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 Just had some argument rgd dowry issues

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post Oct 28 2016, 02:13 PM

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QUOTE(briantwj @ Oct 21 2016, 05:06 PM)
I really hope i can do travel wedding next time. doh.gif
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This is the most ideal wedding.

Wedding + honeymoon together one shot.

No monkey show, no yam seng show, no need waste money on photographer (and sometimes get shit photos), no need show off here and there.

Most importantly, parents, in-laws and busybody relatives are OUT OF THE WAY!

I spoke to my girlfie about this idea when we are considered stable in the relationship.

She supported my plans and luckily her parents are those cincai type.

Just be open with your concerns lahh.

I am sure she will understand cuz after all, marriage is about the two of you.
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post Oct 28 2016, 02:35 PM

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QUOTE(jwrx @ Oct 21 2016, 05:52 PM)
promise them that one day, when you are in better position financially, then you can provide a decent dowry
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Honestly, no in-laws will take this bait.
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post Oct 28 2016, 05:19 PM

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QUOTE(MakNok @ Oct 21 2016, 06:29 PM)
since you pointed out your right...
isn't bride parent have the right to dowry deem suitable to them as well?
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Like that no difference with selling daughter lohh.

I have a friend (really a friend cuz I am still single) whose future parents in law asked for RM88,888 dowry.

He straight tell them right in the face:

CAN! No problem. I can get a loan from ah long. Then if I cannot repay them, and they come and look for you guys, then you settle with them lahh.

The future parents in law straight changed their minds and told my friend to give whatever he could afford, in exhange for a caring and kind son in law.

Because of that, their relationship became very close.
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post Oct 28 2016, 05:20 PM

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QUOTE(spacelion @ Oct 28 2016, 05:06 PM)
are u mid 20s or after 30? most of my hengdai after 30, marriage a lot simpler, both side just want to get over with it (unless 1 side is tan sri level)

but those young young ones head in the clouds, still thinking of venue = glass house and must have min budget 50k.
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I was in my early 20s when I discussed this topic with my girlfie.

Being someone who likes travelling, she agreed almost right away hahaha.
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post Oct 28 2016, 05:31 PM

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QUOTE(goodiemangold @ Oct 22 2016, 01:20 PM)
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And for those that say it's stupid to have dinner and expect other ppl to pay, u guys miss the point of all this. Receiving a wedding invitation is a blessing and u r there to wish the newly weds lifetime bliss. Most Chinese gave big angpows for wedding coz they r happy for the couple and just want to help out with their expenses.
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Yes, that WAS the original meaning of wedding invitations.

Almost all Chinese weddings nowadays are clown shows (during the morning ceremony) and show off events (during the dinner).
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