hey...i am also in an ldr...

got a small problem... lately my gf has been returning to her room late.. like past 2am (i know coz i call her room then no 1 answer, then the following day i ask her what time she come back then she says 2am)... she says that she was in a friends room watching drama and chatting...

would you guys allow your gf to behave like this?? especially since you are so far away and dont know what shes up to.

i dont know but i just cant help felling insecure because of this...

This post has been edited by lelong1234: Apr 22 2007, 10:14 PM

haiz... just had an arguement with my gf.. she can sometimes me a bit too much...

kinda down right now..

thinking if this relationship is worth it or not...

heres a snippit of at conversation..,,

advice me on what i should do plz...


I says:
u treat me so good i think i should send u a lot

she says:
ha..
:
u not even sending me my present..
:
i doubt u will send flowers to me...

hehe...


I says:
yea la.. for u presents n gifts are like the most important things in life..

right??

dont hv 2 deny

for u presents + gifts = happiness

doubt got any other variables involved


she says:
yeah rite...
:
nonsense!!!

ok then...

u tell me so far wat have u gave me?other than those presents n gifts...


I says:
well seems like u think i hv given u nothing other than those

fine...

if u cant think of what i hv done 4 u...

then i really got nothing else 2 say to you

if u want 2 know..u really hurt me when u said that...

just go study or do whatever u want 2 do... no mood 2 carry on this conversation with u


She says:
wat did i say that hurt u?

but when u hurt me, i din say ..

then niow u like that la..

ok..

tell me la..

wat does it mean?

tell me la..


I says:
i have never done anything for u besides buy u presents la..

so everything else i did i wasted my time n effort la..


She Say:
ok then u tell me la,.

ok then...

I say
sigh...u need me to tell u this kind of thing also...

well since u think i hv done nothing for u... then i hv done nothing for u


She says:
hehe..

I says:
haha haha... so funny ah..

She says:
haha...
:
dunno...


I says:
yea la.. this is all one big joke for u la..
She says:
not really..

ha...

I says:
if u say so.. actting like a small kid...


She says:
not small kid...
she says:
it's YOUNG ADULT~~~@!!!!!


I says:
there...this is perfect example...

haiz..u go do what u want la.. i got better stuff 2 do..


She says:
okok..

so, which gf u going to find now?

hehe..


I Say:
c what i mean about acting like a kid??

sometimes u should grow up a bit and act a little bit more mature

not everything in like is a joke in case u dont know




will you get annoyed if you bf/gf treat/act like this towards you?? i am overreacting??

This post has been edited by lelong1234: May 21 2007, 11:46 PM

well about the flowers part.. on her msn she had a picture with a bouquet of flowers.. so i just asked her who bought it. well i said it in a jokingly manner. i think i said something like "which bf bought you those flowers." then she said she bought it herself and that i woudnt be sending her flowers anyways.

well the thing i dont like is someone asking you to buy them stuff.. i dont know la.. but to me it feels like i am being used.. if i want 2 get her something i should be able to get it by myself right? i dont need her to tell me 2 get her stuff.. just my opinion

anyways i sent her an sms saying that i was sorry for overreacting but she still hasnt replied...

ok.. thanks for all your advice... really appreciate it...

about the presents... she is thousands of km away from where i am. she was insisting i get her smgt so i did... but i told her i will give it to her when she gets back. she seems to want me to mail it to her. haiz.. some people ar.. cost of mailing it will be like rm50 or more.. coz its abit big..

both of us are gona be having our exams soon so i guess we should just concentrate on that for now..

Yeah.. thats what i feel. Well she had mailed me a shirt and sometimes by what she is saying she is like telling me "if i can mail u smgt, why cant u." i mean like wtf! if u want to mail me smgt thats up to you right.. i really apperiate it be u cant be expecting me to mail u smgt just because you did.

i mean me all have to act and live within our means right??

anyways.. planning to pass he some stuff through her friend who will be coming back soon.

oh.. btw.. what are the 3C's??

actually i dont really spend that much.. i think spend less in LDR than when SDR.

hehe.. 200km.. want to trade?? mine more than 2000km... even when she does come back for holiday, we will be 300km apart.. sigh.. forever LDR.. lol

anyways.. i msged her saying sorry earlier in the afternoon but she still hasnt replied..

i am guessing she is mad

what should i do?? give her a call tmr or wait a few more days???

This post has been edited by lelong1234: May 22 2007, 09:48 PM

haha.. i wish i could.. i thnk it will cost more than rm300 for them..

its abit too i think...

yea... have to concentrate on my studies now..

msged her again in the morning today but again got no reply up till now..

should i give her a call today?? or let things settle down for a while and give her a call during the weekend??

Was wondering, are you guys all involved in LDR?? or most of you all just come here for fun??

well you guys mind telling abit of your relationship?? ie where you are.. where ur gf/bf is.. how long you have been togeather.. how long in LDR... etc..

well for me i am in malaysia while my gf is in australia...
been togeather for about 6 months.. of that almost 4 months has been in LDR...

oh ok.. cool.. thats not too bad if u compare with me.. even when my gf comes back for holidays.. we are still kinda in LDR.. i'am in kl she in jb.. sigh..

how often to you get to see her?? btw, i was just wondering, how much communication you guys have with your partners while in LDR?

This post has been edited by lelong1234: May 23 2007, 09:15 PM

Wow.. serious?? how come so few times??

The both of you are students or working??

Huh??? dont know if can meet again?? how to be a couple if cant meet

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Added on May 23, 2007, 9:47 pmi feel you... in the beginning we used to communicate alot through skype..

but now she is never in her room.. dono her la.. she says she is always studying with her friends.. so now adays hardly get to talk. maybe one week talk once or twice for total of 10 min. been like this for the past one month. previously we talked everyday for 30min+. Now like this.. sigh..

Too expensive for me to call her hp, so thats why i keep the calls down to once or twice a week.

This post has been edited by lelong1234: May 23 2007, 09:47 PM

oh.. well i am a student also.. anyways i wish u the best of luck where ever ur relationship takes you..

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Added on May 23, 2007, 11:03 pmwell i kind of lost it for awhile.. but yeah.. i guess i just have to accept it..

This post has been edited by lelong1234: May 23 2007, 11:03 PM

haha.. no worries bro.. i am not a stalker just guessing..

actually i went was studying medicine there for a month.. then i dropped out..

when did she go??

i went there last year september...

haha.. i could have been your spy if u needed one.. hehe.. jk...

really small world ah? ask her if she knows about the 'guy' who dropped out. i am sure she will know. hehe...

came back coz i didnt like the course.. actually before going i already wasnt so sure weather to go or not, then my dad told me to give it a try. after a month i couldnt take it. just didnt like the course.

i know how u feel bro..

same thing going on between me n my gf.. seem to have arguments more often and sometimes it feels like the relationship is going no where... hang in there.. hopefully things will work out well for all of us. hehe.. wishful thinking

btw.. i dont think it would be a good idea to immediately go seaching for a replacement.. just my opinion...

oh.. this person is in manipal also??

i got a few friends there.. hopefully it isnt one of them..

you just broke up yesterday?? take it easy bro..

haiz.. cant seem to contact my gf..

call her hse.. no answer
call her hp.. straight go to the operator..

been like this for 2 days..

dono what to do...

then i checked friendster, it shows that he has logged in during the past 24 hours..

her msn name also changed (she is offline). it says "why is life so complicated"

guessing it has to do with me... sigh.. i dont know what i did wrong...

what should i do?? really starting to have doubts about this whole LDR thing. it just feels that she takes me for granted. Now i am having my exams and cant seem to concentrate.

honestly... i also dont know...

i cant recall doing or saying anything bad/wrong... thats what really puzzles me

actually she just came online... chatted with her for about 10 minutes..

she claims that where she is got no signal. then she contradicts herself by saying that she was busy cleaning her room (her room got signal). haiz. i really got no words for her. she told me "not to think so much" when i asked her why couldnt reach her hp. what kind of bulls#!t is that man. come on la, she could have given me a straight story right.

then i got kinda pissed and told her that it feels like she is not bothered about me. then she just said that shes very tired n gona go sleep. told me not to be so anrgy.. then she went offline. i continued to write some other stuff for her to read.. guess she will read those offline messages tmr..

This post has been edited by lelong1234: Jun 10 2007, 12:09 AM