Hi all,

The case is like this and we don't know what to do.

My aunt used to be very outgoing, talkative, active person. Her age is 65. Then suddenly sometime end of last year, she start become very negative. Before that happen, her sister (which she is not very close to) passed away and her sister in law said some hurtful words to her. Im not sure if these events are related but somehow she kind of blame it on the events. We don't think the eventis so much impact to change her or is it just an excuse or reason for herself to put something to blame on.

Since then, my uncle said she will start crying every morning and she is kind of no mood to do anything at all, like lifeless.

Is this sign of mental depression or something else? Cos we couldn't figure out how this could happen. The events doesn't seem impactful to cos such a drastic change.

Sounds like depression, but only the professional can confirm.

but how can suddenly my depression? usually there’s a trigger point right.

she did go clinics or hospital once or twice but doesn’t seem to help anything.

Yes "trigger point" for some cases, for some other cases also merely because of the internal illness like hormone disorder, if Im not mistaken.

how to cure this kind of sudden illness?

The one i know of course went through long medication process, pill, see specialist regularly, bla..

I also remembered her family bought her a pet (in her case it is a puppy, she is cainis) as suggested by the doctor.

same case like mine?

depression or not, try move her out of her regular routine and place of staying, a visit to the doctor will be better still

Sounds similar. I strongly suggest to seek professional help soonest.

we went clinic and hospital doesn’t seem to help anything

Get her to stop Facebooking

she don’t play fb! 65 yo play what fb lol

There are many things that could trigger this. It could be due to suppressed feelings, pressure, or even the possibility of hitting menopause. Hormone changes during that phase of menopausal thus it's crucial for people around to be tolerant, supportive and understanding if that's the cause.

I'll suggest checking with a doctor to determine it's due to menopause (did she stop menstruating?) and learn more how to cope with this.

However if it's not menopause then someone should try talking to her and care more for her. Communicate more with her and bring her out more often, do the things she likes with her.

If all else fails, you may want to bring her to a psychologist and see if it's really related to psychological issues.

The passing away for her sister and the hurtful words could have caused some kind of depressive elements to her mood which can subsequently appear as depression; with her age, she would be suffering from Old Age Depression which is different to younger population in its presentation and management. She will need Old Age Psychiatrist to diagnose. It would be intersting to know if she is now aware of her own mortality with the passing of the sister.

not really sure.. I think everyone once pass certain age will think about death

yes that is true
if she starts to lose weight due to not eating, adn start to become unkempt due to lack of self-care, you can ask for your GP to refer to a psychiatrist. hope she copes well.. and you too. good luck

thanks so much for your care

no sweat.
good luck.

and how's your aunt now? care to update?

got better. interestingly after her eye surgery. maybe eye is connected to the mind?

but covid seems to affect her again mKe her scared of everything although not as bad as before