Hi Guys,

I suspect my neighbour is mentally unstable giving me and my family a hard time staying beside her.
Is there anything i can do besides moving out as that is not an option in the near future unfortunately.

Any advice is highly appreciated.

what she did to your family?

cctv

Build a really high wall, make sure gate and door/grilles are locked.

Need more info

My sis in law neighbour adopted a mental kid. Few years ago, he got pissed chopped up her up. She ran to neighbour house... Asked neighbour open gate. Son came from behind and keep chopping... My sil said sounded like chopping pork in market.

thats scary, my sis condo has 1 unit at the same floor whole family also mental one, dan scary.

Y u suspected him mentally unstable? Story mane?

like how?

report polis cakap menace
scare for safety
ask rumah kebajikan take away

sorry guys, owe u guys the story. ok, mental level i think not so bad until safety is compromised, at least at the moment lar..
it started when they wanted to put up wall to cover up between the houses. i firmly said no because my house is intermediate and theirs is end lot, not corner lot. but they ignore and continue erect the wall. then in between the fence cover with cheap gipsum board. wife got angry and went and knock down the board and both ended up at the balai. the mentally unstable person said it's because my 3 year old son keep throwing stuff over to her side. now i know kids are kids anyhow, so some form of menace is expected. but for a grown up to fight with a three year old, i am totally speechless.

then keep throwing rubbish over to my house inside and outside. Then hor, keep using sticks to push my flowers down from the beam that's in between the houses. once i told her off quite loudly in front of the neighbours and she is so thick faced like buat tak tau saja.

What can i do?

If in between the house they have the right to put up....why you knock it down? Your wife's fault.

it think it all started with the wall then, is it wrong to build that wall in thier end?.

i think u just using "mentally unstable" just to make your neighbor look bad in this thread. for people to be on your side.

need more story before can judge. because from stories u doesnt seems like a good neighbor either.

This post has been edited by TheHitman47: Apr 11 2016, 04:31 PM

Nothing mental about your neighbour, just them being un-neighbourly..

Not mentally stable lah...

More like someone cari pasal, and cari pasal the wrong person.
This is what yo get lor if both side don't want to kalah.

just curious, if your neighbour started to build wall against your decision, what would you do exactly may i ask?

last time my neighbour built a brick wall beside our car porch wall from bottom to top with a 5 to 10 cm gap between our wall and theirs. It is an intermediate house so that gap instantly becomes a breeding place for rats and our side is not covered up till the ceiling so all sorts of pest is climbing over to our side. We can't do anything even talk to them and we did not raise our voice during the discussion, end up we have to sealed our wall but the gap unable to sealed because that is on their part of land.

shitty neighbour....bought a new house and move away.

i think she is only trying to annoy you. if you ask your kid to apologize to her i think she would consider stopping all her menace

thats why i ask, is it like they illegally build it. i mean like law speaking here.
even if i dont like it but they dont actually break any law..i wouldnt just knock it down, thats totally my fault.

what im saying is, this is just one sided story, and ur story are not that convincing either..so im not gonna take side and also blatantly believe that ur neighbor are in fact "mentally unstable" as u stated.

having this kind of neighbour really mentally torture.

the wall issue is grey area, but heres the thing, shes paying for it without needing a cent from you. also, would you prefer instead of she build a wall, she purposely grow trees or just put random stuff on her side to block that wall?

i think u do have reason to argue if she put a cheap board right in the middle but still. at worst she would put the board on her side. she may be mentally unstable but perhaps you can try working it out with her try and discuss what alternative other than that board can be used that both side agree to. it may seem "unfair" but she is still ur neighbour so its half half.

throwing rubbish if you have proof, bawak ke balai.

about the pushing flowers that is IN BETWEEN, thats another 50/50.

i can understand your side, but i can also understand her side. she doesnt like you and wants to shut her house to herself. she likes how shes "decorated" her place and does not want to see you/your house. you sticking flowers at an area thats half her property makes her pissed (also your wife did knock down her board so she might be having a grudge). it might seem trivial for you but when you have neighbours u have to learn to live with them

well, it started like this, her husband came over to me when me and my kids were at the park and he asked for permission to build a wall in between. I said if possible don't. But he said his wife is adamant to build it. i said, ok, if you need to build then build half but don't cover everything. It will make my living hall very dark. The next day, i came back and noticed the whole wall was covered up. Then in between the fence it was covered with the cheap gypsum board as mentioned earlier. So it seems they don't give a xxxx at all and just went to build it. my being an intermediate house i have to put the brooms stacked beside on the side wall. When the contractor was building the wall, the worker hung his clothes and placed his phone on the wall. This woman went and throw the clothes and phone all into my garden, thought that it was mine. Now i understand you guys might be thinking my side of the fence looks shitty, but put that thought to rest as i spent hundreds if not thousands hiring a gardener to take care and plant flowers on my side. So at least from my point of view it is decent looking to say. Since my house is an intermediate, i have no choice but to keep my drying aluminium bar and broom resting on the wall between my house and this family. This woman will ocassionally use a stick and push these things down as i believe she don't like sticks or sorts sticking up. But why not just tell us and instead resort to this sort funny behaviour.

When some rubbish get strewn by dogs or sort in front of their house, instead of throwing it away, this woman will automatically presume it's ours and throw it over to our front yard. This is again very very strange behaviour.

When they shifted in i usually greeted them but they don't answer back. In the end i gave up. Same comments from the other neighbours. And it's the same thing with the other neighbours. Now i don't have any issues with any of the other neighbors at all. As a matter of fact we are very good friend with the pho pho on the other side. It's only this neighbour from hell that we are having issues with.

They even installed their astro dish on my as you people call "side of the fence". Now i have never even thought of this thing but somehow it has made me sunk to their level and told them to installed it properly over on their side. I am not this sort of "calculative" person in nature and it just makes me really angry and made me do this sort of thing normally.

There are so many other strange behaviour, like driving like maniac on the neighbourhood roads etc etc.

I know you guys might think that i myself might be a bad neighbour. i have asked them why you want to build the wall so that i can solve the issue instead of having a eyesore wall built in between. They said my kids was using a stick to poke their electric meter. i believe this is the sort of civilised method of solving disputes rather than covering up your intermediate neighbours wall without giving a fxxk about their feelings.

But

yea, well you seemed pretty conclusive that i was the so called "bad neighbour" instead of them initially. now instead you have to listen to both part of the story to judge instead. i am still eagerly awaiting your answer.

Don't get me wrong i don't condone knocking down other people's stuff as well. i always believe there is always a civilised and peaceful way to resolving issues, that is if the other party have the same believe as well.

Well ts since the wall already there and you can't have a say how others want to decorates their house, just live with it. You might want to solve it with discussion but the way you wrote give me an impression they want to shut your family out of their side.

i know how you feel ts.
my parent have similar issue. about 10 years already still not resolve. discussion is over no more.
we ignore them like they not exist.
but still they will do something to make us angry.
example.
when we hang out outside. every effin time they will go out as well and make sound like throwing something.
too many to write down haha.

the rubbish thing also happen to us.

we wish to move somewhere but yeah cant afford to move out.

be strong ts

did u see how u react here?, i never said u did wrong i just ask the status of the wall in is it legal wall or not.
if u read, you would understand what my answer is.

i don't know if the wall is legal or not actually, do i have any basis to take any legal action?

mestilarr, instead you label me as the "mentally unstable" haha..
should instead change the title to "Neighbor from Hell" instead. My bad lar, did not paint the whole picture first...

watch ur kids

cctv

As a terrace house resident, nothing annoyed me more than a naughty kid. If i bring myself down to the level and argue with the kid, I am the one who is at fault for sure.

Watch your kid and change yourself first before changing anyone else.