what do you think? Share your opinion or experience please.

this is what i can think of


Pros:

1. have some one to take care anak.
2. not so boring ( for wife/husband )
3. can take care orang tua
4. working can stay back late dont need to rush to bring children.


Cons
1. no privacy ( for everyone )
2. need bigger house
3. conflict between people




This post has been edited by ohman: Jan 17 2020, 08:14 PM

Share household utilities, can tumpang jaga anak, Got to eat homecook after work.

I believe staying with family is the best.

Although there are more opinions from everyone, so long family is happy.

Stay on your own.

Can piap on the table, sofa, kitchen etc anytime

Buy a house next to ur parents house la. When dinner jus go to next house

Maybe short term but long term better own stay. Later xxx parent complain too noisy.

no. better rent a house.i pay rm 1300 a month double storey house.

this.. especially home cook meal.

takde duit duduk je la dulu

Stay in old folks home la..

My sis in law alwiz wear lingerie at kitchen after midnite ...hnngghhhh

Deillz o fuk off

Can, but there can only be 1 head in the house. Conflict can happen when theres 2 individual fighting over influence.

So 1 side must beralah. If u think ur ego very high and the old folks also bossy, better dont.

Naughty amerika nobody does it betta

Ive heard lots of infighting among families that practice staying together.

after married, better stay separate...not good for relationship....

2 women cant stay in 1 house.

Tolerance..your inlaw will head..
U as man cannot raise voice in ppl hse.
Everything have to jaga jaga.

Later your father will seduce your wife

Believe me happen to my brother

stay in your own house is best

Macam jav plot saja

Jav code pls

Jav plot? Piap2?

Stori us....

Dun stay with them coz once married u are the head of ur own family.

If u stay with them, u still bound to their status and can't raise ur voice bcoz its not ur own home and ur dad status still higher than u.

So get out and be the man of ur own house.

My father is a lonely man. Already over 60 but when my brother leave for work he leave his wife a caucasian origin muslim in house

So beautiful everone like one. Him asking her to kiss on cheek

My brother come back and know. Now he pindah rumah to kl because don't want to fight father and keep silent

First of all, you have to see what type of people your parents / in-laws are lar.

If your parents / in-laws are the tahi ayam type, damn effing demanding, every day demand you or your spouse submit to this or that, can only do things this way or that way.... then better not to live with them.

But damn, if you are blessed with lovely parents / in-laws like I am, you'd be very happy if they are willing to stay with you. Makan - they jaga (while healthy). Their grand-kids, they can teach and accompany (while healthy). House security - there is always someone in the house, which gives you a sense of security. Privacy may be a small issue, but not an insurmountable one.

And on a personal level, I always think that there are only so many more years an aging parent / in-law can spend with you / their grand-kids before they are indisposed. Best to utilize the time they are healthy and sound of mind to be with them for as much as possible. Of course, on the condition, once again, that they are lovely, kind, sensible people And of course, if you have the space lar....

i can even feel that you are smiling while writing this.

but damn your avatar is scary

Both my parents and parents- in-law siang-siang declared they won't help look after my kids. 😭
What to do?

After got married, we moved out. No money buy house tak pe, just rent... 😂

Good thing is, I learnt to take care of my kids on my own. No split decisions. I'm the queen of the house... Wahaha... I've my way to do everything ikut my style. Have privacy lor. I sing and dance, wear hot pants or no wear bra, nobody cares 😜. My money or jewellery can simply put anywhere convenient. I enjoy this type of freedom.... Nobody nags me. 🤣🤣🤣

Another advantage is, my relationship with them is great. Seeing each other not so regularly, have so much to talk about. 👍😇

they either fight or they together gossip about you.

lol. how true is this.

If stay at husband parents = wife and mother got high chance of friction.

If stay at wife parents = Wife and her parents can gang up on husband.

Conclusion: short while OK, maybe 1 year max.

Better avoid staying together to reduce the conflict.

Cannot have two tigers on the same mountain..

Initially will try to tolerate...
Sometimes can work,
most of the time, cannot one.. 😂

Rumah asing lerrr.. Rumah kecik pun jadi lah.. Yg penting asing..

Unless u conquer your sis in law mountain as well

What?? Lol.. they got their own palace what?? Lol

I stay with my MIL

1st time married the mother in law (wife comes from a single parent family) is a fiercely independent Austrian woman. She valued her independence and privacy more than anything else in the world which is atypical of most Alpine region people.

Not in their culture :-

1) Help you take care of children, she would have told us to send them to daycare.
2) It won't be boring because she and wife will be fighting.
3) She'd rather die than have us take care of her.
4) NO such thing as working late in either Austria or Switzerland.

Therefore we mostly kept visits to no more than 2 or 3 days and only for special occasions. The same way if she came to visit.

Money? She isn't wealthy but she would never take any money from us.

2nd time married, her parents are from East Malaysia and they do come by to take care of her as they deem my standards are not good enough for their daughter who is now pregnant.

Conflicts does significantly reduce if the parent is her parent rather than his parent. Things are easier to handle as well as she has a problem then she is dealing with her own mum not my mum. Oh yes her mum is a very difficult woman as the mum is used to being big boss.

There are ways to make it work but best to be avoided if possible.

i'm staying with my in laws..there are no problem..only when sis n bro in law come and treat the house like food bank..come only to eat and and never buy any groceries for their own parent..come only playing phone in front of tv and wait for their mom to cook anything then eat..usually 1 or 2 week after pay day no come..go jalan2..then near the end of the month only come..

agreed.

Parent stay with me to take care of my kid n they know i'm head of the house.