Oct 21 2016, 08:35 PM
QUOTE(scchan107 @ Oct 21 2016, 05:18 PM)
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Few question:
How much time between now and your banquet?
Have both your parents met yet?
Normally dowry is discussed when parents from both side met.
Definitely need to sit down and "negotiate" face to face.
My own story for case study:
Initially also faced similar problem as TS, parents-in-law fickle minded on the dowry, each time they attend 1 marriage, the amount changed.
So I make used of the day where u suppose to send the "gift" to wife house (Normally 1 month before actual day), set the same day as dish sampling with restaurant, parents and in-law meet face to face in restaurant, THEN the negotiation begin.
My mom is a smooth talker, nego from pure $$ dowry to gold jewelries (comes in set of 3) + 10 sponsored banquet table (meaning I pay for the table but ang pow kept by in-law) + "small" angpow.
When it comes to actual day banquet, somehow i manage to break even, despite sponsoring 10 tables, problem solve.
PS: My table cost is RM800
PSS: My mom talked so smooooth that at some point she did hint that if in-law set too high that I can't afford, might as well call it off, see who is more worried, the son or the daughter
PSSS: Is your GF christian? Not sure if she is aware how boring an actual church wedding can be as I've been through as Catholic myself.
How much time between now and your banquet?
Have both your parents met yet?
Normally dowry is discussed when parents from both side met.
Definitely need to sit down and "negotiate" face to face.
My own story for case study:
Initially also faced similar problem as TS, parents-in-law fickle minded on the dowry, each time they attend 1 marriage, the amount changed.
So I make used of the day where u suppose to send the "gift" to wife house (Normally 1 month before actual day), set the same day as dish sampling with restaurant, parents and in-law meet face to face in restaurant, THEN the negotiation begin.
My mom is a smooth talker, nego from pure $$ dowry to gold jewelries (comes in set of 3) + 10 sponsored banquet table (meaning I pay for the table but ang pow kept by in-law) + "small" angpow.
When it comes to actual day banquet, somehow i manage to break even, despite sponsoring 10 tables, problem solve.
PS: My table cost is RM800
PSS: My mom talked so smooooth that at some point she did hint that if in-law set too high that I can't afford, might as well call it off, see who is more worried, the son or the daughter
PSSS: Is your GF christian? Not sure if she is aware how boring an actual church wedding can be as I've been through as Catholic myself.
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