wah. walking only 10 mins thats really close haha. for me, if that close, i think using a driver is ok. sounds like wont be going on highway or any big roads so even if something happens wouldnt be so serious i guess.

thats the life. haha. even when super stressed at work. come home and leave those worries outside if possible.

sorry for your loss. i had a colleague that had to be super careful during pregnancy to avoid miscarriage, everything done super slow and careful, so difficult and stressful moment for her. well all the best to you and wife bro!

congrats bro! get ready for an amazing, tiring, wonderful, stressful, fun, scary, etc. time! LOL

my 2 sen.

i didnt use any baby changing table because didnt think it was necessary for us. instead i bought rubber mat thing, then can change on the bed, or on the floor. or on the crib. but if you got extra $$ and space, then of course table is better.

as for crib. i think ikea ones are ok, but only 2 levels. if got budget i recommend getting a 3 level crib. my son still using his crib @5+yo.
top level when they are still newborn, so its easier to see them and pick them up/put them down, can even change diaper. the second level when they can start rolling around a bit and lowest level when they can sit up/stand. then when they are older, can take off one of the sides and can use as normal bed. when you are picking up the kid so many times a day, your backs will be soooo happy with the top level. hehe.

for bottle, i recommend getting glass. but thats just personal preference, i find it cleaner.

other things to prep are:
1. nipple cream for your waifu (if planning to BF, if going for formula, then dont need). please discuss with wife for this, dont pressure her for one way or the other. its definitely not an easy task.
2. if BF, a breast pump. recommend just ask from a friend. no point to buy a new machine. maybe just get new bottles and accessories.
3. swaddles/towels for wrapping or burping, or cleaning up vomit~
4. yuyi oil/minyak telon.
5. wet wipes (the big tube ones are better as easy to take out new wipes when holding the bebeh).
6. bathtub. for shampoos and such, i recommend getting those ones which have pump valve. so one hand can get the shampoo out. easier, unless its always a 2 adult activity.
7. cream for diaper rash. i used sudocrem, but i think so many out there.
8. bebeh nail clippers.
9. belly wrap thingie for their umbilical.
10. mental state - its gonna be crazy. everyones gonna be crazy. lolol. if possible, take as many annual leave as possible to get everything sorted out. get everyone settled in, make sure everything is purchased and comfortable, etc.

for the clothes i think you need more than 6 set. my boy went through like 2-3 sets a day. cause vomit, or pee/poo leak. or drool all over. if daily washing, then its ok. but if not, then i recommend to get a few more. dont need anything fancy, just a plain onesie.

if looking at PPSU bottles, then maybe can also look into bottle steriliser, i didnt use one because we used glass from the start so just boiled it. i think PPSU can also boil, but not sure its effect in long run.

good luck bro, and get ready for wallet to explode.

another random tip. research about baby poop; shapes, colours, etc. hahaha its gonna take over your life. hahahaha. its a very good baby health indicator.

hahaha. ya man. sometimes got whatsapp with my kids poop and both celebrate. especially after constipated 1-2 days. fuuu really stressful times.

Pump and feed breast milk via bottle. Maybe just prefers bottle.

any reason why doing the mix of BF & FM? if you ask enough, hard to say. if baby wanna drink can give her. if dont want, then dont need lor. its just a demand thing.

as for the crying, could be a number of things that will drive you crazy LOL. hot, cold, itchy, dont want to sleep, too quiet, too noisy. haha. good luck bro. welcome to fatherhood.

i think just wash in the washing machine is better. can use the baby detergent ABC or something, forgot. that works well.

Just follow the instructions on the milk packet. And adjust as necessary according to how much ml you really need. But keep it to the same ratios always.

can send her to a spa (some can also do house calls).

i just wanted to say that it seems you are doing a great job and working hard to ensure your household is running! respect bro.

relatives are always like that. everyone believes they can do better or they are better. just ignore and do your thing . cant give much advice because my kiddo still small and didnt reach that rebelious age yet

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i had 7-8 in each kidney. haha. 3 is ok lah. just do the shock treatment thing. will piss blood for a few days though. hopefully got some insurance coverage. if not just keep drinking ural/utix lor. good luck.

just some medication that helps break up stones so can pass naturally.