuinely trying to make efforts and plans with a woman or even initiating calls and texts are perceived as “coming on too strong” and this frustrates me as well. I’ve even minimised my texts, calls and efforts but to no avail as it subsequently prevents me from establishing an emotional connection with someone.

So, should I just give up the pursuit of finding love or a partner? I have resorted to many self-help books to tweak my approach with women. I have gotten some success from it but along the way I’ve realised I have lost a big part of me throughout the journey as it requires a lot of alterations to my personality and, frankly, it is really exhausting to pretend to be someone I am not.

I am not trying to victimise myself but having gone out with over 20 women and ending up getting rejected after a few weeks or months, what could possibly be wrong with me? I have gotten so used to rejection that I am numb to the outcome of dating and do not even look forward to the dates anymore.

So Thelma, please give me a suggestion to avoid this vicious cycle of repetition as I do want to find love and build a relationship with someone.

AX

met up with 5 different new females last week
monday - 1
thursday - 1
saturday - 2
sunday - 1

2nd date, on yesterday, she's a nurse.

and who says online dating doesn't work?
and im just average looking.

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Oct 6 2021, 10:20 AM

dating app is just a tool to extend social circle, the remaining process is indifferent
he is actually on the right track, whereby moving online dating to offline - Christina Wallace
to gauge if the 'feeling' is right, so move forward if it doesn't work out

self-evaluation and learning are commendable
but is he changing his behaviour to increase the chance of success or whether he genuinely understands the feeling of his date?

he should probably do the opposite way - Fear of rejection
common principle, would he rather try and fail or fail to try

give your best but don't hold high hope in the beginning
incompatibility is neither party's fault

Gone out with only 20 women and already whining, this stupid fellow. Try talk to someone who gone out over 200...500...maybe over 1000 dates with different females.

Clearly he didnt learnt his lessons.

hello there..

wana ask..

which datin app got more genuine average amoi ?

wana start back dating app since bukakke hahaha...

i met a teacher from facebook dating
i met a professional hoteliner, and cool lawyer from tinder
and yesterday i met a chill fine looking indian from coffee meet bagel

i guess it just depends on your luck too, sometimes.
the panel didnt matter, much.

Met a few girls from dating app.

A few tips would be:
Hot and cold interaction happens commonly, it takes two to tango. Gradually improve how to read the mood, keep yourself occupied with yourself interest outside online dating and swiping, she owes you nothing.

Found one that tick most of my boxes, i dropped all messages with other girls and paused the dating app for a time being (to have less distraction). Created genuine interest and being present after a couple of calls and messages. Went out date- she surprise me with gift , lucky i got gift as well.

End of the day is regulating own expectations and emotions, knowing what you want (whether its increasing date/bed count, meeting the one, direct sales/ property agent). Have your own self-worth.

And yes, I agree timing, luck and plays a role, if she is keen, progress is easy.

which app u using bro?