Wow, I only had to pay 8k dowry.

For once in your GF's life, she has to be firm. Both of you agree on a figure, let her work on her parents, then you come in, discuss, and agree.

For weddings, normally the angpow will cover, as long as your table is NOT RM2k++ per table. Find a reasonable table cost of about 1k/table. As long as it's KL, you should break even.

P.S. The reason I mentioned KL is because I've heard of really low low angpows in Penang, JB, and elsewhere.