I didn't know marriage can be so expensive.

I only wanted a simple marriage but ended needing to expense for this and that. The in laws want it this way, my family want it another and my fiancée want it this way.

I try to save cost wanting a simple church and banquet but end up it becoming more complex for me. More complex for me is that I try to say it as tactful as I can to save cost, even justify to save money for future as my housing loan is coming up and I don't have a lot of disposable income left.

I think weddings are important but don't want to spend too much on it, as I more eager to invest into marriage than wedding as the wedding profits the photographers, bridal houses and restaurants.

Now I have another new conflict, the dowry. I have totally thought that it was not required afterall I am a Chinese. But now my future in laws are asking for dowry. It became a big issue and they appear not happy with me, because I was thinking of giving presents to them instead of money. This has caused tension between me and my gf.

Sigh, I am not good at communicating with people end up say things I don't mean. But I am finding it tough going to organize a wedding.

I think by the time the wedding is over, the money can buy a pesona. Bye bye $$$. If I don't spend one pesona my gf will be extremely mad at me. Sometime I wish I am born a woman, it so tough being a man.

easy for you to say.

Invitation card all send out.

You want me to cancel half way when I already paid the deposit for banquet?

Very embarrassing, I don't know how to face my office colleagues.

Haha. Man, they sounded just like my ex-wife and ex-inlaws. That is why they are ex now. Seriously. Marriage is no play. Call it off if you are not sure if this is the one. Like really. I am not joking, not trolling. Loosing face now is nothing. The suffering you take in after the wedding in terms of emotional torture is beyond words. Especially when your gf is siding her parents. She is not even on your side, not thinking for you, not on your team. Good luck.

If the gf understands and stand on TS' side after the discussion, I will buy him nasi lemak ayam rempah + sambal sotong + petai + telur goreng + ikan bilis lebih.

My gut feeling is that she will not understand at all and tell TS that it is a once a life thing and TS should do it for her. And I bet another set of the nasi lemak above that TS will give in. Just like me. I hope that he is not.

this.