Mind if I ask what is your fiancé's opinion on this? Like whom does she feels the dowry should be presented to?

I had come across a somewhat similar situation, the bride's uncle and aunt's discussed among themselves (grandparents already passed away at that point), in the end the dowry (along with the other stuff like biscuits, oranges, etc) was given to one of the closer aunt with other aunt and uncle also being present.

The aunts and uncle then discuss & decided to use the dowry to cover some of bride side wedding cost. In a way the dowry was sorta like given to bride side family (her aunts & uncles) instead of given to a specific person, if you get what I mean.

This post has been edited by V429: Jan 16 2020, 11:20 AM

I would suggest you to have your fiancee decided to whom the dowry should be presented to (most probably grandparents or aunt), or even better if your fiancée discuss together with her grandparents and aunt and make a decision together so everybody is on the same page.

This post has been edited by V429: Jan 16 2020, 05:36 PM