so your wife want your mom to follow her method of raising the kid correct?

ah this problem. if you have good relationship with your mom, just ask her politely to follow your wife's way. explain to your mom that waifu very stressed and read all these books. Emphasis should be made to your mom that your mom's method is not wrong. but your wife has her own way as well. then need to tell your wife to be more patient. when my mom jaga my son. my wife also very stressed. i just tell her close one eye. hahah.

congrats buddy. yup. wet wipes gonna be your best friend. open diaper and wipe away. lol. for urine i normally use at least 2 wipe. and then powder. for motion, as many as it takes till clean and then powder. just becareful when open diaper dont kena tembak. especially for boy. LOL. powder, i recommend corn starch, they say healthier in case baby breathes it in, been using pureen one. i thnk RM9 for big bottle. and nappy rash i use sudocrem. good stuff.

we also did formula + breast feeding. the baby wasnt confused at all. but i wont say 100% wont be confused. but for my son, he wasnt. at one point my son stayed with me for 1 month fully on formula/frozen breastmilk. then after that when mom came back went back to BF.

you will end up using bottles later probably. So if you are going that route, get a good glass bottle (been using ours for 4 years di) its good investment especially since you are pouring hot/boiling water into it. the teats also got grading for their age to control flow.

i think all hospitals have a free class for this. give them a call.

welcome to the club! congrats

Welcome to parenthood lol. I would never wake a sleeping baby to feed though. Feed on demand only. If breast milk. Even can't finish. Can still keep a while. Formula have to throw.

i think should be fine. just dont massage that area i guess. maybe you can go to those place that offer post natal massage.

i think most big branded strollers are a waste of money. some brands even though rm3k, stroller still aint stable. a lot of crap out there. tbh, i think for first stroller just grab a cheap sweet cherry 2-in-1 (i think all aeon got them for example http://www.sweetcherry.com.my/new/product_details/214). no problem using it. unless wanna be perasan a bit, then can buy brands like quinny. i used to have a 2nd hand quinny but my son frickin got damn hot in that thing. and damn heavy too.

so for me, i recommend sweet cherry for first year, then when baby older switch to mobile stroller like pockit or other lightweight stroller. 2sens. thanks.

its normal. the feeling will sway back and forth as he grows older. sometimes he wants mom, sometimes he wants dad. but at first its mainly mom just because she probably spends more time with her (especially if breast feeding).

the problem arises is when they are older and have an unhealthy attachment to mom or dad and cant do ANYTHING without one of you present. moms are normally the main cause because they are normally much much more protective. i had to tell my wife to back off many times when letting my son play. let them fall, let them fight their own battles, let them get frustrated and overwhelmed. let them get pissed off. let them socialise by themselves and learn to share by themselves. i think a lot of people think me and my wife are bad parents probably hahaha. but oh well.

the other day my son threw a tiny, super light plastic ball (imagine i crumpled up a piece of paper and threw it at you) at a kid to get his attention... kid grabbed his arm like kena batu and complain to his mom and she came to complain to us. i almost burst out laughing.

stand cradle? is it that bouncing thing to help them sleep?

imho, dont get it. because if baby keeps falling asleep in that, then he will need it all the time. gonna be a nightmare. but from what you describe, its a completely normal situation. does your wife need to do all the housework at that time? no one to help? best is if you let her just take care of baby and do some very minor urgent tasks. the rest just leave it till night time when you get home to help do them, or you take care of baby.

suddenly start to refuse? is the seat sized properly?

as others mentioned, my son knows if he isnt buckled in, no one is going anywhere. so far from birth till 5yo, never complained about his car seat.

well daycare you can send as early as you want. but playschool i think normally starts around 2.5-3yo. just call or visit some schools in your area to ask.

you mean those 2 wheel balance type bikes? some kids love them. my son didnt and was always really awkward haha. so just threw into storage and bought him a proper bike with training wheels when he was older.

sounds like you have it tough bro. they both feed off each others energy. so its kinda like being on constant recharge. i dont think there is a way to drain the battery or gas if they are together. but normally kids will begin really misbehaving after they get tired. so if they are full pedal from morning, i think they need to nap if possible. sometimes my son also going nuts but ask him to lie down and close his eyes and within few minutes already knocked out. if i dont ask him to lie down he can full throttle from 7am till 11pm nonstop. its kinda strange.

as a father of a now 5 years old boy. unless you earning the really big bucks, im sorry to say there is always financial pressure. at the time I had my son, i was even unemployed so i know what youre going through. But be honest with yourself and your wife, dont need to play the tough cool guy, at least discuss your fears and concerns with her. this is a life commitment. go through it together. you were planning for it next year anyways right? next year is only 3 months away. so its just a little early.

im not a specialist but i think you need to find the real cause of the anxiety is your anxiety truly due to finances or more towards being a father or something else completely? if you really cant find the answer, then please do seek professional help.

But in my opinion, if it is solely due to finances, you have years and years to improve your situation. bro, you have time to earn more money. but no matter how much money, you cant buy back this time of your life. Its not like the moment they pop out, you need thousands upon thousands in the bank. live within your means, and put in the work. people are raising families on less than 1k household income. its not ideal, but its possible. and there is also BSH/BRIM if you fall into that category. sad to say you may have to cut off some hobbys, friends, etc, but i will say this; only when you become a father, do you understand a fathers love, sacrifice and weight. when you see them sleeping peacefully. you ready to fking take on anything.

jus my 2sen. but anyways, What is it about your finances that you believe is not stable enough to have kids?

Firstly. No such thing as being a perfect example. Parenting is a learning process for everyone. How much effort and what not is just what kinda parent you wanna be. Waifu will guide you lol.

But anyways. now that you know the issue is not really financial then you need to make a decision lor. Dunno what the hobby is. But hobbies can be continued later or worked around. Its not the end. Anyways good luck bro.

does she need to go back to work? as in, the extra income will lift a lot of pressure off the family? or just you would like her to work?

hmm. ya, it is stressful to always stay at home. very bosan one.

ok, as long as waifu willing to go back to workforce, then more power to her. but my advice would be to send your kid to nursery at least 3 months before she starts working if possible. This is because nursery's and all those places are filled with germs and sick kids. for sure the kid is going to be sick all the damn time! (hopefully not lah of course), but for my case, send to school healthy. then sick by weekend. cured, send back. sick again hahah. its terrible. my son had a schedule like that for i think 2-3 months till he built up his immune system and that was when he was 3yo. just make sure you do research about the after hour charges and having a reliable back up to pick the kid up from school.

for me i would consider the following, full day you or family confirm can pick her up after work? and also for the driver would consider the route. if its quite close to the nanny i would feel ok. but ya, normally those drivers for daycare is quite old retired pakcik/makciks, i also dont feel so confident haha.

so far been lucky enough to pick my boy up myself or get family to fetch him.