QUOTE(cc980024 @ Feb 11 2019, 10:12 AM)
They have friends to play with. And there are alot of active parents forum/group where parents bring their child (usually 1st child or single child) to get together and have fun.
What I see the lacking in single child probably fighting spirit. They don't fight for toys/snack or attention. Many are generous to offer, as they have plenty at home.. so they willing to share to outsiders.
Having friends to play with and having siblings is entirely different level... There are a lot of things that siblings can help but friends can't. Especially on the whole "experience" of growing up.
Lack of fighting spirit? I beg to differ, single child are usually spoilt with nearly everything, they can have all the toys/snack or attention that they wanted, no need to fight with other people at all. So when there's hardships in the future in life, single child usually are more aggressive as they are used to having everything they wanted by themselves and no need for sharing. I for one, would say that children with siblings are much more generous to share with others, as they are already used to sharing with their siblings in the first place.
And of course, that's just both of our opinions, you and I. I believe the opinions we had are coming from our own personal experiences in life, and there's no right and wrong to it. Just different roads of life.
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In terms of inheritance and everything else, I would say it was how the children was grown...
I have seen far too many families breaking up because of "inheritance", but yet, I have also seen some families that do actually care for each other, even to the level of distance relatives.
I believe it all ends up on how the child grows up. Children is like a sponge, they will grow up and absorb stuffs from their family first, then their friends, people who are closed to them and lastly, media (TV, Social Network, Internet, etc).
There's no right or wrong answer towards to having no child, having only a single child or even having a bunch of them. Most importantly is that you know what you are doing. There's pros and cons towards to everything.
But the general rules would be...
If no money cannot support family, better don't have children. I hate it when TV3 shows up some Families having 8-9 kids then asking the public for donation... No money then don't hamsap so much lah knnbccb... Buy condom is cheaper than diapers!
Having a single child is easy for the parents, but a huge burden for the child. I myself is a single child and I am giving my parents RM2k per month. If I am not the one who does it, who will do it? Some might say - Aiya, then ask your parents to use their own savings lahh... That's true, but being a good son that I am, I don't mind giving RM2k per month. Also, that is because I am capable... What if, just.... What if, your future child is not that capable and only can give parents RM1k or even less? How the parents survive with that little money
IF the parents have not much savings in the first place? Pokai loh like that...
Having 2-3 children however, will not burden the single child so much, as multiple siblings can help chip in a little bit of their salary for their parents. You might say, later your child
char siew don't want to give you money... Then that is your problem in the first place, of not being a good parent and teaching them well.
This post has been edited by RubMyGenie_: Feb 11 2019, 06:01 PM