How is the progress of the disinterest in you? Slowly? Sudden break off? Was there an event that coincides with the disinterest? Or hes just disinterest from the start of the marriage?

There must be an underlying reason that is not related to having sex with you or porn addiction. Sometimes, little things that you did (obviously not little to him) adds up the dissatisfaction and dissapointment. Just as men don't understand woman, woman also don't understand man.

Perhaps he has ideas about being a husband and ideas of you being a wife. And perhaps you didn't fit that idea. It's not your fault though. Little things that he absolutely do not agree, but you keep on repeating it. Little things to you that you just don't even think about it. Those things adds up over time until you cross a certain line that you don't know about. He probably never talk about those little things and the bottom line. Communication is important. It's unfortunate but you need to bring in the big gun like counciling and such.

If it's a sudden disinterest at some point in marriage, it could be many reason. Either it's him cheating, or you did something really bad in his eyes.


If he's really not interested in you since the beginning of the marriage, there's a chance he might be gay, but just doesn't comes out about it. Or he didn't even realise about his 'tendecy'.

About point 3. It depends on the person, but sometimes it's not about the appearance, it's about the technique and position. It's something you should discuss with your husband.

About point 6, maybe your idea of sexiness is different than him?

About point 3 and 6, if your husband already lost trust in you to be his wife, it's not going to work to be more proactive or sexy.

Unless there's a major problem like outside interference or him being gay, there should be a major reason or many minor reasons for him to lose interest in you. Get to the bottom of his feeling, point of view or ideas with the help of professional.