Dowry? My sister worked her S off for her wedding, even H-2 she still working and she told me she is in debt for thousands of ringgit because of this wedding.
Pity her now she has to pay the money she borrowed from her in laws.
Well ts if you can afford to give them something, give la.
You r christian too? We just do whats best, in the end whether things will go bad or not we will never know, its all worth it when things turn up to be good, if things go bad just know that you are being saved from something worse. Keep on praying

My sist last time really2 want to marry in a very extravagant hotel, got the cheaper one she refused cause it looks cheap (but actually the place not bad, got swimming pool n very light) then only until the end of preparation she realized she spent so much she needs to borrow money and therefore cant afford to leave work. Good thing now because of that she saves money and listen to husband more

Mainly bcause of the hotel venue. She wanted the good hotel that wont "destroy" her reputation. They did look around, theres cheaper venues with good food, but she wanted that one because it is located in the city center, so when people hear the name, they would b like "woaah"
You know, she thought she could afford it, but turns out got more n more unexpected expenses so in the end she cant actually afford it, but its too late to realize, so she owes money