Hey guys, just wanting to share my experience here. First of all, I know that she's a gold digger and willingly to date this particular girl knowing the outcome. Basically like my friend said, trying dating one for experience and boy he is right.

The first date, I get to choose where to eat so I took her out to Chili's and she ordered one of the most expensive items on the menu. I know I was getting into and got some cash to burn (not that I'm rich, mind you but just for the purpose of this experience). Pocket burn: RM250

The second date we went out, she suggested we go to some high-end French (or Spanish? I don't remember) restaurant where she ordered some old wine (which I have no idea). Pocket burn RM450

By the third date, I tried taking control of asking her to go to a food court. I can see it in her face that she repulsed by it. Having no choice, she followed. Pocket burn RM50.

On the fourth date, she wanted to go to some Japanese restaurant. And the ones she chose ain't cheap either. Pocket burn RM150.

After the fourth date, we held hands and had a walk on the beach. She asked me what are my plans. Told her I wanted to date her and perhaps marry her in the future. It all went lovey-dovey and then suddenly she asked me how much I have in savings for marriage?

I told her I got only 10K of saving ever since I worked 5 years ago.

I can immediately see her reaction saying that she's not feeling that well and ask me to send her home. Home it is.

After that, she never even call. I never even bothered to call first.

Years later after I got married, I found out that she bought the same apartment as mine, just that its a different tower. Surprise surprise found out from my friend said that the husband that she married to earns less than RM2.5k per month and she had to ration her spending to RM5 for lunch per day in order to afford that place.

This post has been edited by aemon: Sep 3 2018, 02:23 PM

Karma.

How old are you n her now? Too bad, did not manage to piap her even already spent that amount of money.

i dont think it is wise to call someone a gold digger just because her lifestyle is different..

i truly and sincerely believe you have your part to play, because, you created the precedent.. so both of you, didnt manage each other expectation.

good story, thanks

of all your dates, all the pocket burns, was bill on just her or its both of you?
if it include both of you, how is that classified as gold digging?

The girl actually face the truth that she can't find a gold mine.

Okay fine, I might have gone really far by calling her a gold digger but she does this same thing with other guys. And I happened to know most of them and they all told me the same story. So if she don't fit the name gold digger, I don't know what else is.

I don't really wish her any ill intentions. If she were to call my bluff, then I'd probably break off the relationship.

I think I'm in my early 30ish.

I don't know, but piap or sex was never in my thoughts when dating her. I'm interested how she would react in that circumstances.

But most of all what I wanted to take from this is the experience.

Nope, I paid for all of them. She never even once offered to pay.

I don't mean to be condescending but why would you spend that much money on an "experience" such as this? I'm pretty sure you have better things to spend money on.

Probably the guy looks like Hollywood star?

Doesnt make any sense to ration RM5 for lunch because she used to gain a few hundred ringgit worth of free meals from you.

you said you knew what you were getting yourself into.. you said you dated her for the sake of experience... and then when you did, you complain?

already a married man, dated a gold digger or not.. still matters meh???

have you slept with her or even cuddles?
if she never contribute both emotionally and physically, then its best to leave her as it is.

I forgot to add something. Another friend actually went for this girl. He sends her flowers and she said to him: "Instead of giving me flowers, why not give me cash?"

But this guy came from money, so he has the cash to pour all over her. Went on a trip to Japan, Australia, Hawaii, and Europe.

When I talked to my friend, she never even take out a cent. Even when renewing her passport. She expects my friend to fork it all up.

So finally they broke up when they got into an argument over her never even paid for a restaurant for a measly RM75 on some western food.

I asked him what's his damage. His pocket burned RM125,000.

Damn, with that money can even buy a full Honda Civic now.

Aha, this one you never read properly. Please do. Don't worry I'll wait.

Conclusion: 明知山有虎，偏向虎山行

Hmm, now that you mention it, her husband is really handsome. Unlike me. Maybe that's why she married him. But weird she would break her gold digging cycle to be like that. Maybe that's what love is.

I don't know, I felt that I wanted to see what's her reaction or what would she do instead of doing all those stuff.

Lol, of course not.

That time been working for 5 years and put some money in some investments and mutual fund, it's actually more than that.

This post has been edited by aemon: Sep 3 2018, 03:01 PM

Should've told her you had 1mil in savings, see what she says/offer (piap?), and then u-turn with 10k to see the horror and shock on her face.

So far i've never had the 'pleasure' of dealing with a gold digger, all girls i dated even offered to pay for my meal some times.

Well, like I said it's only for experience so that I can share with some of the people I've met. I felt that the RM1k I spend on her is something that I will never get back. However, this gave me wisdom and in turn, gave me a good perspective on my finances.

Walau N years ago punya story still wanna take it out and talk for what wo.

You already happily married.

i have seen gold diggers before...but this one is super obvious since the start

good thing for you as you can cut ties earlier in the game

Wah dino buat new dupe to reply this tered. Need like that meh?

Its nice she finally found true love....

and not some people who only see her as a gold digger...

gold digger must pretty. i know one who keep changing BF.

the one you date i think not pretty enough

She must be a damn hot spicy chick.

kecian after spending close to 1k not a single piap u got from her

good story i have been reading today

Did your friend who spend rm125k get to piap her

You only lose about like.... 1k outta 4 dates?

Why still so affected by it?

She has clearly moved on and so have you.

She ain’t no gold digger. Real gold digger bangs no broke nigga. What’s more marrying one.

Don’t really know what’s the point of this thread.

P.S. many years ago and still remember so well how much does the date cost. It’s either the 1k is a lot to you or u married the girl after her.

i support you TS.

my condolence to someone who spent that fortune.....and no ROI.
if that just 10% of my annual income then its fine for fun.

how to know a women only want free meal
- women suggest a high end place
- ask the women to pay this time since all this while the one paying is you
- women suddenly u-turn and choose much cheaper place

Hah, I don't know why the negative aspect saying that I should move on, or I was a poor man. Like I said, this is an experience only. I've moved on, and so did she. But the experience here is valuable to me and I decided to share. Sigh, sad to say probably won't be sharing much since there are so many people who hated this kind of story.

Maybe I came to this all wrong.

luckily you not dating her during her bday month! Otherwise you need to burn another 20k for chanel bag.....

how 900 in 4 meals can be declared as gold digger?
seriously, if i heard you said you got plan for marriage yet you stated you just have 10k of saving, my reaction also will change as you are just dreaming
the truth is that on that particular time, she notice that you are bull-shitting him
gold digger don't act that way, it just that you think your 900 is too big for dating a girl

You’re one hell of a gentleman to mock a lady when she’s down yeah? As a married man you would bring up this so called “experience” so many years later? Does your wife / children know that you’re spending time on the Internet berating someone’s husband’s income?

If her husband earns 2.5k and I’m guessing she earns around the same then anyone can guess your income range because you guys live in the same apartment.. man, at that price point I would say it’s pretty low cost for KL so there’re a really nothing to be proud about, even with joint income. Must really feel manly to bring up your spends at chillis and all those mid range eateries YEARS ago. Embarrassing.

So in your opinion....what constitute a gold digger?

Thanks for sharing your story

Some people only cares about money, obviously cause money matters and caused many ppl fall into money trap so easily.

Just feel sorry for her..money is an infinite material. No matter how much u chase it, there wont be a stop/satisfaction. Plus, happiness from money is like an illusion, or drugs. It gets u super high feeling and u get addicted to it.

back 15 years back i date my ex gf (currently is my wife), think i spend less than RM50 for 4 dates meal... even lunch meal i buy together with her is like RM6 for 2 mixed rice box. Only time i will really spend is birthday meals. I consider very lucky that my partner doesn't mind how i spend on her... and of course i pay most the meals, at times she will pay at her own will.

** i never buy flower gift to her thru out my relationship

This post has been edited by cycheah: Sep 12 2018, 11:22 AM

back 15 years back ?
you also know back 15 years back...LOLLLL
expectation, technologies, food value, social media are in such a big gap for 15 years ago and you compare it to that?
no wonder you are easily triggered with just a 900 bucks of 4 meals combo...somemore 900 portion are still partially eaten by you as well
if you wanna compare to that, i guess my parents or grandparents experience would be more epic

Girl problem too choosy with seeking the most Atas level with too much expectation on the guy.
End up get nothing

triggered? nothing is triggered. It's just sharing only. both are lady but different expectation, why choose a lady who spend more when u still can choose other lady who are more efficient in spending money? my wife is beautiful to me is enough. i don't need model kinda face and good in bed just to make other guy feel jealous or admire. Money i saved for investment, bought a house, renovation/ repairs, marriage, vacation...

and yea... 15 years back, like our grandparent or great grandparent, i dont even have car, go dating we walk or take public transport. Nowadays which girl wanna walk with you under the sun and take public transport? there are times we walk from sunway pyramid back to USJ

which is why, different power comes along with different expectation
some female invest a lot on their body, hoping that it would make them feel great as well as getting a partner who know how to appreciate their so called greatness
in our real world, we used to call this type of girl as "gold digger" or "high maintenance chick" but turnaround, there is nothing wrong with them right?
of course if the girl don't have the look and body yet still expecting a whole checklist of male requirement to get ticked then its really a "thick skin gold digger" who is not even qualify to dig
so comes back to the male, if you are rich, earning decent income and still single....what is your expectation then?
at the end of the day, integrity still matter but our human eyes is always nasty....not many human in this world will really see other from the inside....

terasa some 1

she choose true love rather than money.... must be some rich guy dump her when she give him full heart.

Honestly, in TS' case it was a willing seller willing buyer kind of scenario. He knew how she was and yet, he went out 4 times with her for the sake of experiment. So, what rights does TS have to label her as gold digger? Can then the girl also label him as 'pervert wanting to get into my pants hence, he spend money on me?' dont tell me TS is so noble he doesnt have those thoughts

Anyway, in my opinion the term gold digger shouldnt even exist to describe both men and women! You make the choice you deal with the consequence. Just because it doesnt go into your favour, it doesnt give you the right to start labeling people with derogatory term(s).

Terasa? Why would I? If because I have certain level of spending power and look for someone who has equal or higher spending power to live a better / luxurious life and that makes me a gold digger - so be it at the very least i dont have to worry to meet months end and not whining like some people do. I am no saint and I am not disputing the fact, I am also after a luxurious lifestyle

This post has been edited by blossom_peach: Sep 13 2018, 03:11 PM

I think your argument holds no water.

He gave himself four chances to get to know her character thoroughly. If I have this "gf" who constantly harasses me and expects an expensive dinner everytime we go out then she indeed is a gold digger. If TS expects sex he can very well get a good quality prostitute for the money he spends on.

My 2 sens.

Obviously she wasn't in love with you when you both dated. That is why she go for your money. That is why she married a man with much lower salary than yours. She loved him with much honesty and moved on from you. Even ready to embrace the so called karma for him.


And obviously you are just salty. That is why you open this thread.

" If TS expects sex he can very well get a good quality prostitute for the money he spends on." Good one, hahaha!!!
Good point! 4 dates for rm1k... IF dates come with sex services indeed a really good quality and good price prostitute...

dont have to be salty and jelly, IF really do, walk across to other tower knock the door, show her money and visit her bedroom, will this make TS fell better??

5 years 100k huhu

Yes. Prefer to do so actually.

Nope, obviously a gold digger.... I've dated many girls, this story is a classic example of a gold digging whore.

why didn't you rent a kancil, wear like uncle when date her. When she rejected or refuse to go out with you again, next day post her pictures of your high end condo, sport cars, cash on bed

Cant blame the girl to have dreams

eat few hundred mean gold digger?

i always date different girl and lunch + dinner usually cost more than RM200

KARMA LOL

Your example not so complex what. Rather simple what the girl wants, some sort of social standing through money/status. In this case she has status because marry gwailou etc. Etc.
You have to understand, people here are quite 2d. In the end it's always about those 2 things I mentioned earlier. Good luck trying to find someone who honestly seeks more from this material world.

I agree. You guys don't know about TS situation, at that stage maybe he looks also dont have, money also dont have - then expect people to choose him when he obviosuly has no prospect. Now he's salty that she chose a guy who earns lesser money - but maybe he is more handsome and younger than him.

Then simply brand ppl as gold digger. She didnt even ask for presents and spend his (non-existent cc). Just bring her out for dates (which he obviosuly cannot afford) thats why call people gold digger cause he thinks its expensive dinner. Try 1k 2k fine dining then.

simple...she love him more that u.

Hah?? What are you talking about?

Youtube topics yo.

Bet she got knocked up. You should have done it after than rm450 spanish old wine. After all airbnb had thosr luxury nice condo for less than that old wine.

Guys need to think like investors when it comes to courting/bedding girls.

Always have a "cut-loss" amount. This depends on the grade of girls so the amount is highly variable.

Generally you will need to have a higher budget for hotter looking girls.

If you spend more than the budgeted amount, cut the girl off.

For example, if you exceed >RM1k over 3/4 dates and you still haven't slept with the girl, delete contact and remove her from your life.

You have been friendzoned (aka rejected).

This post has been edited by johnsonlim777: Jun 17 2019, 12:22 AM

she is willing to ration her lunch because she loves her husband, not because her husband is poor or she made the wrong choice.

She's gold digger alright. If she loves to eat expensively, then pay out of her own pocket, not someone else's.

what's wrong with gold digging?