Learn from my mistake.

I want to save money for the marriage, ie, for the future after the wedding. My ex-in laws want big money and show off and my ex-wife wanted a show.

I tried to come to a common ground but no success. It was me against her and her family.

Not that I don't have the money but the 50-60k for the 'show' can really help me reduce my housing loan, have back up money after the wedding, live a more comfy life knowing I have back ups in my bank. After the 'show' I have 0 in my account for half a year and I never had that ever since I started working.

Tell your gf. It is either we do it in your budget, or not doing at all. Because of this issue, they became my ex. Well, this is one of the biggest issue which contributed to the break.

After the break, every now and then when I think back, I shouldn't have gone through this. Should have just given up. Find some one who understands you better, work with you as a team, which contributes to the bond as husband and wife. If things are broken before the marriage even started, no point going through the show.

Divorce is expensive man. Don't play play. I wished that some one told me this at that time, or I can travel back in time to slap myself silly to tell myself.

Cost me the lawyer fees which is cheap. 8k plus. Cost me a house profit is I sell. Which is 300k profit. Cost me die of millions of brain cells when I some how still have argument with ex-wife. Just some how we are still arguing. The most costly thing is the strained feeling that I have on the relationship with my daughter though I get to see her 4 to 5 times a week now.

Be carefull ts. Think wisely and no matter what never ever take up PLoan for this one day event.

Chinese i dont know.
But indian now 40-50k(ikut gold)

Its Highly dependent on groom and brides education and family backround(both sides)

Like for my sisters it was 50k just dowry

Wedding cheaper

Since its together with dinner

10k nia..

Ang paws usually covers wedding/dinner cost.

Dowry? My sister worked her S off for her wedding, even H-2 she still working and she told me she is in debt for thousands of ringgit because of this wedding.
Pity her now she has to pay the money she borrowed from her in laws.
Well ts if you can afford to give them something, give la.
You r christian too? We just do whats best, in the end whether things will go bad or not we will never know, its all worth it when things turn up to be good, if things go bad just know that you are being saved from something worse. Keep on praying

Kesian u bro

Sebab tu dulu masa aku nak ajak bini aku kawen,aku cakap kat dia,aku ni memang takde duit sgt...tpi kalau setakat nak kawen tu memang la mmpu...nasib baik bini aku ni jenis tak kisah sgt benda2 hantaran,adat semua ni...so senang sikit la,keluarga dia,dia yg runding cakap kat mak bapak,nnti jgn mintak mcm2 dekat bakal laki aku...aku pun sama,runding ngn family aku jgn buat macam2 utk majlis kawen aku nnti...sebab kmi berdua dh sepakat,kawen simple je....tak payah ikut adat,duit hantaran pun kami berdua yg setting ikut berapa kemampuan aku....kalau ikut aku n bini aku,bersanding pun tak nak...tpi apa boleh buat,nenek aku smpai menitis air mata nak tgk aku bersanding...nak tak nak terpaksa la bersanding...hahaha

Btw,gud luck bro....all the best!!! Hope u can pursue ur wife to be to help u pujuk ur in law to make ur wedding easier!!

Bersanding:duduk atas bangku sama isteri macam raja dan ratu...nnti org datang kenduri boleh tengok...

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Kalau ikut plan i dan isteri i,kmi cuma duduk atas pelamin ni utk sesi fotografi je...in the end,spend around 4 hour plus and 4 persalinan baju sebab nak ikut kehendak my grandma..letih siot..

Not really,mine only cost me around rm3000..clothing,pelamin,cameraman etc

Btw,like i said before,me and my wife dont want to follow custom/adat....bersanding is adat oledi...

Kawin is easy and simple in islam...adat make it complicated and expensive..