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TScloudstrifes
post Apr 3 2018, 11:18 AM, updated 8y ago

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Hi,

Frankly speaking I do not know what to write in this thread. I have been feeling hopeless in life. Wanted to get help but it is way to expensive and company does not cover for such high medical expenses. I went to Befrienders before, but they seems like listening to problems only instead of solving your problem and for government I heard it is waste of time going there. I have also went to counselling session for around half a year it did help, but I am not fully recovered and this discomfort problem still comes once in awhile.

Currently I have been in some kind of discomfort feelings which makes me not feeling like doing anything.

I have tried exercise, it did help but not fully.

I have tried meditate, but it doesn't seem helping much either.

After trying a few ways and still I don't feel that I am in a very good shape yet and that will lead me to a thought that I am hopeless.

Anyone can let me know what should I do to make things better?
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post Apr 3 2018, 11:22 AM

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u need friends.. dont b alone..
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post Apr 3 2018, 11:28 AM

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are u obesity?

just straight to the point.
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post Apr 3 2018, 11:28 AM

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do you socialized? if u dun, then u need to try to get friends with common interest
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post Apr 3 2018, 11:30 AM

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sounds like depression
TScloudstrifes
post Apr 3 2018, 12:05 PM

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QUOTE(Baconateer @ Apr 3 2018, 11:22 AM)
u need friends.. dont b alone..
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I do have friends, but not much.

QUOTE(otai_g @ Apr 3 2018, 11:28 AM)
are u obesity?

just straight to the point.
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Nope. I do not have obesity, but I do want to grow fatter instead. XD

QUOTE(tuo850 @ Apr 3 2018, 11:28 AM)
do you socialized? if u dun, then u need to try to get friends with common interest
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not really. I am kinda introvert.
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post Apr 3 2018, 12:06 PM

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QUOTE(cloudstrifes @ Apr 3 2018, 12:05 PM)
I do have friends, but not much.
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u dont need many friends..u just need a few good ones..

hang out more with thm..tell thm ur problems..
TScloudstrifes
post Apr 3 2018, 06:27 PM

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QUOTE(Baconateer @ Apr 3 2018, 12:06 PM)
u dont need many friends..u just need a few good ones..

hang out more with thm..tell thm ur problems..
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my closed friends knew my problem, but they have their own live. I can't bother them all the time.
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post Apr 3 2018, 06:29 PM

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QUOTE(cloudstrifes @ Apr 3 2018, 06:27 PM)
my closed friends knew my problem, but they have their own live. I can't bother them all the time.
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of cos...but try to hang out with thm more..if u can..
TScloudstrifes
post Apr 3 2018, 08:40 PM

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QUOTE(Baconateer @ Apr 3 2018, 06:29 PM)
of cos...but try to hang out with thm more..if u can..
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Frankly speaking I wanted to look for a professional to find the root cause, but too expensive.
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post Apr 3 2018, 08:47 PM

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How's your dating life?
TScloudstrifes
post Apr 3 2018, 09:09 PM

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QUOTE(internaldisputes @ Apr 3 2018, 08:47 PM)
How's your dating life?
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nope i am not dating.
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post Apr 10 2018, 04:33 PM

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QUOTE(cloudstrifes @ Apr 3 2018, 11:18 AM)
Hi,

Frankly speaking I do not know what to write in this thread. I have been feeling hopeless in life. Wanted to get help but it is way to expensive and company does not cover for such high medical expenses. I went to Befrienders before, but they seems like listening to problems only instead of solving your problem and for government I heard it is waste of time going there. I have also went to counselling session for around half a year it did help, but I am not fully recovered and this discomfort problem still comes once in awhile.

Currently I have been in some kind of discomfort feelings which makes me not feeling like doing anything.

I have tried exercise, it did help but not fully.

I have tried meditate, but it doesn't seem helping much either.

After trying a few ways and still I don't feel that I am in a very good shape yet and that will lead me to a thought that I am hopeless.

Anyone can let me know what should I do to make things better?
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You need someone who can listen, understand and guide you like some therapists.
This then, means a friend or just a person who you can write to (at the same time, it will not be harmful for you to understand him too).

Befrienders did not help me when I wrote to them few years back.
Since many of them are volunteers, they spend very less genuine interest in the people's stories.

Have you discovered the root of this numbness?

Is it your self esteem?
TScloudstrifes
post Apr 10 2018, 05:28 PM

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QUOTE(johnmayer @ Apr 10 2018, 04:33 PM)
You need someone who can listen, understand and guide you like some therapists.
This then, means a friend or just a person who you can write to (at the same time, it will not be harmful for you to understand him too).

Befrienders did not help me when I wrote to them few years back.
Since many of them are volunteers, they spend very less genuine interest in the people's stories.

Have you discovered the root of this numbness?

Is it your self esteem?
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yes I need guidance to be exact. I have several friend listen to my stories, but most of them just listen.

Yes that is why I wanted to look for professional, I have went to some where similar to befrienders, they did give some guidance but still I feel lost.

I think I know what it is, but still it torture me once in awhile.
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post Apr 10 2018, 10:07 PM

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QUOTE(cloudstrifes @ Apr 10 2018, 05:28 PM)
yes I need guidance to be exact. I have several friend listen to my stories, but most of them just listen.

Yes that is why I wanted to look for professional, I have went to some where similar to befrienders, they did give some guidance but still I feel lost.

I think I know what it is, but still it torture me once in awhile.
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My opinion is a good therapist will cost you.
I'd hate that, because I feel someone only advises me for money.

I would look for communities who are going through the same situation. I would go online and look for people's stories and motivation.

If you don't mind about money, private therapist would be the best option.
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post Apr 10 2018, 10:51 PM

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QUOTE(johnmayer @ Apr 10 2018, 10:07 PM)
My opinion is a good therapist will cost you.
I'd hate that, because I feel someone only advises me for money.

I would look for communities who are going through the same situation. I would go online and look for people's stories and motivation.

If you don't mind about money, private therapist would be the best option.
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yeah that is one of my concern that is why i am looking for help in online community. i have visited to therapist once before it cost 250 for an hour. it is quite expensive.
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post Apr 11 2018, 05:24 PM

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I think the best ports are /reddit or international depression group on Facebook.

Are you familiar with 16 personality types and highly sensitive person test?
TScloudstrifes
post Apr 11 2018, 11:04 PM

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QUOTE(johnmayer @ Apr 11 2018, 05:24 PM)
I think the best ports are /reddit or international depression group on Facebook.

Are you familiar with 16 personality types and highly sensitive person test?
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no i have no idea.
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post Apr 12 2018, 09:34 AM

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QUOTE(cloudstrifes @ Apr 11 2018, 11:04 PM)
no i have no idea.
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You may read about this.

Have yourself a diary at the moment.
TScloudstrifes
post Apr 22 2018, 05:32 PM

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QUOTE(Shir L @ Apr 22 2018, 04:59 PM)
music & close friends~

hope tat u would get better ya~

sending love & hugs~~ X.O.X.O
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I am trying. Music helps a bit but not much. My close friend had their partner. I would not like to disturb their precious time with their other half. Anyway I have tried to clean up my room just to ease myself a little bit.

Anyway I feel better now. Thanks a lot ^^
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post Apr 22 2018, 10:13 PM

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QUOTE(cloudstrifes @ Apr 3 2018, 06:27 PM)
my closed friends knew my problem, but they have their own live. I can't bother them all the time.
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if they are your closest friends, they will b willing to help you n put you as part of their life though..

they will b worried about u n will ask you regularly on wat's your status..

listen to music, soothing music.. those meditation music.. if its too slow too you

go for a dance beat one.. not EDMs or metal rock.. cause tat may b too disturbing n noisy to your case.. console.gif
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post Apr 23 2018, 12:06 AM

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QUOTE(Wenny K @ Apr 22 2018, 10:13 PM)
if they are your closest friends, they will b willing to help you n put you as part of their life though..

they will b worried about u n will ask you regularly on wat's your status..

listen to music, soothing music.. those meditation music.. if its too slow too you

go for a dance beat one.. not EDMs or metal rock.. cause tat may b too disturbing n noisy to your case..  console.gif
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actually they did, when my friend brought me along, he will bring his gf as well. I just feel that I am in the middle of disturbing them that is why.

I just watched movie with my friend just now and I feel quite uncomfortable currently.
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post Apr 23 2018, 07:01 PM

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QUOTE(Shir L @ Apr 23 2018, 05:52 PM)
ya good to hear tat ure getting better then.

just indulge urself in those meditation or get urself into hobbies

do the things you love~ a way to reduce the negative emotions/aura around~~  flex.gif
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Problem is I don’t feel any better doing meditation and I don’t feel enjoy which what I used to enjoy.
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post Apr 23 2018, 10:51 PM

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QUOTE(cloudstrifes @ Apr 23 2018, 12:06 AM)
actually they did, when my friend brought me along, he will bring his gf as well. I just feel that I am in the middle of disturbing them that is why.

I just watched movie with my friend just now and I feel quite uncomfortable currently.
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so ure feeling better now based on wat uve answered on other forummers' replies or ure still being uncomfortable.

it is nor mal to feel that cause ure like the lamppost

but hey, u shud b happy n grateful to have such fren though!
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post Apr 24 2018, 09:38 AM

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QUOTE(Wenny K @ Apr 23 2018, 10:51 PM)
so ure feeling better now based on wat uve answered on other forummers' replies or ure still being uncomfortable.

it is nor mal to feel that cause ure like the lamppost

but hey, u shud b happy n grateful to have such fren though!
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yeah it is better, compare to something happened before, but there is this uneasy feelings following me.

 

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