Yea, i know we have to talk alot of things out. But sometimes it feels like she is always holding something back from me. Its like she is afraid to tell me somethings. Anyways, i am gona call her later and ask her to explain herself and just be more open about things. No need to keep secrets.

i cant sleep

So for you money buys love?


Anyways for those who know my story, i think i also gona tell my gf i want a break up. I chatted with her on MSN yesterday and asked her "you just disappear from my life for a year and now pretend nothing happened" then she just replied something along the lines of "so, what you want to do now" Really pisses me off to get such answers. Dont you all think so? I just replier "I also dont know." Then she said that she wants to go to sleep already. So i just said ok, we will talk again tmr.

Break up the right move?

I am also confused. Not been able to sleep properly the past few nights.

For those who know my story, The last contact i had with my "gf" was a few days ago. I tried calling her then she didnt answer. Then i got annoyed and sent an sms saying that i woudnt be wasting my time and money calling her and she not answering (like this for more than a month already)

Anyways, today she sent me a long email saying some stuff and asking me some questions. Anyways, mostly are small questions. Then at the end she asked me if i can handle this LDR or not. I was like 'WTF, shouldnt I be the one asking you this!?' Anyways, my answer to her questions was "the distance doesnt bother me. But if your going to continue acting like this, then i see no point in continuing"

Aiyo, she really make my head spin alot. Sometimes i really dono what to do about this relationship. To continue or to stop. Could hardly eat my dinner earlier.

Anyways, this is what she said at the end...

"Anyways, the purpose I sent you this e-mail just want you to understand how I feel. If I going to give you one more chance and who's going to give me chance in the future???
It's not that I trying to blame anyone or what, just want to make it clear.


So, now, I just want to ask you once more, do you REALLY want to continue in this relationship???
Because I just want you to think about it again and I wonder you can tolerate this kind of LONG-DISTANCE relationship."

I know its a bit confusing because there are a couple of grammatical errors.

Hehe

Yea, i am prepared for whatever. In my reply to her i said that I had already more or less given up.

Thanks for all the support and comments. Appreciate it alot.

Anyways, i am still waiting for her reply. I have to agree with you all on what you have said. If she gives me a disappointing response, i am going to tell her its over. I know that I probably wont be getting a new gf anytime soon if i do break up with her, but i think that would be better than just hanging on for the sake of it.

Will keep you people up to date.

I feel for you bro.

Wish you the best of luck to you with your relationship. Must hurt alot when someone that means alot to you says what your gf said.

I think you should listen to what Gr3yL3gion81 said. Anyways, you still have quite a while to deal with your problems before August. Hopefully all will be settled and you are able to visit her. All the best to you...

aiyo.. this 'gf' of mine ah.. really got no words for her sometimes. I came home, sign into msn and recieve an offline message from her. She asked me to ask my sister to her buy some stuff for her. Then said she will pay later when she come back to malaysia and take it.

What she trying to do? Still want to be togeater with me ah?

Btw, she got time to ask me all this but still haven't reply my email. (2 days liou)

I think thats the sad truth.

Anyways, plan to give her a call sometime this weekend to talk over stuff.

Hopefully she will answer my call. (if she does, it will be the first after about almost 2 months and probably around 50 miss calls from me. lol, how sad am i?)

aiyo.. help me out la people.. i finally got a reply from my gf. she send me an email saying this:


"What if I say just forget about the past and just continue?
What will you think of it??

Because I did not do anything that let you down before.

If I did, I don't think I'll e-mail at the very beginning and tell you those things.
Maybe what you are thinking are different from the things that I'm trying to say."


What to do ah? I am really confused now. I was already planning to tell her this weekend that I wanted to end the relationship. Now i get this. Any suggestions? I know I should probably call her and talk things through.

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Added on July 20, 2007, 3:59 pmbtw, she still didnt answer my question of "why did you ignore all my calls for the last 1-2 months"

Asked her like 3 times already, but either she give a stupid answer (huh, you got call meh?) or this just ignored my question.

This post has been edited by lelong1234: Jul 20 2007, 03:59 PM

Hey, thanks for asking,

Well, I tried calling her yesterday but she didnt reply. Then i sent her an sms telling her to give me a call when she was free. She never returned my call.

Then earlier today (30min ago), i tried calling her again. She didn't answer again. Maybe because its dinner time. But still that doesnt explain it. Anyways gona try again in 1-2 hours.

If she doesnt answer then I think I am gona send her an email saying that its over. She previously said that she wants to forget the past, and move on. She wants to be together with me but cant even answer my calls, then i really dont know what else to say.

I know it would be best to say it to her on the phone but she just wont answer my calls. God knows why.

Should I write her an email saying 'its over' or just wait until she tries to contact me again?

hi guys,

i have been chatting with her for the past 1-2 hours.

Told her that I didn't want to continue.

Still chatting with her, will keep you all informed.

hi guys,

Officially ended my relationship with my gf of 8 months. I know that she is very sad/angry. She kept on saying whatever, which I find kind of annoying Then she also said "since u want it like this, so i'll just respect ur decision." The i just said "its not like i wanted it to end up like this."

Anyways, in the end she said she wanted to go sleep and asked if we were still friends. Then I said ok.

There was one part that i ended up kinda laughing. She said to me, "You better think properly before you say things" then i just replied "dont worry, i had 2 months to think already." I think that must have stunned her.

Hi guys,

Thanks for all your support.

Yea, i really hate it when someone says "whatever." It feels like they are totally not bothered. Its like they 'dont give a damn.'

Joshua, my ex also like your gf, dont know how to lose. It can be really annoying sometimes. Yesterday she didnt even say sorry to be about whatever she had done. But it was I who apologized to her. They she said "sorry wont cure anything."

Anyways, I am doing fine. Didn't contact my ex-gf since last night. But I keep thinking if what i did was the right thing. I think it was. Anyways, I just hope that she is doing alright. I plan to leave her alone for a couple days then give her a call during the weekend to see how she is coping.

Well I guess I am only human. We all should care for one another We all make mistakes and hopefully we are able to realize them and learn from them to make ourselves into better people in the future.

Some people say that sometimes I am too nice. I guess being too nice sometimes doesn't pay back.

Hi guys,

I think most of you all already know that I had broken up with my gf. Well I called her yesterday and we talked for quite a while about random stuff. Then we kinda decided to maybe continue again. I know it may sound kinda stupid of me. But there is a part of me that just doesnt want to lose her even what she has done. Anyways, we somewhat agreed to take a break for awhile as she isnt doing very well in uni now and wants to fully concentrate on her studies this semester. Then afterwards we will probably talk more about things and see how it goes from there.


Btw jdreamer, is he a fan of drinking wine? why dont you get him a wine bottle opened? there are some pretty cool ones in the market. not sure how much they cost though. might be abit pricey. What ur budget btw? A watch would be nice but probably too costly.

hmm.. must be a very busy weekend... no one posted here.. all must be having too much fun

well mine was ok.. went to pyramid and then went ice skating. quite fun.

Sounds so innocent

Hi all,

Was hoping that you all can help me out abit.

As some of you may already know, me and my gf already broke up around last month. Then after that we talked and decided that maybe we could reconsider. We decided to decide on our future during our holidays (around 1-2 months from now).

So now we are just like normal friends. We chat every other day or so on MSN and talk maybe once a week max.

Well her birthday is coming up next month. I had already gotten her a present. But now given the situation, I dont know weather or not I should send it. Will it appear like as if i am trying to buy back her love?

I also made a card for her. And there are a number of 'hearts' in it. Not sure if it would still be appropriate or not.

What do you all think? Should i send her the card and the gift? Or just keep the gift and maybe give it to her sometime in the future if we do happen to work things out?

---- i know, i am thinking way too much