Hi /k.

I have been single for 7 years now. Broken hearted once.
After 7 damn years, finally I have the strength back to have a new relationship.

My doubt is, how can I know or recognize if a girl has a crush on me? How would you understand the signal from her?

Thanks

Have courage.. Ask her out on a date. If no response then move on

Should I move on if the girl do reply my text, but quiet after awhile?

Give a couple of try or weeks... If no response then move on

Thanks man. I appreciate it.

Btw, because of you, i have no reply from others.
Hahaha

For mine (currently gf), I didn't recognize a single hint because I was quite oblivious (still am tbh), when I was on vacation, she FaceTime me daily and said she missed me back here.

It was only after we met up when I came back (she fetched me from the airport), then I realized she had feelings for me.

It's actually the little things, like texts, calls.. It shows that they care about you.

Taking time to message/contact you even with a busy schedule is a good sign.

Broken heart from 7 years ago doesn't has anything to do with hinting a girl

Get straight, be a man, grab her hand and drag her out. Hint is a waste of time & misleading. If you don't get it straight, others will probably done it before u.

Hey Bro, unless you are considered good looking or macho type like Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise or the KPop looks don't expect girls to be giving you hints that they like you.

Get to know more people and expand your social life and confidence first.

I was in your shoes before, involved in long term relationship that did not work and single for many years.

Start slowly else you will look desperate.

Woman are attracted to confident men.

I don't know, man.

When i texted her, to start a conversation, after awhile she quiet. Didn't even reply my text some more.

When she texted me, i replied. After that, she ciao on me.

I just don't know what to do or think about this. I've made her laugh in the conversation, and my reply is not too long and too short. It's hard

Ini macam gua dulu sama. I was oblivious and many years later (we never got together) she asked me was I blur or I had no interest. Hahahaha ...

Well, that's too bad I guess.

I was interested in her so it all worked out in the end.

Hi Bro, I think generally, if a girl takes a long time to respond to your messages / e-mails, etc it means one of few things

a) She is very busy with her work and overlooked to reply to you.

b) She is not really interested and is merely being polite in entertaining you when you call her or catch her at the right time.

How to tell the difference between the 2 is this.. if you are always the one doing the calling / initiating (say more than 75%), then it’s the later (b) that she is not really interested in being more than friends and you should move on.

At your age, time is a precious commodity that should not be wasted on futile projects. In a way, it is better than leading you on and using you as a doormat or ATM.

Good ways to meet chicks (which I have used before).

a) Ask friends to introduce – this way you know that she is single and available if you can click it off

b) Join social events that interest you – you can meet like-minded people and have better instant chemistry

c) Join dating events / speed date / lunch actually – you meet women who generally want to date guys in your profile group

Generally, I would say that you should approach woman with the intention of just to know them and be friends. After a few outings or events (I don’t like to use the word dates), you would know if there is any chemistry to take it to the next step.

Portray confidence when meeting women in your speech and actions and don’t come off as desperate. If you sense that the woman is not interested, just cool off for a while and move on. Who knows, she may call you back and you can restart the process.

Wish you luck in advance.

For me personally, as a girl myself I'd really hate guys who cares about small subtle move and hints. Just say to my face that you like me or whatever, then we shall see if we're compatible or not and so on.

It may not apply to all girls though, although a guy who's confident and self assure is always attractive.

I am not sure but two ladies colleagues usually smile and chat with me. They remember small details that I spoke.

One is in her late twenties and another early thirties. I am much older. Go or no go?

just go with the flow and dont think too much about hint. be more brave and bold.

just go and ask her out for 1 on 1 meal.. if they OK usually a good sign. But if they are asking who else is coming, well, is either you are boring AF or they are just shy lah. haha.

but no harm trying though.

Yup, I'm doing that right now. Texting her, and stuff..
But unfortunately for me, she doesn't keen to text me, or even reply back my text.

So.... I'm kinda stuck here. Haha

I do believe maturity is important when it comes to this.

Good luck

Well, if you say so. Let's hang out at mamak. You're okay with it? Hahaha

Thank you anon. I appreciate your reply. After many years, I've started to feel free again. No more depression, no more sorrow for something that I can't control in life. I really want to start a new chapter in my life. I hope i can do it.

Wow, this is really a good way.

Thanks

Hello there ts, i can give you some of hint when im giving one at potential mate.
Shy
Joke/laugh alot even if its awkward
will text you before bedtime
so on.
If you like a girl make her love you first before someone snatched her right infront of your eyes.

i think quite likely she not interested. dont force it otherwise, she will avoid you and you will lose a friend.

And how I can make her love me first? And thanks for the tips.
Yup, it's obvious that she's not into me. Oh well...

you can try by being funny as example. Buy her dinner, go watch Rom-Com at cinema.
Try switching personality each day meet her. If she likes one of the personality stay with it. If not better switch. As long as we dont find you out. You should be okey.

I do wanna do that. Do stuffs together. Heck, even go hiking together is okay with me. But the prob is, i can't managed to get a girl to like me.

I know I'm not that smart, rich, etc...
But right now, i want to change myself. I don't want to waste my time being alone and miserable. 25 yo but still studying for degree. I do wish that i could play sports with her. Anything, to make me feel happy again. I know I'm being clingy, but I'm being honest.

Just be yourself, changing for the better is good but stay true to yourself.

If she likes you the way you are then she is the one, if not how many times are you going to change your personality, if even if you manage to pull it off, how long can you sustain? If want to act someone else to entertain a girl, why not go be an actor instead? Ain't nobody got time to act a f**king drama yo! You don't beg ppl to stay to your life, it won't last.

Do not be afraid to rock the boat. If someone falls out, they were not meant to be in your boat.

If you sense that the woman is not interested, just cool off for a while and move on. Who knows, she may call you back and you can restart the process.


>> this is great

Yup. You're right. I am who i am.
It just that I've been single for many years. Sometimes you do feel lonely, you know? Haha
Just wanna meet someone new. Maybe it can lead to many, new experience for me.
Thanks anon

What's that?

This post has been edited by sweet_pez: Apr 26 2018, 02:34 PM

if a girl like you she will like to talk with you, looking at you, go out with you

else no, wrong signal

what if the girl just need a friend?

she will hint you to be just friend.

she will not feeling ease when you privately ask her out, either ask you who is coming together or directly bring her friend to join / asking you can her friend join as well.

She like you you can see from her eyes, and smile.

looks interested in every topic you say, want to know more and asking, do notice when you coming or leaving etc.

too much hints so guys please be alert a bit, girls usually don't speak out but hint2

This post has been edited by NanaK: Apr 30 2018, 10:36 PM

This. When go out for a casual date in cafe, her focus only on you. Even if someone else passed by, she still focus on you.

Can stare straight into her eyes, then you will be able to tell.

Then to be more confirm, date her out again and she agreed, very high chance you strike lottery already.

TS all the best.

This post has been edited by MasBoleh!: May 1 2018, 06:02 AM

Once i dated a girl out.

She was playing the phone all the time.

And that is the last time i ask her out. Obviously no interested in me.

Keep your choices open. That is the advise from me.

This post has been edited by genjo: May 2 2018, 06:46 PM