So I had a conversation with other people about where guys would bring dates to. The most cliche response were: go to movies, follow up with a dinner. (because everyone watches movies so it's a no brainer?)

You know what?

Bringing your date to the movies is the worst place you can bring.

You are wasting 2 hours of your date having 0 interactions. You cannot be touchy touchy to the girl because she's not your girlfriend (at least not yet). Any attempts would be deemed as hamsap. After the movie you think you have 1 topic to start the conversation? Well, what if the movie suck? Or even if the movie is good, you learn nothing about her, and she learns nothing about you too. And... You don't stand out from the 99 guys that are courting her too.

*Thanks to other forummers. Updated with suggestions of alternative venues* (please note the activities are based on individuals. So please do your research before the date itself to avoid dissapointment)

1. Hipster cafe
2. Karaoke
3. Park/lake
4. Events or popout bazaars
5. Window shopping
6. Ice skating
7. Hiking
8. Airport or other sight seeing places
9. Cycling/badminton/basketball
10. Arcade
11. Places with good scenery
12. Boating
13. Learn cooking in bakery schools
14. Bowling
15. Archery
16. Theme park (if you willing to splurge)
17. Farm / zoo
18. Concert (if you willing to splurge)
19. Sepang Circuit
20. Beach
21. Batu caves or other cultural venues
22. Pasar malam
23. Play guitar / piano (Lot 10)
24. Swimming (not first dates)
25. Dancing
26. Indoor wall climbing
27. camping (not first date)

This post has been edited by fearless_kiki: Jul 21 2020, 08:32 AM

Jokes on you . I dont even have a date.

/working hard on myself

Er... No offence but this thread is for people who have date

So, where would she bring him to?

Wah, a lot of places I could think of. But it pretty much depends on what the interest of your date. (but I'm sure you all ask when you get to know the person right?)

1. Events like countdown, food fair because it doesn't happen all year long. Can make memorable memories. Go facebook or ask around to know whether got events lately.
2. Places that has nice view to take photographs like park, selfie museum, cafes with nice deco. During Christmas, CNY, Raya, Deepavali time lagi best because a lot of mall deco. Take photos of each other. Can learn photography skills like angles from your date maybe. If your date very shy, just say: I will make you look good, no worries
3. Window shopping. Even supermarket also can for some people. If your date spot something nice and within your budget, can offer to buy for your date. Can learn what he/she like and dislike.
4. Learn cooking. Can learn new recipe and have fun.
5. Ice skating. Can hold hand hold waist without being label hamsap.
6. Hiking. Can hold hand to pull the girl at steep. Can see the girl without makeup.
7. Go Arcade play multiple player games like taiko drum or racing. Be sure to give your date to win so everyone happy.

These are few I could think of...

This post has been edited by fearless_kiki: Feb 12 2019, 11:32 PM

There you go! You should ask a mod to pin this haha

my 3 blind dates i bring them to movie actually 💁🤣.Its actually awkward

What is blind date

Damn....first date with my wife was dinner then cinema.
After tat most times dinner/movie Date/piap piap..

Lame or not, still got a wife.
Both have to talk and laugh your hearts out during dinner.
What if the Movie suck? Those are actually the most memorable ones, even 10 years later we are still talking about some of the lame movies we watched.

This post has been edited by Zoopdiidoo: Feb 13 2019, 09:56 AM

At least your gf aka (your wife now) let you piap piap piap at every date.. envy ...hahaha where to find such good gf?

After 2 month of dating can piap piap already, no?
Maybe different generation all of us? I started dating 15 years ago. 5 years later only met the wifu.
My friends after 1 month already start to coitus with gf.
Well it depends on the gal la, no one method covers/works for all women.
My other friend, after married only the wife allow to coitus.

i am in the 90's.. yea got one girl i meet only after marriage only allow coitus.. i do feel coitus did bring the relationship closer especially our body produce more love hormone.

i did a survey and found out that a lot of girl they say either wait for destiny to come or

This i can second.

1st date at cinema -> her choice of movie(romantic genre of course) then supper.
2nd date at beach hanging out then dinner.
3rd date onward movie/dinner/outing/piap piap lol.

Sound lame? We got married 2 years later...
She is my 5th gf and last one too.

Edit: Don't think the above got any to do with generation as the marriage was last year.

This post has been edited by kirakun: Feb 13 2019, 10:28 AM

your third date is consider couple alrdy or still dating??

Me and wife always go to movie during our dating days. The best part for me is the discussion on the movie when we have dinner after.

We ends up getting married, so it is obviously working? lol

Managed to hold her hand on the 1st date hehe.

So yea after the 1st date we are considered a couple.

i manage to hold one girl hand during first date but not become couple.. i need to consider due to LDR and she wont be coming to KL stay with me unless married. LOL

i did ask her to transfer come down KL stay with me as i got my own house and i say if everything goes well we will get married after a year or two.

she say cannot stay with BF before married. staying together will know her daily habit whether can be partner or not. isnt it??

This post has been edited by edisoner90: Feb 13 2019, 10:42 AM

It is not the movie or places problem, it start up with you. I dulu pun ada first blind date dekat movie, after that movie piap2. Ada lg 1 girl keluar belanja minum teh o ais je, tp dia belanja buah dada kemudian.

Seriously it's not about place you bring, it's about your personality that make her attract and wet.

Talk like a men, treat her like a woman, those small thing that will help you ok.

Maybe for those that have good charisma, venue doesn't matter. Just saying that movie dates has its downside. For me, there are so many things to do other than this type of cliche date.

Actually my bf likes to go to movies too. But he won me over through other events. Not because of movie date.

Well, it's not only me that has this opinion (I'm not much of a movie goer) . My bf told me her exes also have the same view as me (dislike movie dates). So I dunno.

P/s: wow, nowadays girls so open to piap piap? Less than 5 dates already piap? I sound like grandma now.

My gf/now wife also never stayed at my house until only around a year after due to her family's concern but then after i met with her parent those concern automatically goes away. Even so she only stayed for some weekend throughout until marriage.

My point is there are other ways to get to know her better i.e. going for vacation/outing together away from homes. Try that and see where it goes.

Don't get us wrong.
Dinner + movie is a mainstay for dating...but its not the only thing couples do.
We do also go to events, clubs, outdoorsy stuff, short road trips, group outings, food hunting, nowadays bubble tea hunting, cafe chats, long vacays, but all those is like once a while thing.
Majority is a Dinner + movie date.

I approve of all this but I like movie date cause I'm a movie-goer.
Before/ after that can have a meal together. Followed by dessert when there are nothing interesting nearby.
Plus its easy to plan.

sing K ok or not

the room is dark dark, plus can see the scale of her "introvercy" through the way she sings [left: most introvert, right: most extrovert], can pick the duet songs and see how she sings

3rd date already coitus...not bad.
Didn't happen that fast cos my third date with my wife was only 2 days after the first date.
Didn't wanna rush things previously as well cos dun wanna be deemed a wolf only out of coitus.
Also, coitus needs connection, not just pump and dump type, so i guess its worth waiting for that connection....but not too long though.

Kinda true... but not always. When I was younger, my friend asked me to tag along a few times when he's doing blind date (IRC/ICQ). Im kinda happy that its a movie session. LOL....

Actually I wanted to ask:

Is this specifically in reference to the FIRST date? Or just dates in general?

for once i had to go to google translate to get the meaning of coitus

why not just use the term "piap", its malaysia and this is LYN forum

third date happens 2 days after the first date, means you both dated for 3 sequential days, that is still not fast?

If you have nothing to talk about after a movie, it's your problem not the movie.

Regardless if the movie suits your taste buds or not, the amount of people and resources involved into making a movie, you cannot take that away.

And you have nothing to talk about?? Plot, Actors, Chemistry, CGI, Adaptation Accuracy, Cultural References, Camera works, and the list goes on.

This post has been edited by dembaba9000: Feb 13 2019, 11:33 AM

LOL in /k i will use piap piap.
Cupid Corner serious a bit use coitus.
I mean we dated so fast, 3 dates in 3 days....if i followed the guys number of date to coitus sequence i was replying to, it would be 3 days start dating then already coitus with my gf.

your sop is refer to go for a date once a week??

Depends on the girl. Sing k I on. I like couple songs but my bf is banana so limit to english songs only. Hahaha... Sad sad.

I got friend that doesn't sing k. So before you decide, you can ask if she normally sing k or not.

I have two dates style with my Gf (soon to be fiancee)

Short date and long date

Short date consist of
-dinner/lunch
-jalan2 around KL
-hangout at starbuck

Long date consist of
- Movie as starter or closure of the day
- Dinner/Lunch
-Hangout at Putrajaya/KLIA
-jalan2 at taman

movie is a must for long date because is where we can spend time peaceful without those annoying shopper in the mall.

one good thing about watching movie is, after finish it we can talk about it
like the MC was stupid la, fight scene not enough, jump scare boring, Femala Character boing2.

thus, movie never a disappointment only the viewer are (people with kids under 6yrs old bring into cinema)

Er... First or second date at least. Because you haven't know the person well = don't have a lot of topics to talk about. Subsequent dates are ok.

which part of putrajaya area is good?? recommendation what can you do there?

OMG go KLIA for what?? what can u do there at KLIA?

Yes, sure. Many to talk about but none of them related to your date or yourself. Isn't that the purpose to date? Get to know the person?

If you are charming enough, you can always use the movie to do it.

"Ooooh baby, you actually have the same eyes as <Arwen/Legolas>. I am certain your beauty will be as radiant and as fair forever, just like <Arwen/Legolas>! Jom, lets go horse riding, and then you can tell me all about your other interests"

Sorry, I just remembered what my first date movie was. I ate her baskin robbins ice cream and said YUCK, even though I love peanut butter. Dumb shit kid.

I learned the term from big bang theory.
But yeah in lyn, everyone just used piap so its unusual

But there is just so much you can talk about yourself. Sometimes can run out of topic too.
By discussing about the movie, you can also gauge what type the person he/she is, what they like/ dislike.

This post has been edited by eggtart02: Feb 13 2019, 11:57 AM

Yeah, and Sheldon is the world's most clueless person in relation to anything in CC

Putrajaya

i always lepak in front of Palace of Justice before go back, drive-thru Mcd
Putrajaya at night, really peaceful for me compare to KL

KLIA? well I love to see airplanes, second stewardess
but mainly airplanes. Hahahaa yea I have a weird lepak area
because whenever i wanna find peace, I go either KLIA or KLIA2
my gf also like it because we are far away for hectic KL

Beach sometime we go only during long holiday
P.D and Klebang usually our spot

Eh, but you need to make sure the girl also movie kia baru can work. If not she look at you with blank eyes. Hahaha

go and play laser tag

I rather liked the paths near the Putra bridge, but will check out the Palace next time.

Wow KLIA. Such an unusual dating spot do you drive there? Where you park your car? Parking there so expensive

Yup, true. Luckily she was.

But yeah, plenty of other significantly more interesting venues. But I was still in HS at that time lah, the only other more creative dating venue would have been next door Lagoon

We did do horse riding several times after that though!

Go to water lagoon.

Yea, I drive there
usually i went at night and park within the period
like 2-3hrs only
at KLIA2

I dont go everyday/week, mostly 2x a month

KLIA 1 i just park near departure, only for awhile before polis bantuan start to halau or something
Love to see MAS/Malindo coming in and go

is there proper place to sit? the most dangerous place is the safest place ? hahaha


The putra bridge seem like a good consideration. thanks.

rarely girl will want to follow to KLIA see airplane...LoL.. they will just say waste of time doing nothing.

we dont go movie for nothing,
go movie because of dark environment.
can do thing we want

I know there is a trick.... bring them to cross a very long road and many car.....

That time can hold their hand cross the road and tada........

+1 point to caring........
+1 point to brave........

If continue hold and she let you ...

+5 point to success .............

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This post has been edited by wangpr: Feb 13 2019, 12:23 PM

As cheesy as it sounds, sometimes dating is doing nothing with the person you love.

Can u suggest good topic to talk about during 1st date? Especially casual topic. Bosan pulak bila sembang topik "u suka apa i suka apa" haha

the hold hand is good but this need to be sudden only girl feel it.

i try before i got hold of the hand when she nearly get hit by a car..

she look at me surprise, stunt and grateful i am there..

i wont intentionally cross road except really needed to.

true.. but need the other half wont get bored easily.. some girl do get bored if too quiet for a while.


there are a lot.. can ask her about her lifestyle, how she spend her time. who is her close fren, what her dream and passion.. what her plan when having a family.

You come on mighty strong on a first date, fren

i knew this. But maybe u can suggest good topic incase she introvert

Who say?

Last time I hamsap my gf in cinema now my wife

Few are as great as you

You can try Malaysia's universal language:

Music, movies, travel, food... These topics won't go wrong. As soon as she say something that you also like, keep hammer on the topic. Talk about more deeper things like your unique experience during travel, or why you like that cafe so much... Don't put fullstop on the surface.

Compliment her outfit. Oh I like girls dress like this, so classy. And don't stop there. Ask what other fashion she likes. Ask questions when you are not sure of the terms. I think it's an interesting topic as guys and girls got different taste.

Talk about recent events. Like cny got lion dance, or recently got selfie museum, bazaar...

Gf itu different. Got permission to hamsap already. I meant dates before become gf.

1st date ...i'd never bring my women watch movies

Spend my time chit chat in hipster cafe

your gf ok with these place?

just ask

Even topic like football works. Can gauge the type of lengzai through superstar athletes. Do you like CR7? Or Messi?

I AM the gf.

Lol. Speaking through experience. My bf and I went to a few places listed before become couple and I always feel happier than watching a movie.

This post has been edited by fearless_kiki: Feb 13 2019, 12:59 PM

Later got people pm to berkenalan..lol

luckily my girl have some what similar taste

we prefer to go somewhere less hectic
even tho we do nothing, we always have like deep conversation among ourself
while gazing at airplanes sipping McCafe or Starbucks till late night

yes you have a point there, not many girls like to go KLIA to enjoy the scenery

i tried with my ex and crush
their response are: Boring, nothing to do or to see, became major turn-off for them..so sad of me

I just proposed KLIA to my bf and he said "go klia no fly, go there for wat"

Maybe he's a frequent flyer (mostly to Singapore) so no feel.

I suppose he is not into planes.

Maybe try boats! haha

Oh? What do you suppose they have to do to deserve such romantic gestures?

hahaha

yea probably for him, already used to it

for me, never bored of it
if just wanna spend time with my girl

i always start wanna go Putrajaya or KLIA for hangout

KLIA has higher tendency of winning because can eat and sipping coffee while Putrajaya mainly Palace of Justice, close by is Mcdonald only

Tu lah... Hipster cafe can talk about the deco also.

true...noob mistake usually
i always bring my to be gf for good food on first date, can spend hours looking at her and talk bulshit
no movies until later dates...coz most likely what u like to watch not same as gal taste

fearless kiki list is a good start for those looking for clue

This post has been edited by Lion Cut: Feb 13 2019, 01:13 PM

Oh I am so terribly clueless, like many others here.

You are the sifu, why not impart your knowledge?

before go on 1st date try to gauge on what kind of person she/he would be. so from there u can have some ideas and discussion on best place to meet and spend time.

my experience, 1st meeting date is dataran merdeka. from there we just talk and talk then move to eat eat.

if she/he into u before u met in person is better than to meet in person then not knowing bout ur opposite half then go awkward all the way.

hangout place for both us la
where can have some quality time in KL
plus we go when we are bored and need to let some steam off

There is nothing for us in Kl tho

Hmm Dataran Merdeka is an interesting venue. What is good to eat nearby? Majestic?

Eh? Dataran Merdeka? Girl won't complain hot sun?

everything is nearby also. for us that time we went NZ KLCC.

original plan is to meet up at dataran only, from there improvise.

works for both of us.

other couple (to-be-couple) might not.

bonus tips: make urself seen as reliable to ahmoi. they want to feel safe and secured

hahaha pick good timing lorh. that time was past six. the girl was scared of hot sun. until now.

well, different people different way of spending the time with their love one

for me only 1+ hr drive back and forth (40mins each)
plus driving at night where got traffic
I love late night driving.

Some people value long drives and meaningful conversations.

While others prefer to eat cheap siham in even cheaper bars.

To each their own

This post has been edited by ViktorJ: Feb 13 2019, 01:46 PM

Or maybe I can try going earlier to the airport during his flight so he won't need to purposely go to the airport.

If timing is right I can certainly try. But I remember the last two time were weekdays maybe next trip

Ahh thanks for suggestion. I never tot to talk about current events like lion dance

Can hold hands and chat on the way.
Sweet

Haha... But he did wanted to be a pilot though. He even joked about the missed opportunities with those air stewardess hehehe...

Speaking about boat we did tried playing those inflated "boats". So much fun haha. We even ride ferry together but we were too busy taking pictures lol.

Last time it was just a kiss on the 1st date, I got my first date kiss at cinema too, in fact.
But nowadays 1st time date also piap piap already

This post has been edited by Shiniichi: Feb 13 2019, 02:00 PM

I believe Putrajaya has some boats. I do know they have a pier with cruise tours. But too bad they do not have those 2 person paddle-y ones, like in Lagoon. That would be fun to do at the tasik. Or maybe they do, and I am unaware of it

Ah... Thanks. Would check that out since it's not too far.

Speaking for two people paddle, the bicycle rentall stall in bukit jalil offers couple bicycles. Not only the front behind type, they also have side by side ones. So even if one doesn't know how to cycle, no worries as balancing is not a problem.

yea.. i do want meet my soul mate not just any girl for fun ma.. so it is important to know her mindset on family thing as well.

no point get together if mindset is not suitable..


night club you need to be handsome and outstanding too.. i wonder how night club tends to be now.. dint step into club for almost 8 years.

sory, don't get you. What's left and right in this context?

From what I know, normally people drove there aren't just to enjoy the planes taking off and landing, most of the time it include some other things in the package. Hence some girls will like it.

This post has been edited by MasBoleh!: Feb 13 2019, 02:15 PM

It depends on circumstances. If you don't know the person well, then please don't do movie dates. If you already know the person, then you can do movie dates but make sure you spend more time doing other dates. If you are married and don't want to talk to your wife, go on movie dates all the time.

Awesome tip. I have the agility of a 1 legged cow, so this will be very helpful.
Still the same. Sweaty and smelly and sexy.

You should bring pers1stence along. He likes sweaty.

ni paling power
have post-dated pro tips

i always wanted to bring my date to go for bowling.. even tho im suck at it.. lol..