I understand what you have in mind.

I have never had partners in my life, except one man who was financially weak, who lost his job and became illegal expat who actually loves me because I was capable of providing him haven and foods.

His love grew wider for me, while mine faded after three months of knowing him. My love faded because I knew the reason he loved me. It didn't matter how true his love was anymore when the root came from the fact I could have helped him. Despite this issue, I remained his "love life" for three years until he safely left to his country - and then I told him I wanted to break up.

He accepted it. (Unusual)

It's different when a woman doesn't have partners because she is financially independent. Based on my experience, I am afraid to let anyone pays me even for drink because I am not used to it.

When any men offer me dinner or whatever things dates do, I get shivered.

"What does he want in return?" is what I usually ask myself.

I want to be sorry for men who were digged by these women (they are everywhere, regardless of nationalities). However, the men have chosen them. It is not entirely the diggers' fault.

I helped my ex partner, though I felt burdened. It was my mistake to never leave earlier (though he threatened me mentally, hence I postponed my plan).

Wherever I am with any men I will always refuse anything, unless they really meant it that they really do what to provide this for me.

There was a man who introduced himself to me. After few months, we went out. He asked the type of guy I like, and an important question:

"Do you mind marrying or dating someone who is not rich?"

I said, "I don't. Because that's not what I looked for in love."

The answer astounded him and his friends.

Anyway TS, every girl loves to be treated. But a good girl knows when to draw lines. When to ask, to have. There are many bag stores in the world. I walk by LV, it never makes my eyes sparkle. Not every woman dreams of having all these bags.

The only thing that sparkles me is actually my favourite cheese carbonara or fried chicken that cost less than rm18! Or handsome Japanese who is single.

Exactly, but only if I have feelings for him.
Rarely men want to be protected in this manner these days though (Woman as protector seems too strong for a man).

Throughout my dating experience, all my dates have average income. Few non Malaysians probably have slightly higher average income than us. I never asked anything from them even when we went out together. They treated me for lunch but if they gave choices - I would opt for cheaper options. "Neroteca or chicken rice?" "The latter."

But these people felt bad instead, so they would treat me to a better dinner or lunch when I didn't feel the need to. It happened recently with one man. I don't know how to deal with it, usually women would feel happy. I'm not unhappy, but I feel like I would burden him.

If I have a boyfriend, I will use my own salary to buy my beauty stuffs. I will not ask my boyfriend for this. I know life is hard, and money is not easily gained. When it is to be shared, it will be shared for the use of both parties ie: normal dinner, or condom -____-

Exactly exactly.
Many men in relationship in fact do these cheating as well.
It's so predictable it makes me question everyone who is in relationship, and makes me feel being single is less hurtful.

There is no answer to this question.
You cannot judge or assume anyone's sincerity.
This also doesn't mean the men really love the ladies.
This also might mean the men really love them.

How comfortable and confident the two is will prove how strong the love is.