Dear dads,

I would like to ask if any of you know any of you hired full-time maids after you had your first child?

Or just send to the baby sitter?

The reason is my mom and my mom in law are both in Ipoh and they are quite old and hard for them to travel often. And it is also not ideal for me and my wife to drive back every weekend.

So, we are considering hiring a full-time maid or send our child to a reliable baby sitter.

Need some advice on this, and we are aware that Maid Agencies can be quite funny, tricky and super expensive.

Hi, since registration for new members is full I'm borrowing my friends forum acc.

This may bit over-boundaries question but i guess i can start here. Click on spoiler tag.

Gonna be a father in a few weeks time...wish me luck guys

Hi, Im a father of 2 ...super active children.
Boy and Girl.

Speaking in Jeremy Clarkson style
Some say - that they have batteries the size of a nuclear power plant and it is impossible to shut them down .
And if someone tried to shut them down, they will still produce even greater energy, greater than Iron Man.
All we know, they're called the Stig, I mean..Kids

Okay...about my children:
My girl - being 5..is both talkative and super active. And the circus ring leader.
My boy - being 3 , is the follower.

My question is, how to get them to just run out of "gas" as soon as possible.
I mean..just don't be too active. I know children being active is a good thing, but this... this is over the hill.
From morning till evening, without naps in between. Hardly. (It depends)

My daughter can never stop walking, climbing,touching anything.
But if we separate them then they will not misbehave. Like a obedient cat.

I don't remember myself being super active during my young age.
Some say that its because of the milk. (well I only drink regular Dumex during my time, not Sustagen or whichever 10X DHA milk)

Please don't flame me. I'm just finding a solution. My wife gets tired of them either screaming (or she screaming instead) or getting into an unwanted argument i.e daughter refuse to share toys with my boy then boy cries out loud...or worse..both.

sounds like you have it tough bro. they both feed off each others energy. so its kinda like being on constant recharge. i dont think there is a way to drain the battery or gas if they are together. but normally kids will begin really misbehaving after they get tired. so if they are full pedal from morning, i think they need to nap if possible. sometimes my son also going nuts but ask him to lie down and close his eyes and within few minutes already knocked out. if i dont ask him to lie down he can full throttle from 7am till 11pm nonstop. its kinda strange.

I'm not sure you're trolling here or what, it's serious section here.

Anyway, my wife miscarriage last 2 month ago. Let the past as a past, now planning to try again this year. Hope everything will go smooth.

We are expecting a baby girl in next two months.

So far the big item that we decided to get before the baby says Hello World :

Baby Bed - Ikea
Baby Storage - Ikea
Carrier + Isofix Base + Stroller - Chicco Bravo Set.

Any other suggestions what to prep beforehand for newbie daddy?

imho, i didnt use baby changing table.

for bb is NB - new born, cloths up to individual, some do not mind to use prelove from family members or friends or etc...

for milk bottles, depends how u n ur wife's arrangement, my wife full time house wife can bb direct latch so i only have a few only.

bb oil, bb diaper's cream can trial n error, most ppl use drapolene cream, my wife handmade them.

bb swaddle blanket, mittens and etc...

all the best ya

does anyone uses cloth napkins as diapers??

I guess its called lampin..

damn, i was nagged by my mom.

Anyone know what tonic should i gave to my wife during confinement?
I don't think the confinement centre will give chinese tonic to my wife.

Anyone have experience on this?
Something like huiji waist tonic?

These TCM is something like Eu Yan Sang? I'm not local here, so don't really know about TCM.

is it alright if i just use pampers??
i mean of course will change pampers for every 3 hours...
what the elders concern is the wet pampers will affect the butt, or private area,,

Father to be with MCO baby coming. Will definitely rely on this tread from now on.

Guys , my wife’s expecting . Birthday is in about a week. She is into 28weeks of pregnancy and has implied that she wants to sit and rest at home.
Am running out of ideas on what to get her as a gift.
Any suggestions at all? Something that would make her pregnancy more enjoyable maybe.

She’s not the jewellery kinda person

Hi fellow fathers..have 3 kids too..and one wife

Hai , how to subscribe this topic  ?

My wife is probably going through postpartum since the birth of our son. It has been almost 2 years now, and we have zero intimacy and talk less etc.

I have tried my best to be a good husband and father. I am always spending time with my son, and I make sure I help out with house chores.

Both of us are working. However, I have a larger workload due to my position and responsibility at my workplace. On top of that, I am also working hard on my freelance projects. All these, are for my son and wife - for a better future. That does not mean she is not busy. She is too, and that is why I make sure I am always around the house after work and during weekends.

We have not gone out for a meal for almost 2 years. We have not gone anywhere in fact...

Yes I am busy. But no matter how busy I am, I will always give her a foot massage before she goes to bed. However this has stopped for the last couple of mths as our arguments grew..

TV yes, I did that too. I got board games, but sadly we don't have the time. Sex is like a taboo too her now. Like I said, there's zero intimacy...So sex toy is definitely a no go.
I've been asking her out for almost two years now, and she just doesn't want to.

That's why I'm really lost at the moment. It's like whatever I initiated, gets shut down.

I even tried to explain to her that the baby sitter can help to tc of our son during one of the weekends so we could go out to spend some time together. Also got a no.

I've asked her to see a psychologist, gynae etc. Everything is a no. Hence, I stopped. I don't want to end up forcing her.

Its really driving me crazy. Even this morning while I was sweeping the floor while she was in the shower, I just broke down. I feel so useless.