please dont follow. make it as simple as possible. the basics should be covered, for example the tea ceremony. the rest can skip.
dowry is symbolic. not for showing off, not for selling daughter.
pledge fd rm3333 better than buying gold, or worse, platinum and diamond.

remember. your inlaw did not lose a daughter. they gained a son.

in the old days the daughter not allowed to go home after marriage, thus the money to 'take care' of the parents.