There are generally 4 types of women:

1) for hook-ups, play-play only = materialistic (no money, no honey)

2) bitches = use men for financial or status gain; materialistic. Once she's done using him, she dumps him and goes for the next.

3) doormats = low self-esteem, clingy, desperate; may or may not be materialistic, coz some are afraid to lose their bfs, so she's willing to pay everything for him, while some are vain due to insecurity, so wanna show off how wealthy bf is.

4) wife material = money is important, but it's for future together (wedding, family, children) = practical, not materialistic
To be honest, men are actually quite generous with their resources, but they don't like to be exploited (who likes, anyway?).

I'd say most women are actually quite dumb when they place $$$ as the top priority, coz:

1) A man's potential is more important than the money he's earning now.

He can be earning a lot now, say RM10k a month, but how about 5 years down the road? Accidents and retrenchment can happen, and there's something called inflation.

How much money a man can make in the future is more important than how much he can make now. Be that woman who can adequately support his ambition and help him to achieve his goals, and push him to realise his fullest potential.

2) Most rich men are actually low profile.

They don't flaunt their wealth, and they don't provide financially, until they feel safe enough to show how much they have in possession. Don't judge a book by its cover.
If most women you date are the playgirls/ bitches/ doormats, it's only natural that you'd feel most women are materialistic. If you wanna settle down, then look for wife material. You should be able to feel the difference.

Actually, it's common for men to feel lost from time to time, coz of the challenges they face, the decisions they have to make and the expectations/ responsibilities they shoulder (as a man, a son, a father/ husband/bf, employee/manager). It's just that they don't show it, coz they are supposed to look strong/ tough.

This journey of self-discovery will take years, or decades, and it can be really lonely and frustrating, but it's necessary for breakthrough to differentiate the real men from men.